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To think driving to roads where there's good trick or treating is a bit wrong

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sahknowme · 30/10/2017 23:38

We live in an area that puts a lot of effort into trick or treating (assumingly for the "local" kids). There's recently been a thread on a forum asking for streets/routes that are good to drive to for their kids to trick or treat, and our street has been mentioned.

AIBU to think this is a bit wrong/grabby, and we are doing it for our local area - not for randoms to drive from all over town?!

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PinkFinch · 31/10/2017 00:38

MrLoveBucket - possibly some kind of photo ID would be a good idea.

Or a two tier sweet system - naice sweets for locals, frogs legs/ dried slugs for "blow ins"

planetclom · 31/10/2017 00:43

God know part of being a good trick or treat Road is being famous for being a trick or treat Road otherwise you are meh and honestly in a couple of year when the children in you Road grow up a bit it will be shit and you won’t get trick or treaters.
It’s a two way street, we use to travel to friends in the States to the most amazing Road their sister lived on, it was bloody amazing all the householders made an effort and so did the trick or treaters. The neighbourhood had been built I t he 60’s and the young families had made a effort 40 years later their where only a few young families in the street, without the visitors they would have sat their without any knocks at their doors, we had lots of nice chats with householders heard about their families and them, some children lived thousands of miles away we for 1 night entertained and chatted to them.
By all means be a misery but don’t moan in a few years when the neighbourhood is no longer does stuff together because all your children have grown up and moved on.
Ditto Christmas lights.

MmmmmmBop · 31/10/2017 00:45

SonyaY that is disgusting behaviour from the adults in your neighborhood. Teaching local children they're entitled to better treatment because of where they live, and dehumanising non-local children as "blow ins" so that you can justify treating them so cruelly. Necklace cards ffs - so you actually open the door long enough to assess whether they have one or not, and then close it without giving a treat if they don't? Just get their hopes up and send them away as undeserving? What a bunch of assholes.

MrLovebucket · 31/10/2017 00:45

@PinkFinch - photo ID could be forged, I'd go with fingerprints or some kind of biometric identification

Definitely chocolate-covered sprouts for the ones from the other side of the tracks.

MrsOverTheRoad · 31/10/2017 00:46

Impossible it's shocking isn't it, how mean-spirited some people are?

I can't understand the selfishness! A bag of cheapo sweets or 5 will cost a few quid.

If you're not rolling in cash but want to participate, then just hand a couple to each child rather than letting the pick! Makes it go further and the kids won't mind.

GreatFuckability · 31/10/2017 00:48

Jesus Christ.

I get stuff in for trick of treaters. I don't give a shit if its the kids next door, or kids from the outer hebrides on my doorstep as long as they are having fun.
there is nothing wrong with wanting your kids to trick or treat somewhere where people will answer the door and get in the spirit.

MmmmmmBop · 31/10/2017 00:51

I really hope Sonya is a goady f and Merida is her sock puppet, I'd hate to think that people so mean as to think it's a great idea to tag little kids as deserving and undeserving, so as to avoid giving sweets to the 'wrong' ones, have anything to do with children.

Beeziekn33ze · 31/10/2017 00:55

Sonya, watch out for tricks from the undeserving visitors, you deserve them!
Would you really open your door to a hopeful child and say no to them? How very sad.

PinkFinch · 31/10/2017 00:56

MrLB - maybe a blood sample/ genetic test?

confused123456 · 31/10/2017 00:57

I think it's wrong to not give to children just because they don't live on your street or whatever it is.
Then again I hate Halloween, I don't agree with trick or treating, and for that reason I chose not to get involved at all.
Not that anyone even knocked last year anyway so, hopefully no one does this year.

PinkFinch · 31/10/2017 00:58

Can't get the idea out of my head of a blow in being some kind of fart gone wrong.

Just putting that out there ...

SonyaY · 31/10/2017 01:00

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MrLovebucket · 31/10/2017 01:00

maybe a blood sample/ genetic test?

I like your style @PinkFinch.

You can come trick or treating down my road any time you like *

  • subject to passing the iris recognition test and providing a (local) family tree tracing back to the 1600's
WellThisIsShit · 31/10/2017 01:02

Our neighbourhood is a dark expanse of pumpkin-less wasteland.

For years we didn’t go trick or treating as we couldn’t work out how to do it.

Last year someone let slip that a big square 5 mins walk away is The place to go, houses making a massive effort with two storey high decorations etc.

My little boy had SO much fun, knocking on doors. Being scrupulously polite and getting over his shyness to do a few bat swoops for the friendliest door openers Halloween Smile

Imagine if he was met with scowls after wrist checking and slammed doors in his face... Halloween Confused

TyneTeas · 31/10/2017 01:03

When my dc were ToT age, I would usually take them to my parents neighbourhood as not much going on in mine.

I'm Blush and Shock if that is some egregious breach of ToT protocol or etiquette

It's meant to be fun going around a few doors, not sure at what point it becomes otherwise Sad

BenLui · 31/10/2017 01:05

We live in the part of our town for guising. People go all out with decorations and there are hundreds of children going round the houses with pumpkins. It’s lovely.

We actually invite friends of ours from other streets to participate, and we’re not the only family to do so.

I love to recognise all the DC’s classmates under their masks and face paint.

I’d protest, really, really, really loudly if anyone suggested something as awful as ID cards.

You’d have to be completely bereft of the milk of human kindness to turn some tiny wee vampire or pirate away because they don’t have a card. SadAngry

I’m completely appalled that any group of adults would think that was ok.

PinkFinch · 31/10/2017 01:08

Sonya - what did the approved locals get? Rich food? Maybe some foie gras on toast or a couple of champagne truffles ....

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Standingcat · 31/10/2017 01:11

We live near to a convicted paedophile so no one does trick or treating, we go elsewhere but take sweets with us

RunningOutOfCharge · 31/10/2017 01:11

Poncey necklace cards!?!

That’s grim

PinkFinch · 31/10/2017 01:16

SonyaY - surely "candy" is an American thing? Not something for anyone from the UK, let alone a Shock council estate person.

Otherwise I cba to engage with you because you are either making this up or a bit of a snob

Want2bSupermum · 31/10/2017 01:23

Where I live if you gave monkey nuts to out of town DC I don't think you would make it. The neighbors would be running you out of town.

Haudyerwheesht · 31/10/2017 01:27

In our street we have our children egg anyone who isn't a neighbour. Rotten eggs naturally. It still costs me in eggs but it's worth it to see their poor (literally) council estate faces crumpled and covered in putrid yolk. Tbh it's more fun than the actual trick or treating for most of us. We tend not to bother with that we all just put money in a bowler hat and buy the children a pony each. Sweets are for stupid people.

Katedotness1963 · 31/10/2017 01:32

ID cards so council estate kids don't get treats? WTF?? That's depressing...

BenLui · 31/10/2017 01:35

Sonya really, really???

You don’t understand why kids from social housing come to a neighbourhood which can afford expensive decorations and huge bowls of sweeties?

Words fail me. I’m embarrassed on your behalf.

Personally if I didn’t have enough to go round I’d rather the kids with less day to day got the Halloween goodies.