to leave a sixth former alone in the house

[hollyrosedaisy]

While we go on holiday? Would this be ok? Obviously money and food provided.

I'm sorry to hear that OP. I'm sure you've turned out brilliantly despite it. X

Not sure about that scrabbler but thank you, and i like reading all your stories

Oh holly sorry that happened to you what your parent did wasn't right. You didn't chose to be independent it was forced on you.

It's OK

It's not something I would have done. I have one 6th former now, and a younger one

Generally yes but of course it would depend on how long you are away, the maturity of the child, the security of your neighbourhood etc. But assuming that you love somewhere safe, you won't be gone longer than a week and your child isn't a twat it should be fine. You could maybe ask a grandparent/friend of yours to check in on them every now and then if you are really worried.

If that happened to you then yes, that is very sad. How has it affected you? Perhaps some counselling to work through it?

My older DS is 16. He is sensible and level-headed, and I trust him - but I know he'd be lonely. There's no way I'd do this to him. You were short-changed, OP.

I lived with my older brother at 17 (he was 20) as my mum moved in with her now dh. But... she bought us a house to live in and was only a 5 minute drive away, visited nearly every day. I was fine, might not have been fine completely on my own though.

*Ttbb8

RTFT

Well you kind of did intentionally mislead though didn’t you in the way you relpied to posters? It was quite clear people thought you were the mother of a teen DD.

You say you’re new so maybe read a few threads - you’ll find that they generally don’t tend to be brief cryptic sentences and actually giving proper information often results in helpful advice or sympathy or whatever it is you’re seeking.

OP, one of my siblings had to leave home at 16. It's very young and it was very sad for him. Sorry you didn't have parents supporting you like you wanted/needed.

All i can do is apologise coco, really, sorry

It's ok OP. I think sometimes we don't process emotional or difficult thoughts in the most logical way.

This was never a question that could be answered in a sensible way because we didn't have the details.

When I was 16, my parents let me spend half a week alone in a hotel in a foreign city because they knew it was something I wanted, something I could do responsible and and that I was somebody who really enjoyed solitude. Knowing that they trusted me meant a lot to me.

But otoh they invited me (and paid for my tickets) for a 3 week tour of Italy when I was 21 because they didn't want me to feel left out and because they genuinely wanted me there. Knowing that their experience would be enhanced by my presence also meant a lot to me.

See what I mean? It is not about actual solutions, about being alone or not alone, it is about counting as a person, about knowing that your wellbeing matters to the people closest to you. If you have missed out on that feeling, then you have a right to feel upset, OP.

Nowadays I wouldn't leave a teen on their own, not because of their ability to cope and be independent, but for their wider circle of acquaintances putting it on social media that there's a party house available.

It only takes one idiot.

Yes, she will be fine. I had bought a house and paying a mortgage at 17.

My parents left me for 2 weeks when I was 16 (first year of college), I was sensible, didn't have any parties, got myself up and to college every day. As long as she's sensible I think it's fine.

holly , you really would do better to just start again on a new thread and explain what actually happened properly if you want to get a proper response .

I wouldn’t leave my teen alone every weekend, unless they wanted me to and I was confident they were ok.

It’s not an absolute no no, but if the child didn’t want to be alone at the weekend, then I definitely wouldn’t go.

I’m sorry if you feel sad about your childhood. You deserved better.

We did. He's 17 and very sensible though, can cook, is responsible with looking after his pet and his older brother checked in on him. He spent two nights with his grandparents on a spontaneous visit there because he fancied a Sunday roast...

I did hesitate a bit at first but I lived on my own at 18. 17 isn't that far off.

Floral

I agree

4 pages and no-one reads the fucking thread

Yes Yoda proof if ever it were needed that people cba reading a thread. Mind you at least the Op enjoys reading all the stories...

Have you posted about this before OP? It seems familiar.

Ah bugger, by the time this posted the thread had moved on. Wouldn't leave DS alone every week. Especially not if he was unhappy.