AIBU? Football

[AMagdalena]

So me and DH are first time parents.
DH is a football fanatic, goes to all home matches and only stopped going to away matches recently when it got too expensive.
I am finding it difficult looking after DD all day long by myself (still fairly unputdownable) and she hasn't been very well in the last few days. I have no family here to help out.

Here's what gets on my nerves.
DH insists on going to all home matches no matter what, even after work which means me and DD are home alone (we do go out, like) all day long and don't see him for nearly 2 days straight.
Don't get me wrong, I know he also needs a break now and then, but here we are on our own again and DH went out on Saturday.
It's not really about him having a break either. He's just obsessed.
AIBU in thinking that sometimes he could give football a miss so DD gets to see him and I get a little breather? Like 30mins in the bath? Is it too much to ask?
It feels like football always comes first. He even wanted to go to football 3 days after DD was born.

Fruitcorner Thank you! Makes sense to lay down the rules now.

same here

dh is totally and utterly obsessed with football, he'd watch2 dogs playing with a tennis ball if they were on astroturf

he's a referee, both ds's play for youth teams, ds1 refs and ds2 wants to train as a coach (dh is a coach too)

I hate football

they all watch every game going and are in glasgow...oh and have season tickets...

My dad is exactly the same OP- i hated it growing up and still do now. We spend Boxing Day with them and he spends it at football, not seeing his grandchildren or children until the evening

in fact ds2 was off school today as he was so upset at last nights score he had a migraine...

ssd I hate football, too!

The funny thing is, though, that before spending some time my father-in-law I uses to enjoy watching the odd match on telly with my dad. FIL has totally ry

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FIL has totally ruined it for me

^*I dislike football and all the goes with it.
The laddish, mobbish, drinking , violence, sectarianism^

What a ridiculous thing to say. I watch football every week and none of those apply.
Some people are obsessed, the same as some people become obsessed with all sorts of things - from gaming to housework (have you read some of the threads on here??), but most people aren't. Most people can enjoy a hobby without becoming obsessed.

The OP's dh has made a massive compromise. He has stopped going to the away fixtures. That is a huge change, a massive drop in the time he previously spent on his hobby, in an acknowledgement to the change in their lives.

I dont like football as its boring and I can't follow it

but what I hate more is the pathetic snobbishness around football, as if its a working class thing we naice people wouldn't touch

ssd, I hear you.

In my case, it's purely the obssession around it that is putting me off.
My DH is certaily not 'laddish', hardly drinks and swears... Same goes for his dad.

Prehaps there would be less snobishness about football if many fans didn't act like pissed up idiots especially after matches.

out of the thousands who go to support a team, how many actually act like that Creambun2?

dh is the same op, doesn't drink, never wears team colours, just loves the team he supports

@Creambun2 but not all of them do. Just like not all mn-ers are man hating activists... don’t judge the many by the few

From the players to the fans, it's not exactly got a great reputation though has it