to leave a sixth former alone in the house

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While we go on holiday? Would this be ok? Obviously money and food provided.

But yes anyfucker thats the situation (well, a woman but same difference.)

OP, you lost me when you described your DD as 'attention seeking'.....

So it's a reverse? Of sorts...

Why can't she go with you ?

And how much more prompting ssre you going to need until you tell us the whole situation?

I'm lost.

Leaving her alone every week is not a "holiday". Yes, I would leave a mature 6th former alone for a week for holiday - and have done so. DS1 stayed home in the half term before A levels. He was just about to turn 18 and had tons of study to do. He had dinner invites from two friends (which he didn't actually take up) and neighbours on either side were aware he was there and were keeping an eye out.

There is no way I would leave him every week Mon-Fri! You sound very uncaring to describe her as attention seeking because she is being truthful about her feelings! I hope this is a wind-up or a reverse.

Am I missing something? Initially it was to go on holiday and then it leaps - with no explanation- to every weekend? With an odd statement about her being attention seeking in the middle.

Er... that was for a holiday, not sure if I would have been ready to be left entirely to my own devices for extended periods at that age. At 18 when you go to uni, being in halls to start with really eases you into the living away from parents thing. I think 16 is too young to be living alone if at all possible

OP, why not take a deep breath and type the whole story?

You'll get a lot more in the way of help.

What are you saying?

You said a holiday but then you said "every week"

Tell the whole story or we can't comment

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So you want to move in with someone and for some reason your kid can’t/ won’t cone with you.
Your plan is to move anyways and let her live by herself during the week and you will come back to visit at the weekends,for a while, and then stop coming altogether.
Kid has no family or friends nearby and complained she’s lonely but you think she’s attention seeking?

I think the OP is posting out of concern for a third party?

I do hate these reverse/half-factual/mystery threads. OP, just put the facts down so that people can advise you properly. Otherwise, you risk people half-reading the thread and advising you on the original post or the story half-way through or whatever .... this is confusing.

Leaving a sixth former behind whilst you go on a holiday is fine.

A person of sixth form age choosing to live by themselves and support themselves is fine, if that's what they want and they have options/support (even if only emotional) as they have chosen adult responsibility for themselves.

A person of sixth form age living alone because there is no one to care for them is unfortunate, but hopefully they could make the best of it. Plenty of people do start out adult life this way and turn out fine.

Choosing to leave your sixth former behind, visiting every other weekend with an eye to reducing visiting, when they have to get themselves to school and complete all their homework/coursework, get ready for exams, plus do all the housework/shopping/cooking/laundry (adulthood that they haven't chosen) when they have already told you they will be lonely is downright cruel.

Put your plans on hold or take your child with you.

As a one-off, it's fine at 16/17. I wouldn't do it every Monday-Friday though, until dc had finished A Levels.

Are there extenuating circumstances? Perhaps the parent can't find work in their home town and the teenager is settled at a great sixth form. That would present a genuinely difficult choice.

However, if he or she is sniffing around someone who lives miles away and plans to sacrifice the daughter, that's disgusting.

This is really confusing. I think far more detail is required to comment and advise.

This is really confusing. Fine for a week if you go off on holiday and the child is sensible and mature. Not fine to leave them every weekend on their own unless that's what they want and are at the upper age limit (17/18) and even then, many wouldn't be ready to live alone at this age.

Fair

Me too

Am I understanding this properly? You start a completely misleading thread in order to get posters to say leaving DD alone is no big deal, she’ll be fine etc in order to justify to yourself your plan to actually leave her living alone?? Please tell me I’ve got the wrong end of the stick here!

Unfortunate i am sorry - I am new round here

I just wondered because this was what happened to me and sometimes readkng threads about loved teenagers really makes me sad.

Tell the whole story OP

Is this happening now, or when you were younger?

People will be nice to you if you give a bit more detail. Otherwise they tend to feel aggrieved at being misled and be a but testy

bit testy

When i was younger ... really sorry. Did not intentionally mislead.

I'm even more confused now.

So the thread was written as though you are your parents?

But you said the child in question wasn't your DD?

Who was it that left the teenager and what was their relationship to them?