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Original poster

Dh sent ds 8&4 into a shop while he drove off to another

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user1471501171 · 23/10/2017 15:00

My 4 yr old just told me that my dh dropped himself and his older brother off at a hardware shop to buy some stuff for him while dh drove off to the supermarket a mile away to buy some groceries! This happened yesterday while I was working. My dh never mentioned it last night when we were talking about our respective days.
U have txt him what do said, asking if do was mistaken. But have not had an answer back.
AIBU to think this is completely unacceptable and very dangerous?

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NotAgainYoda · 23/10/2017 15:21

This isn't on.

An 8 year old should not have the responsibility of looking after a 4 year old as well as himself

DH should not have been a car-ride away from either of them

ownedbySWD · 23/10/2017 15:24

Hoping it didn't actually happen the way your 4yo describes..

SpaghettiAndMeatballs · 23/10/2017 15:24

well, an 8 and a 4 year old while you nip into the shop - that I can't get that wound up about - happened to me as a kid, I probably wouldn't do it now, but with the right 8 and 4 year old OK.

Leaving them at a shop, unless it's grandparent's shop or something similar - no, not with a 4 year old - confident 8 year old alone, OK, but having the 8 year old and the 4 year old tips it over for me - even with my relatively sensible kids.

diddl · 23/10/2017 15:26

It doesn't make sense really, does it?

Leave them at one shop & going to another??

Are they so hard to get into a car/control in a supermarket???

noblegiraffe · 23/10/2017 15:26

I've got an 8 year old and a 4 year old and I might let the 8 year old look after the 4 year old (maybe looking at toys or magazines) when I went to a different aisle to get something, but I'd be really quick about it. Leaving the shop is appalling!

Original poster
user1471501171 · 23/10/2017 15:31

Panic over. 4 yr old was joking. Will take me a while to recover.Blush

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ProperLavs · 23/10/2017 15:33

what the hell?

Pengggwn · 23/10/2017 15:33

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kaytee87 · 23/10/2017 15:34

Strange joke for a 4yo to make, are you sure he didn’t see how upset you were and backtracked?

Namechangetempissue · 23/10/2017 15:35

Thank god for that OP! DH obviously isn't a dick after all! My cousin at age 5 told his teacher his dad used to tie him up in the shed ShockConfused. He didn't, cousin had seen a cartoon on tv (tom and jerry I think) and copied that with added imagination Grin

Boysarebackintown · 23/10/2017 15:40

I agree with kaytee above. I hope you are right OP but can't help thinking your 4yr old is worried about your reaction and has changed story.

DeadDeadDeadRose · 23/10/2017 15:46

I think I'd check with your 8 year old before coming to any conclusions - I assume that's what you've done?

EnglandKeepMyBones · 23/10/2017 15:46

That’s a very odd joke for a 4 year old to make. What did your husband and your 8 year old say?

KoalaD · 23/10/2017 15:48

Meh. I know a 3.5-year-old (not mine) who would make that up. Just for something to say.

nameusername · 23/10/2017 16:01

I hope your text to DH wasn't accusatory. With Christmas round the corner, please gift your 4 year old "The Boy Who Cried Wolf". If he already have one, dig it out and make it his bedtime story.

tempstamos · 23/10/2017 16:19

@user1471501171

Why would you be with a guy you think so poorly of?
You immediately assumed this would be something he would do, taking your 4 year olds really unlikely story as truth without even talking to your husband.
My 4 year old told me that his daddy cut the legs off the dog yesterday, hes 4, it was a joke and I knew that immediately. I wouldnt be with him if I thought he was capable of chopping our dogs legs off.

Original poster
user1471501171 · 23/10/2017 16:23

I cornered the older chap the minute he got in the door and asked him straight out if dh had left them on their own at the shop. Ds 1 is straight as a die and couldn't lie to save is life so I believe him. Younger ds, however, can lie very convincingly. We have had issues in the past where he has lied to get himself out of trouble. But I never imagined he would make up a story just for the craic.
I'll be having a serious conversation with him later about lying. It's something both dh and I feel very strongly about.
Thanks to all who replied. It was great to hear IWNBU.Grin

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geekone · 23/10/2017 16:51

That gave me a laugh. Your little DS sounds like a character. Just remember lying at this age is a sign of intelligence (and an interesting few years ahead for you)Grin

52FestiveRoad · 23/10/2017 18:25

My DD once totally convincingly told my ILs that I spent all day drinking in a pub, I had never even been in it. I told them it was just a story but I think to this day they still actually believe it! Sometimes kids can be really accomplished little liars!

ImListening · 23/10/2017 18:33

Your youngest dc must be related to mine.

When aged 3&half at gps she told them very convincingly that ‘daddy left me at the shops & drove away while I was running after him’. Cue omg what happened then - ‘ I stood up & walked home all on myself.’ All 8 miles of it!

Or the time they were apparently locked in their bedroom & they had to use the phone to call grandma in an emergency. There is no phone in their bedroom.

GP’s believed them both times!

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