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Psychic told me to leave my DH

103 replies

icedwatermelon · 26/10/2017 22:53

I went to a psychic evening last weekend and the tarot card reader told me that basically my DH was being "unfair" to me, that we had a lot of issues but none of those were my fault and that she felt it was best that I move on as there was a brighter future without him waiting for me.

This was said infront of a room full of people, most of who I knew locally. She asked if I could relate to what she said and I said genuinely I couldn't - we are very happy and since having our last child have been in a really good place.

I've since found out that someone from the psychic evening has gone and told people what was said and has come to the conclusion that my DH is clearly having an affair and it's only a matter of time before we split.

My DH is incredibly upset and annoyed at the situation and said he wishes I had never gone. AIBU to contact the psychic (I have her card) and tell her how her words have impacted me and my DH??

OP posts:
LoverOfCake · 27/10/2017 11:53
LoverOfCake · 27/10/2017 12:01

As for saying that people take comfort from what they are told etc, wel it shouldn't be legal. Sorry but it shouldn't. I get that people go to these con artists because they desperately want to believe that they are contacting their deceased loved one, but to take someone's money and claim that they can do that is nothing short of exploitation of people who are at that point vulnerable.

Honestly if the deceased could contact their loved ones from beyond the dead they wouldn't need someone who claims to have a Hmm gift to the tune of £45 an hour or however much they charge to do so, they would be able to contact their loved one from wherever it is they'd gone. There is no such thing as a gift. The only gift there is is the gift of the fortune they're given to spout this bollocks in the first place.

As for the friends taking it all seriously and spreading rumours that the DH is having an affair, I would be laughing at them along the lines of "God, you don't believe that crap do you? It was just a bit of fun anyway, thought she was going to tell me I was going to win the lottery or something." Certainly don't give it any credibility by being annoyed about it, and the gossip will be replaced with something else by next week anyway.

ButchyRestingFace · 27/10/2017 12:11

Coiled spring or what, OP? Shock

Also it's the fact that someone in that room has taken what she said has gospel and spread it around which has upset me!

The "psychic" isn't responsible for someone else deciding to run their mouth off, are they? Take it up with the gossip mongerer.

Or, alternatively, forget all about it.

VladmirsPoutine · 27/10/2017 12:11

Do you happen to live in a 16th century village? Are witches still being burned?

VladmirsPoutine · 27/10/2017 12:12

Tell them that's there's a small medium at large.

Grin
Isetan · 27/10/2017 13:09

This wouldn’t be an issue if someone hadn’t of spread malicious gossip, in addition to your naievity about having a reading and a public one at that. You didn’t have to participate.

I do not believe in psychics but if you are going to participate in the charade of someone predicting the future, you can hardly expect to only hear positive news.

Being on the receiving end of gossip is not nice but your anger at the psychic is misplaced.

Mittens1969 · 27/10/2017 13:10

The OP was incredibly stressed out and flounced because she felt people weren’t reading the thread. I think that her friends were stirring the pot and if she was reacting in RL the way she was on this thread, it’s easy to see why they were doing it. Unkind, of course, but if she and her DP had laughed it off, there wouldn’t have been an issue at all.

PoppyPopcorn · 27/10/2017 13:15

People with a ‘true’ gift for want of a better word aren’t ‘allowed’ to give bad news or other negative stuff

There is not such thing as a true gift - it's all bullshit and rubbish.

gamerchick · 27/10/2017 13:49

Well to be fair poppy you dont believe in an awful lot of things do you? so your opinion means very little to me Wink

BertrandRussell · 27/10/2017 13:52

Loving the idea of a cosmic code of conduct......Grin

gamerchick · 27/10/2017 14:02

Ah it’s harmless. It’s actually a nice little thing to live by. Don’t set out to harm, hurt or upset. Send out positive to get positive back type of thing. Something a lot of us including me probably should take more notice of.

messyjessy17 · 27/10/2017 14:04

People with a ‘true’ gift for want of a better word aren’t ‘allowed’ to give bad news or other negative stuff

Even if they had a "gift", which they don't, that doesn't make sense. Allowed by who? And if so, doesn't that make it meaningless? Only telling you nice things, sure any of us could do that.

These people are either purposely conning you or deluded enough to believe it themselves. Either way you should steer clear,

Butterymuffin · 27/10/2017 14:08

Just laugh it off and tell all the 'concerned' friends gossips to come back in 20 years and ask you and your DH about the truth of it then - you're not worried. Then wait it out. There'll be another 9 day wonder along soon enough.

NerrSnerr · 27/10/2017 14:17

Psychics of all types have a moral responsibility not to cause alarm or hurt to their 'clients'.

I’m not sure many psychics have any moral responsibility. If they did they wouldn’t make money from taking a load of bollocks. Maybe the deluded ones do?

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 27/10/2017 14:28

Ah,the psychics do no harm ethos were they are morally bound & accountable.uphold the psychic registered and trained behavioural standards and maintain the practice of comment for cash

DorisDangleberry · 27/10/2017 14:28

Love the idea of a psychic code of conduct. Bit like honour amongst thieves I suppose.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 27/10/2017 14:44

I bet this psychic couldn't tell you tonight's winning euro millions, could she.
Load of old cobblers.
Perhaps she fancied your dh. Grin
(Lighthearted, obviously)

rumginger · 27/10/2017 14:57

So this OP just came on, focused on a minority of comments that were not quite what she wanted to hear, then exploded at everyone and flounced off. Grin

LurkingHusband · 27/10/2017 15:02
NearLifeExperience · 27/10/2017 15:33

I see what you did there, Lipstick Grin

Notsofunnythesecondtime · 27/10/2017 17:17
LadyOfTheCanyon · 27/10/2017 21:36

I studied Tarot when I was younger. I really enjoyed it ( because I like symbolism and archetypes and so on). I was really good at doing readings for people because in the main people are credulous idiots who are just looking for an excuse to absolve themselves of their terrible choices.
I never took money for a reading and I never told anyone the truly terrible things that the cards were sometimes suggesting - not from any secret woo handshake omerta law, but just because I couldn't be arsed with the fallout.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 27/10/2017 23:03

Nearlifeexperience, what can I say I’m easy amused🙂

LurkingHusband · 28/10/2017 00:24

I studied Tarot when I was younger

I learned to cast a horoscope by hand ... epheremis, book of houses .. the lot.

LadyOfTheCanyon · 28/10/2017 02:35

Ha! Me too. In the days pre Internet as well where you couldn't just pop a date/time into a website and get a horoscope done for you. When I think of all the time I spent not going out and drinking and having sex but sitting in reading about nodes and nadirs I could weep Grin