Dh sent ds 8&4 into a shop while he drove off to another

[user1471501171]

My 4 yr old just told me that my dh dropped himself and his older brother off at a hardware shop to buy some stuff for him while dh drove off to the supermarket a mile away to buy some groceries! This happened yesterday while I was working. My dh never mentioned it last night when we were talking about our respective days.
U have txt him what do said, asking if do was mistaken. But have not had an answer back.
AIBU to think this is completely unacceptable and very dangerous?

[ImListening]

Your youngest dc must be related to mine.

When aged 3&half at gps she told them very convincingly that ‘daddy left me at the shops & drove away while I was running after him’. Cue omg what happened then - ‘ I stood up & walked home all on myself.’ All 8 miles of it!

Or the time they were apparently locked in their bedroom & they had to use the phone to call grandma in an emergency. There is no phone in their bedroom.

GP’s believed them both times!

[52FestiveRoad]

My DD once totally convincingly told my ILs that I spent all day drinking in a pub, I had never even been in it. I told them it was just a story but I think to this day they still actually believe it! Sometimes kids can be really accomplished little liars!

[geekone]

That gave me a laugh. Your little DS sounds like a character. Just remember lying at this age is a sign of intelligence (and an interesting few years ahead for you)

[user1471501171]

I cornered the older chap the minute he got in the door and asked him straight out if dh had left them on their own at the shop. Ds 1 is straight as a die and couldn't lie to save is life so I believe him. Younger ds, however, can lie very convincingly. We have had issues in the past where he has lied to get himself out of trouble. But I never imagined he would make up a story just for the craic.
I'll be having a serious conversation with him later about lying. It's something both dh and I feel very strongly about.
Thanks to all who replied. It was great to hear IWNBU.

[tempstamos]

@user1471501171

Why would you be with a guy you think so poorly of?
You immediately assumed this would be something he would do, taking your 4 year olds really unlikely story as truth without even talking to your husband.
My 4 year old told me that his daddy cut the legs off the dog yesterday, hes 4, it was a joke and I knew that immediately. I wouldnt be with him if I thought he was capable of chopping our dogs legs off.

[nameusername]

I hope your text to DH wasn't accusatory. With Christmas round the corner, please gift your 4 year old "The Boy Who Cried Wolf". If he already have one, dig it out and make it his bedtime story.

[KoalaD]

Meh. I know a 3.5-year-old (not mine) who would make that up. Just for something to say.

[EnglandKeepMyBones]

That’s a very odd joke for a 4 year old to make. What did your husband and your 8 year old say?

[DeadDeadDeadRose]

I think I'd check with your 8 year old before coming to any conclusions - I assume that's what you've done?

[Boysarebackintown]

I agree with kaytee above. I hope you are right OP but can't help thinking your 4yr old is worried about your reaction and has changed story.

[Namechangetempissue]

Thank god for that OP! DH obviously isn't a dick after all! My cousin at age 5 told his teacher his dad used to tie him up in the shed . He didn't, cousin had seen a cartoon on tv (tom and jerry I think) and copied that with added imagination

[kaytee87]

Strange joke for a 4yo to make, are you sure he didn’t see how upset you were and backtracked?

[ProperLavs]

what the hell?

[user1471501171]

Panic over. 4 yr old was joking. Will take me a while to recover.

[noblegiraffe]

I've got an 8 year old and a 4 year old and I might let the 8 year old look after the 4 year old (maybe looking at toys or magazines) when I went to a different aisle to get something, but I'd be really quick about it. Leaving the shop is appalling!

[diddl]

It doesn't make sense really, does it?

Leave them at one shop & going to another??

Are they so hard to get into a car/control in a supermarket???

[SpaghettiAndMeatballs]

well, an 8 and a 4 year old while you nip into the shop - that I can't get that wound up about - happened to me as a kid, I probably wouldn't do it now, but with the right 8 and 4 year old OK.

Leaving them at a shop, unless it's grandparent's shop or something similar - no, not with a 4 year old - confident 8 year old alone, OK, but having the 8 year old and the 4 year old tips it over for me - even with my relatively sensible kids.

[ownedbySWD]

Hoping it didn't actually happen the way your 4yo describes..

[NotAgainYoda]

This isn't on.

An 8 year old should not have the responsibility of looking after a 4 year old as well as himself

DH should not have been a car-ride away from either of them

[ZigZagIntoTheBlue]

Id go mad if its true,lets hope ds8 says it was just while he parked or something! I wouldnt want an 8 yr old shopping on his own,let alone having sole responsibility for a 4 year old!

[DunkMeInTomatoSoup]

Lets hope DC8 debunks rather than verifies

[araiwa]

So strange

I dont get why hed drop them off somewhere rather than just keep them in the car

[user1471501171]

Sorry. Typing on my phone and furious. Predictive txt getting the better of me. Ds 8 yrs old and 4yrs old.
On one occasion he left the 4 kids in the car while he into Aldi quickly and I gave out loads to him. I have not heard of him doing anything like that since until today.
The 4yr old was a bit muddled in his story telling, which is why I txt Dh asking if ds was mistaken.
Ds 8 will be home from school in a few minutes to verify the story.

[DunkMeInTomatoSoup]

Is the hardware store of significance? Would a haberdashers have been better? Did this happen in Surbiton or downtown Soweto? Detail is so important in these threads!