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To ask about pubic hair removal?

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cherrycola2004 · 31/10/2017 16:38

I’m quite new here not sure where to post this so feel free to move the post.

I just wonder if you remove your pink hair how do you do it? Shaving is making me so sore and itchy, hair removal cream doesn’t seem to work too well, Home waxing kit was pointless and pretty much just took my skin off (ouch!)

Is a proper wax the only way?

Any tips or tricks?

Thank

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Morphene · 01/11/2017 21:08

"I asked about whether you ever wax or shave your legs or pits or tashe, or if you ever dye or colour your hair, or if you ever paint or file your nails, or pluck your eyebrows, or if you have ever worn figure flattering clothes to attract a man."

Well I used to do some of these when I was young and insecure....now I'm all grown up and don't do anything to attract men.

Hairy pits, hairy legs, hairy fanjo, free range, eyebrows nails and an average yearly make up spend of around 10 quid (if you include replacing migratory nail clippers).

I have all the admirers I need or want.

MelodyvonPeterswald · 01/11/2017 21:09

I am flying the flag for women examining the reasons why behind their "choices" and also to be honest about the millenia of relentless conditioning that makes millions of women believe that belittling and insulting the natural state of women's bodies is the right thing to do.

speakout · 01/11/2017 21:11

laceup- but having pubic hair is the default position.

It just happens when you do nothing. It may not be a choice as such, and not something to "fly the flag" about.
Having pubic hair takes no effort, costs nothing.

You sound as if some women grow their pubes long to make a statement.
My pubes just are- and something I rarely think about. I keep them clean and that's it.
Works for me.

Laceup · 01/11/2017 21:11

Men are on the receiving end to ,back sac and crack wax can't be pleasant

Yettilegs11 · 01/11/2017 21:14

I see a few of my fellow yetis have surfaced although I won't be changing my name to yettifoof or yettiminge or anything similar!

MelodyvonPeterswald · 01/11/2017 21:14

What about the poor menz!!

Laceup · 01/11/2017 21:16

It's a personal choice why or why not someone removes public hair,entirely the persons own decision as it their body...it's neither right ,nor wrong to leave it or remove it..for all the people who remove it,there will be as many who don't...to be fair it's such a non issue ,it's pointless debating

TammyswansonTwo · 01/11/2017 21:17

Exactly speakout - it's just there. I don't think about it or need to think about it. Last time I had any thoughts about them were when I realised it's been a year since my section and the little tiny strip they shaved off has never grown back properly. How odd.

I'm so saddened by some of the comments here, truly. If you want to get rid of your hair that's obviously your prerogative but i feel some of the comments are rather disingenuous. Having a strip isn't going to prevent blood from getting trapped there and I believe that most women aren't going fully hairless down there.

When I hear stories from older friends of their teenage girls of 13 and 14 admitting they shave theirs and their friends do the same, I feel very sad. This pressure wasn't there 20 years ago when I was their age. It's not like shaving your legs or armpits, because this area isn't seen by anyone unless you're having sex with them.

MelodyvonPeterswald · 01/11/2017 21:21

I would go further, Speakout hair growth is not the default position it is the natural and healthy position.
We've been sold someone else's ideal of "beauty" and women "should" and "should not do" with their own bodies. We called bullshit and made illegal things like docking the tails of dogs because some Victorian breeder had decreed what "looked right" in their opinion. Unless we wake up and notice the conditioning and the profit and peverted motives behind this - we will all just continue sleep walking with an attitude of Who knows why anyone does anything?

Laceup · 01/11/2017 21:25

Oh yes totally agree with you melody ,that was awful,what sort of idiot decided it was a good idea to cut of a puppies tail...glad that's stopped..funny but I had a boxer dog as a child,without a tail.and they all have tails,they look weird to me..nice thou,..so I get your point totally about how we've been conditioned to not like the look of pubes.

DavidBowiesNumber1 · 01/11/2017 21:27

So Melody when you are menstruating and go to the loo, wipe yourself with paper and see blood, you are quite happy knowing that that blood has been smeared tgrough your lush pubes?
Fine for you if you are. Personally I DO find that gross. No/minimal hair, less mess

Laceup · 01/11/2017 21:29

Oh that's a bit below the belt David..

