To want a roast dinner?

[Figment1234]

Lighthearted. Kind of.

DH and I are staying at my in-laws for the weekend. They are lovely people but they aren’t the best at providing meals.

This morning DH suggested to me that we take them out for a Sunday pub lunch. I heartily agreed. I asked what we would do if they said they didn’t want to. DH’s response was that we would go out for one ourselves.

Conversation has now gone:

DH: we’d like to take you out for a pub lunch today. Shall I book it?
MIL: no thanks, we don’t want to. I’ve got a pack of frozen stir fry veg we can have for lunch.
DH: oh that will be lovely, thank you.

AIBU to be fuming at the lost roast dinner? We travelled here separately and my DH has made plans to do an activity with his brother this afternoon, which can’t involve me. Thinking of getting in the car as soon as polite, driving home and making my own bloody roast dinner!

[haveagobletofblood]

This is all lightheaded now, just wait til Christmas when you're one of those poor women posting a thread about being trapped at in laws for a fortnight being served one meal a day of half a sandwich.

[Figment1234]

No, I would say we’re about the same. I think it purely comes down to the fact that his DM sees cooking as a chore, whereas mine saw it as enjoyable! I’ve taken after my mum: nothing gives me more pleasure than cooking up a big meal for my guests. Different strokes for different folks I guess.

[BulletFox]

You've made me want to go to the local restaurant when it opens now

[Figment1234]

To be fair, last Christmas I posted a moaning thread about spending a miserable Christmas with my dad and his girlfriend which basically amounted to me being the kitchen scivvy, so apparently I can never be happy!

[overnightangel]

Maybe try being a grown up and appreciate that not everyone lives their life the way you want them to? You sound like a spoilt child

[Increasinglymiddleaged]

Maybe try being a grown up and appreciate that not everyone lives their life the way you want them to? You sound like a spoilt child

Right OK so whatever people do in their home as an adult you have to suck it up? I think that the OP's PIL are treating her and her DH like children, just expecting them to put up with them calling the shots on everything. But they are adults not children who presumably work so weekends/ Christmas are precious time off.

People yes can live their life how they like, including the OP.

[Council]

Think positively - the lack of effort is a compliment. You're family, they don't need to put on special "guest" dinners or arrange entertainment. They're doing what they do as a family and you're a welcome part of it.

[PoppyFleur]

Are you married to my DH?

My inlaws are lovely but are not used to hosting at all, the whole family (PIL & siblings) are like under socialised puppies. We drive over 3 hours to visit and don't even get offered a drink on arrival. Hot drinks are served at certain times, if you arrive in between tea/coffee 'rounds' you have to wait until the next one.

I now visit with drinks and snacks packed. Before children I used to view the weekend as part of a detox.

Oh and we also just boringly sit around doing nothing. I take a good book and catch up on my reading.

[WaitroseCoffeeCostaCup]

[puddleduckmummy]

I think YADBU, completely and wholly. Because I now want a roast dinner, with every possible trimming 😂😂 hope you enjoyed every morsel OP 🥘

[Turkkadin]

Whilst staying with my in-laws, everyone has a big Turkish breakfast around 10.30 and then nothing is forthcoming until around 8pm! The kids and I can't cope with it so I've taken to cooking our own meals whilst there. One evening nothing appeared at all as we all visited the local graveyard instead to pay our respects to the dead!

[FeelingAggrieved]

A pack of frozen stir fry veg or a roast dinner... I just can't decide. Yanbu. That's shit.

[FeelingAggrieved]

@Council there's positive and then there's oh come on! 😂