AIBU to expect my daughter to have privacy

[WorriedandExhausted]

I am sat in A&E with my daughter (medical student)

So far 8 of her tutors have come to check if she is okay, and I just wish they would leave her alone.

They are not directly involved in her care, and I think my daughter needs privacy. Or am I too emotional and they are just being caring?

She probably is scared because she doesn't want to become hospital gossip so is keeping what happened a secret.

She doesn't want to be the doctor who got beaten up (or whatever happened)

Your right that you need to give her a bit of space but it's also important if you can to try to help her to get herself safe from this animal.

Once she out of hospital can she come and stay at yours for a couple of nights, then you can try to make her feel safe to open up and help her take the next steps needed.

Thank you for all the hand holding.

She is very unhappy about having to have a break from university, but has agreed to spend the week with me.

someone brought her some extra reading, since she is going to have so much spare time. Her colleagues may be showing concern, but now she is more alert and talking she is embarrassed and angry.

DD, says her life is ruined and she is going to never ever catch up, and this is why she never sought help. I think its just all her emotions catching up with her.

Even if she doesn't, so what! If she has to she can repeat the year.

This is her life. There's time for her to get to where she needs but she needs to be ok both physically and mentally if she's ever going to be able to do that.

She has to be alive to have a life! Her health and wellbeing are paramount if she ever wants to have a nice life.

I'm glad she has you. [hanhold]

Sorry Iv read this over and it sounds less supportive than I meant!

All I meant is whatever is going on (esp with work) is not more important than she is.

It might mean putting things on hold or changing how her "road" looks while she gets herself to a place where she is safe and happy buts that's ok, because there is plenty of time.

Ginkypig

:) Please dont worry about it. I understood what you meant and I completely agree with you. Her safety and well being are the main priority. I am not sure how that will look in the future, but I am hoping to be guided by my daughter

The police spoke to her, and I don't know has evolved into "I wont say"

Work-wise she'll be fine.
I imagine the tutors suspect something as that's a lot of people.
I managed to have major bowel surgery as an emergency in my own trust without any of my colleagues coming to see me! and I've been qualified over 10 years!
I'm glad they have her back but I hope she will not feel embarrassed or ashamed afterwards as seeking help in the future might then be harder. You are right she needs her confidentiality.

I hope she's able to open up to you and to leave this horrible man - so that there is no next time.

Whilst on one hand she needs confidentiality, on the other hand she needs support. Domestic violence is thankfully less of a taboo than it used to be. She has nothing to be ashamed of, and looking at it from the outside this experience will eventually help make her a better doctor. I hope in time she gets the help she needs to get away from this relationship and I wish you both all the best for the next week.