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Original poster

Dh sent ds 8&4 into a shop while he drove off to another

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user1471501171 · 23/10/2017 15:00

My 4 yr old just told me that my dh dropped himself and his older brother off at a hardware shop to buy some stuff for him while dh drove off to the supermarket a mile away to buy some groceries! This happened yesterday while I was working. My dh never mentioned it last night when we were talking about our respective days.
U have txt him what do said, asking if do was mistaken. But have not had an answer back.
AIBU to think this is completely unacceptable and very dangerous?

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DunkMeInTomatoSoup · 23/10/2017 15:03

How old is the older brother ? 5? 15? 25?

whirlyswirly · 23/10/2017 15:03

No, of course you aren't being unreasonable. Mine are a good few years older and I'd never do that. The 8 year old is not old enough to be responsible for himself, never mind a four year old brother. Has he got form for this level of stupidity?

araiwa · 23/10/2017 15:03

Is older brother 5 or 25?

Kinda important detail

Namechangetempissue · 23/10/2017 15:03

Expecting an 8 year old to look after the 4 year old alone in a shop is completely unacceptable and I would be furious. Especially as the dad had driven off to another store and wasn't in the vicinity at all. What a dick.

Pengggwn · 23/10/2017 15:04

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Namechangetempissue · 23/10/2017 15:04

It says in the title older brother is 8

DunkMeInTomatoSoup · 23/10/2017 15:04

Where does it saay the older brother is 8?

kaytee87 · 23/10/2017 15:04

Not acceptable of him to expect an 8 yo to be in charge of a 4 yo especially as he was a mile away and could be some time doing shopping.

DunkMeInTomatoSoup · 23/10/2017 15:05

I thought it was a 'quote &*&^% typo Grin

araiwa · 23/10/2017 15:05

I wish mn would fix title formatting on mobile

scurryfunge · 23/10/2017 15:06

Do you think the 4 year old may have got muddled up?

araiwa · 23/10/2017 15:06

Only me and dunk on mobile then?! Grin

DunkMeInTomatoSoup · 23/10/2017 15:07

I love the way the threads apper here, whilst a text is in transit, the DH hasnt replied, yet a harpy has already announced he is a dick

Crunchymum · 23/10/2017 15:07

I would be beyond livid. That is just not on.

Namechangetempissue · 23/10/2017 15:07

No, on mobile here too?

Dh sent ds 8&4 into a shop while he drove off to another
KoalaD · 23/10/2017 15:08

YANBU.

Unless you're missing out some important detail, like you live in a one-horse town and the shopkeeper is your sons' godfather.

EverythingEverywhere1234 · 23/10/2017 15:08

The OP has clearly stated the older child's age in the title; the older child is 8.
No, OP, YANBU. I don't think that's even remotely a sensible thing for your DH to do. It is quite dangerous really, having thought about it. I would be pretty unimpressed.

Namechangetempissue · 23/10/2017 15:09

He IS A DICK if he left them. If not, then he obviously isn't. Not hard to figure out. Signed Harpy x

araiwa · 23/10/2017 15:09

On the actual thread is ok but frontpage screws up

BarbaraofSevillle · 23/10/2017 15:10

He left an 8 YO and a 4 YO at a hardware store? Shock.

What could possibly go wrong?

And I'm one of them that would pop over to the Post Office if I was literally going to be out of the house a minute or two, but this time YANBU. What was he thinking? Assuming that there hasn't been some huge miscommunication along the way somehow?

DunkMeInTomatoSoup · 23/10/2017 15:12

Is the hardware store of significance? Would a haberdashers have been better? Did this happen in Surbiton or downtown Soweto? Detail is so important in these threads!

Original poster
user1471501171 · 23/10/2017 15:14

Sorry. Typing on my phone and furious. Predictive txt getting the better of me. Ds 8 yrs old and 4yrs old.
On one occasion he left the 4 kids in the car while he into Aldi quickly and I gave out loads to him. I have not heard of him doing anything like that since until today.
The 4yr old was a bit muddled in his story telling, which is why I txt Dh asking if ds was mistaken.
Ds 8 will be home from school in a few minutes to verify the story.

OP posts:
araiwa · 23/10/2017 15:17

So strange

I dont get why hed drop them off somewhere rather than just keep them in the car

DunkMeInTomatoSoup · 23/10/2017 15:18

Lets hope DC8 debunks rather than verifies Grin

ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 23/10/2017 15:18

Id go mad if its true,lets hope ds8 says it was just while he parked or something! I wouldnt want an 8 yr old shopping on his own,let alone having sole responsibility for a 4 year old!