AIBU to think this wedding might not happen!?

[weddingcrasher29]

Name changed as massively outing. My cousin recently got engaged to her DF and they are marrying in September 2018. They've booked the venue, caterers etc. All deposits have been paid by her.

My aunt wants us to book a coach and hotel as they are marrying around 400 miles away in the UK (where cousin is originally from). It would be around £150 for our family.

Here's the AIBU- he's still legally married to someone else. He left his wife for my cousin 14 months ago cousin and DF have a 6 month old baby which was the catalyst and he has very little contact with wife who is doing everything she can to stop contact with their 2.5 year old daughter. It's unlikely she would make the divorce process easy for him to marry the OW and he hasn't even sent the paperwork off to the courts yet as my cousin says he can't afford it. I wouldn't be surprised if he just did a runner but that's another issue and not really my business; she loves him

I don't want to shell out money for a wedding that might not even legally be allowed to happen- that's not unreasonable is it!?!

I wouldn't be attending this. What's the point!

I'm in the middle of a divorce, it's very straightforward and both of us are eager for it to be over, we started that at the beginning of November, I have yet to receive my decree nisi and then when I do I have to wait another six weeks and a day before I can even apply for the decree absolute, then I think that will take a few weeks to come through. The whole process will have taken around six months and that's with no animosity or feet dragging.

I highly doubt this divorce will be through in time and I wouldn't even pretend I was going to attend this ridiculous event.

Sorry, I updated and ran. We've paid for our share of coach (£170ish) but not hotel- have said we'll stay in an Air BnB for a better bit of privacy- that's a lie (and I'm not sure what we'll do if wedding does go ahead as it's in SW England at prime time of year!)

I won't attend a blessing- it's. I different from seeing them every other day that they're not legally married.

If by some miracle the absolute comes through in time, hope you've budgeted for taxi between the airbnb you haven't booked and the venue. Taxis down here are few and far between and damned expensive.

How did it all go in the end @weddingcrasher29?