Psychic told me to leave my DH

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I went to a psychic evening last weekend and the tarot card reader told me that basically my DH was being "unfair" to me, that we had a lot of issues but none of those were my fault and that she felt it was best that I move on as there was a brighter future without him waiting for me.

This was said infront of a room full of people, most of who I knew locally. She asked if I could relate to what she said and I said genuinely I couldn't - we are very happy and since having our last child have been in a really good place.

I've since found out that someone from the psychic evening has gone and told people what was said and has come to the conclusion that my DH is clearly having an affair and it's only a matter of time before we split.

My DH is incredibly upset and annoyed at the situation and said he wishes I had never gone. AIBU to contact the psychic (I have her card) and tell her how her words have impacted me and my DH??

So she “predicted” you’d have problems in your marriage and look, lo and behold, you’ve got problems and people perceive that you’ve got problems. It’s not rocket science is it?

Whichever friend took that 'info' and chose to run with it has been a dick.

The card reader was also a dick.

For all those who don't hold stall by this sort of thing, there are many who do, and for whom it brings much comfort.
Psychics of all types have a moral responsibility not to cause alarm or hurt to their 'clients'. This isn't to say the cards aren't to be read honestly, but I do think this 'psychic' was reading for effect. She had no way of being that specific.

You don't think the psychic was primed in any way do you?

You seem surprised that some people at the event believe in psychics. Or that people would talk about what happened.

You knew it was psychic before you went, you could have refused. You could have told her you didnt want a reading or stopped her.

You may not believe in it. But some people who attend these things do. That's why they go.

It can only impact you marriage if you and dh let it.

Also there has to be at least a few mners wondering if your dh is pissed off cause its true

You had a “psychic” reading in public. What did you expect to happen?? Of course people were going to gossip about what was said.

Sorry to sound rude OP, but there is a very slight possibility; just VERY slight, that the 'psychic' was talking a load of shit.

I don't disbelieve that a few people have psychic tendencies, and I am fairly open minded, but I don't believe for a fleeting second that these people who CHARGE MONEY for 'psychic readings' are actually psychic.

'Do you know anyone called Dave or Paul or John........?' Almost every fucker knows a Dave or a Paul or a John.

They pick on obvious shit, and manipulate you. They're clever, I'll give them that; but they're not psychic, and it's disgusting that they are allowed to mislead people.

If your 'psychic' said go and drown yourself, would you do that?

Honestly OP I'd take no notice she acted with great disrespect to say that to you so that everyone else could hear and if she really did have the Gift(we don't call it a fucking gift in my family ) she'd know that you shouldn't do a group reading if she really has picked up on something it could have been from one of the people that were sittting near you in the same room.

She's been a bloody idiot,please take no notice and if you do find out who's been spreading the womens nonsense around I'd be giving them an earful

Methinks that someone is trying to upsurp your relationship with your DH - either because they are jealous and/or fancy him for themselves. The psychic was out of line- but she could have been paid to say things. She has planted a seed - which could lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy. Stay positive and stay away from the friends who too you there for a few weeks. See what happens.

A genuine psychic - and I know everyone will say there’s no such thing! - would never, ever say something like that.

I'm off this thread now because people seem incapable of reading.

MY FRIEND ORGANISED IT WE TAKE IT IN TURNS EACH WEEK TO ORGANISE SOMETHING - I HAD NEVER BEEN DIDNT KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT.

I STOPPED HER, I TOLD HER I COULDNT RELATE TO ANYTHING SHE WAS SAYING

ME AND DH ARE FINE, HES JUST PISSED OFF THAT PEOPLE ARE GOING ROUND SAYING HES HAVING AN AFFAIR

Hope the capital letters help. bye 👋🏻

I believe in 'woo' and am a 'woo' practitioner. I have a bit of a talent for palm reading -and stuff-- for instance (came in very useful to pass the time when a flight was cancelled as an entertainment).

I would never say such a thing in front of anyone else! How unethical, and as an unethical act they could only have been playing for effect. I once got a strong sense my young client was pregnant. Did I say in front of her mother? No. I waited until the mother left then asked the
client. She'd only taken the test the day before and told her mother that morning.

Because of how it was announced I'd go for 'fake attention seeking shit-bag' rather than oracle. Start saying that as loud and proud as she determined your marriage's state.

No weird 'woo' person that I know would do this. And I know a few.

NoCry is right, your reaction (and DH's) is what's doing the damage here. Surely you can set the record straight with anyone who wishes to mention it and was not there. You're giving the silly psychic more power than she should have.

Sure she doesn't know your husband and want him for herself?

If there’s no problems with the marriage, don’t get pissed off, just get rid of the mate chatting shit.

HTH.

I STOPPED HER, I TOLD HER I COULDNT RELATE TO ANYTHING SHE WAS SAYING

You could have stopped her before she started 'i dont want a reading' would do it.

ME AND DH ARE FINE, HES JUST PISSED OFF THAT PEOPLE ARE GOING ROUND SAYING HES HAVING AN AFFAIR

But he isnt and your fine. So why let gossips ruin it for you both. You both need to get your heads out your arses.

Most of us are trying to help. A few of us are even 'woo'.

I think you need to chill out.

If you and DH know you are good, then what some charlatan says means nothing. And the people spreading gossip mean less than nothing. It's a 9 days wonder and will die away when it's seen that you and DH are just fine and the next juicy bit of scandal lies raises its ugly head. If you make a stink, people will believe you're trying to cover up your (nonexistent) problems.

"Let the dogs bark, the caravan passes on"

I'm "woo". You're taking this very seriously OP. Now why is that? Hmm.

Cracking up here!! So funny!

Well, she's an irresponsible idiot. There are two categories of woo-peddler: the deluded but well-meaning (who generally won't say anything upsetting in such strident terms because they think it's unethical) and the scammers, who usually won't say anything this clear-cut because they want to lure you back for more.
Probably this one was both a scammer and a newbie, and someone else local had given her some dodgy information (perhaps because that local person fancies your H or has some other reason for wanting to fuck up your marriage) and the scammer, being inexperienced/overconfident, ran with it.
Either way, laugh it off and put it behind you. If any friends ask, say 'Surely you don't think I'm daft enough to believe all that crap.'

This is interesting.

In some threads, when the OP gets a variety of responses, they focus on the useful and positive ones and generally the momentum of the thread becomes positive.

In some the OP reacts badly to the few goady/over-critical ones and then the thread becomes negative or derailed.

OP you have done the latter here to your own thread - and in your RL in reaction to this utter bollocks the ‘psychic’ was spouting.

The main thing you can glean from this is stop reacting, stop pouring energy into the problem. I can understand it’s infuriating to have bullshit lies so casually attached to you but the only thing you can do is laugh it off.

Maybe there was something about you that made the ‘psychic’ feel threatened or like she wanted to undermine you. What an arsehole, whatever her motivations were.

Please step back and laugh about this crap and let it blow over.

People can be idiots but don’t let that drag you into the fray.

Leave it, laugh about it - it'll blow over in no time. Unless the psychic is shagging your DH?! KIDDING!! It's all a load of bollocks and I'm astonished they still thrive in this day and age.

A "psychic " told my mil my babies would be born safely and be healthy.
I lost them at 23 weeks.
It really upset us both that she'd said that.

because it was announced in front of her community fanciedachange17 ?

Not an easy thing to live with. I'm so glad some of the readings I've personally had were private.

Perhaps the OP needs to have a think about any misgivings. The readings I've had have been so spookily true that my DH has requested I not have more I will ignore him but I know my sister has had a reading that proved very, uninkindly, untrue.

So sorry @whereisforever