AIBU to worry about little boy?

[KarmaStar]

Hello,
I would like sensible advice please.
Our house is a semi detached with our back doors very close to each other,just a fence separating us.
Our young neighbours are a lovely couple who very much keep themselves to themselves which we are fine with.
When their little boy refuses to stay in bed at bed time he is taken outside and told to stay there until he behaves and he hammers on the locked door screaming and crying.after about ten minutes he is allowed back in.
When he misbehaves we can hear mum shouting through the walls.she tells him to get a bag and pack all his stuff,his clothes and toys as he has to go for being naughty.he is screaming and clearly very distressed.at other times I hear her really bellow at him that she doesn't like or want him and that he is a horrible boy and he can get out of the house for good.
The majority of the time they are a lovely family but when she lets rip the little boy(3/4 yr old)is screaming in fear and distress,it's heart breaking.
I feel terrible for writing about them as most of the time they appear like a normal loving family.should I just continue to ignore these incidents?
He used to be a sunny natured child but now is often angry,breaking things and shouting a lot.
I don't know if I should say or do anything or just mind my own business.

Clearly they aren't really coping with parenthood for some reason or other. How little my gas this been going on?

I still don't understand why a police offer of 20 years wouldn't know the answer to this, why she has asked a group of random strangers from the Internet instead of seeking colleagues advice??

AnxiousAngela, only yesterday she was a hotel worker who had year's of experience, on the thread about ppl wearing pyjamas to breakfast. If she is a police officer she would have more knowledge than most about who to contact and what to do.

Well on the 16th October this year she posted a thread about being a police officer for 20 years, walking the beat and how wrong it is for children to be scared of the police by parents saying they are going to tell them off and so on.
The grammar and punctuation was awful and it all merged into one long rant to be honest but it's odd that in a profession like that she doesn't know what to do with a possibly abused child

I know, saw it, the post about hotel worker, was about women coming down in the night in see through clothing 😕. I'm fairly new on here, but does sound a bit strange.

Report it. Poor little boy. How awful. I wouldn't even put my son on the bottom step of the stair case when he's playing up, as I know he scares easily and would be scared to be left in the next room let alone locked outside! Not that it would cross my mind to do something like that!! Just because he's not being hit etc doesn't mean it's any less abusive. You have to speak up for his sake.

MiraiDevant thank you for your comments. It is tough. I 100% agree. We are lucky because our son is adopted we gave gotten a lot of extra help. But I have heard from adopters who get zero help.

YES I agree, please ask Mumsnet to start a campaign Real help for real parents or Real help for real issues. Children (to quote dear Witney) are our future. If we (society) fail them then the cost for police/prison service/NHS/social services on future generations will be astronomical!

Kala sorry the nob head (in my view) was whoever told you you did not need help. I totally get how frustrating it is. My dd has been hard work. I have threatened to call the police, once, but mostly shouted, I've lost my temper etc etc.

I've done lots of parenting courses. I've been lucky I work part-time only and could access them.

To be honest you do not sound like the parents in the opening post at all. Putting a ten year old on the garden to calm down is not like locking a 3/4 in the garden on the evening when they beg to come back on. A referral to social services will get them the help they need or get the child the parents/caters he needs.

We adopted our son after he was taken into care, he was three, his birth parents could not meet his needs. I not a perfect patent at all and children are usually only taken into care as a last resort.

Why would I recommend NSPCC? Because if you are unsure they can offer advice and do it anonymously. On this case I think social services may be better because this issue is so serious.

Yep report!! This is similar sounding to my childhood and trust me they were doing worse than what neighbours could see and hear. I’m not sure what ss would do exactly but maybe it would have made my parents think a little more about their behaviour.

Poor little mite, he needs to be taken away from that vile parents. Report to SS, meantime if you hear any more r f he's locked out again, lease contact the police. No wonder they are withdrawing, they are abusing, the less they are in contact with people the better for them.

Thanks italian