BertrandRussell · 01/11/2017 21:32

"I am flying the flag for women examining the reasons why behind their "choices" and also to be honest about the millenia of relentless conditioning that makes millions of women believe that belittling and insulting the natural state of women's bodies is the right thing to do."

This. Absolutely this. The whole idea that women's bodies need to be modified to make them acceptable. And I agree about the language. "Full minge""massive bush"- all the stuff about scaring other swimmers. It's so bloody sad.

MelodyvonPeterswald · 01/11/2017 21:33

See you've just summed up the power of conditioning with your words
funny but I had a boxer dog as a child,without a tail.and they all have tails now, they look weird to me

I don't know anything about dogs or breeding but I can relate to your sentiment here. Something becomes so normalised that we start to see the natural version as "weird" when it should actually be the other way round.

Your hair growing is a sign that you are healthy and well. But you have been conditioned to believe that it growing is sign that you are behind on a chore or that you must be depressed.

It's a lie sold to us by people making a profit or the porn industry that lhas now convinced us that liking adult hair on a human body is the obscure weird fetish.

We've sleep walked into this situation and we need to wake up.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 01/11/2017 21:34

I think you're right, maybe it is an age thing. Old people probably stop caring after a while! My husband would leave me if I grew a full bush! LoL

I don't think that it's we "stop caring" Bettermum - it's more that women didn't very often shave their bits even ten-twenty years ago. Fifty years ago, it would have been unheard of. Men found women's hairy fannies attractive - and many, young (from some of the comments on here) and old, still do.

speakout · 01/11/2017 21:34

DavidBowiesNumber1 you have a very unhealthy view of women's bodies,

DavidBowiesNumber1 · 01/11/2017 21:35

Oh that's a bit below the belt David..

BillywigSting · 01/11/2017 21:35

I recently tried growing mine out because I was getting fed up of the upkeep of shaving. My skin is too sensitive for hair removal creams and I'm too chicken to wax.

After about two weeks it was getting tangled up and cleaning myself after using the toilet was actually painful as I would always catch a tangle.

Then came rag week and the blood got stuck in it and it was generally just very uncomfortable.

So I trimmed it short with nail scissors. This felt prickly and itchy so I shaved it all off.

Now I'm not itchy, not getting my pubes yanked every time I go for a wee and don't get blood stuck in the hair.

It literally has nothing to do with how it looks, or porn (for me). It's purely the lesser of two evils.

BertrandRussell · 01/11/2017 21:36

Well I don't menstruate any more. But when I did I managed to keep myself perfectly clean. And if I hadn't been able to, some minimal hair removal around my vulva would have sorted the problem. Why would I have needed to remove all of it? Do people drag loo paper all over their mons?

DavidBowiesNumber1 · 01/11/2017 21:37

How so speakout?

Laceup · 01/11/2017 21:37

Totally porn to blame for it as well..hate porn with a vengeance,dread the thought of my sons being shown something sick that they think is normal

SchadenfreudePersonified · 01/11/2017 21:37

Someone has mentioned men having "back, sack and crack" waxing - and I know a lot of them have chest waxes these days. Personally, I hate to see a hairless chest, and wouldn't be keen to touch a bloke with hairless-other-places either.

Just me probably, but I like hairy men.

TammyswansonTwo · 01/11/2017 21:37

David, how do you think women survived this issue for the last couple of millennia up until, oh I don't know, two or three decades ago when this started to become fashionable? It's blood FFS, not excrement, and I'm pretty sure you shower everyday. And you could only avoid this issue if you removed all of your pubic hair, since the bit women tend to leave is directly adjacent to the blood. It's a red herring. I don't believe that menstruation is the reason that women en masse decided to start depilating their vulvas. Can't possibly think why that happened porn

Laceup · 01/11/2017 21:39

Russell,your a woman...bloody hell,I've seen you post on loads of threads and always assumed ..man

SchadenfreudePersonified · 01/11/2017 21:39

Well I don't menstruate any more. But when I did I managed to keep myself perfectly clean

Me too, Bertrand

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