Straw-poll please - Do you make breakfast for your DH /DP?

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I told DH at 8am I would put this on MN and give him feedback, but he has no clue about this really.

I do usually make him breakfast in the mornings because I'm doing it for the DC as well, so fine. However, we're now into the second week of half-term which means I don't strictly need to be up at 6.30, but I'm kind of in the habit and the cats need feeding anyway. So this morning I had made him poached eggs with salmon on muffins and this is what he actually said to me - "Is there no hollandaise sauce with this?"

Firstly, as if anyone can be bothered to be faffing with egg yolks that early. Secondly, I told him most people would be lucky to get breakfast made for them at all. I don't think I am BU, but could MN please confirm that he is on his own planet to even ask such a question?

Thankyou.

I make breakfast for dh less than ten times a year, he makes mine about twice as often

Also has he said to you "why don't you stay in bed and I'll feed the cats" If not, why not?

DH has brought me breakfast in bed or I him for nearly 30 years. Sometimes I will make waffles and we eat as a family but most of the time it's breakfast in bed.

hahahahahha

No. Everyone is on their own in this house. Kids have been able to make their own breakfast since they were tiny!

Another no here, other than coffee. For us making each other breakfast is for special occasions. And it's a reciprocal thing. You sound across between his maid and his mother.

Tomorrow morning, have a lie in.

And stop cooking him breakfast. Look there’s nothing wrong with both of you sometimes doing a nice breakfast for each other IF it’s reciprocated. If it’s not, you can stop.

The can’t cook and clueless stuff is ridiculous. An adult male who can’t source his own food? Who holds down a professional role, but insists cooking is beyond him? What he means is ‘it’s womens work and below me.’

I hope he’s got a seven figure income and is hung like a horse because frankly otherwise he sounds pathetic. Perhaps point out to him that Menfolk used to hint mammoth, and that there’s nothing less sexy than having an incapable manchild around the house to play mummy to. I’m sure he can can use a toaster in he morning.

Hunt mammoth. I doubt hinting would have worked :)

“Excuse me? Yes you, large mammoth bull... I don’t suppose you could just pop yourself on this spear could you? No? Ok sorry to have troubled you...”

Not a bloody chance .

He gets up at 3.30 am to be at work at 4 , I either leave for work at 4am , or I haven't got in until 2am , or I'm on nights . And my two rest days are sacred . He wouldn't dare wake me , ever .

DCs occasionally get fed a cooked breakfast by me in the case of a kitchen mishap, like when DD managed to knock the whole bowl of sixteen eggs off the top of the microwave and crack the lot , so everyone had scrambled eggs , but no , it's not usual. They're happy enough with Weetabix and banana .

Nope. He's a grown up and I'm not his mother.

We love breakfast here. My lovely DH always makes me weapons grade coffee, every morning without fail (if he's in the country of course) and tea throughout the day

I like to make an effort with breakfast quite often with pancakes/waffles/eggs/crumpets. It's a joint effort, probably 70% me cooking. I'm a better cook.

I'd put his hollandaise sauce question down to being groggy in the morning - if he's generally helpful and proactive. If he's generally a lazy twat then I'd serve him something arsenic laced for breakfast.

Cheeky bugger! We all see to ourselves but DH brings me a cuppa in the morning before he goes to work & he sometimes makes pancakes on a Sunday.

DH and I have never made each other breakfast. We each sort ourselves out.

All three DDs also sort themselves out.

I can't believe how much trouble you are going to to cook him breakfast, which he doesn't seem to really appreciate anyway. Just stop. What is wrong with a bowl of cereal or some toast?

If I ask him to do something for me, he will nearly always do it without moaning, like on the weekend, he was backwards and forwards to the tip because I had cleared stuff out. He can be very thoughtful, but he's always had this behaviour of just expecting food to be served to him with no input from him. He gives off an air of being too preoccupied to get involved - that's how I would explain it.

DH has 'nearly' always made his own breakfast. Holidays are the exception.
I most usually Don't eat any breakfast bar a fresh juice via home juicing machine of mostly green veg... DH doesn't want green juice lol

My dc make their own breakfast and occasionally I do bigger/cooked breakfast so dh would get one in that scenario. I make lunch and dinner so dc aren’t too hard done by. Dh often make me a coffee in the morning.

To all those who say they don't ever make each other breakfast. What if you're doing a cooked breakfast, would you not do it for both of you? Seems strange not to.

Yes I do, but only once a year on father's day.

No, both work Ft and out door at diff times.
At weekend we’ll take turns,cause we’re relaxed and not working

DP doesn't eat breakfast. He will usually make me a bacon sarnie and a cuppa on a Sunday morning though 😊😍
(I do the same if I've not kicked him out of bed first I'm up with the children)

We have cooked breakfast maybe twice a year. I’m not a morning person and prefer fruit and yoghurt or porridge. I made dc pancakes as a treat and they scoffed them then asked for their “real” breakfast. Fry up can be brunch in this house but that’s instead of lunch. Also 2 dds don’t like eggs. It gets too complicated.

He doesn't make the DC breakfast? What happens if they're downstairs and hungry and you're not around? Or has this never happened?

charmed if we're having a cooked breakfast, some of the time we'll be doing it together as a joint enterprise, so no one is making it specifically for the other person.

I must be a miserable git as I've never made breakfast for my ex or any partners. I don't eat breakfast so that's probably why.

No we make our own. Whoever is up first makes the coffee for us both and the kids breakfasts although they can make their own too.

On the weekends we might do each other breakfast occasionally but generally, no we don't.

My cooked breakfasts happen at lunch . By which time , he's usually finished work , and consumed at least one bacon roll , two slices of cake from various customers , and is a bit full . But if he's had a thin day , foodwise , he might get something for lunch before his afternoon nap .