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Is there a similar forum to MN for men? And if not, why not?

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Multidimensionalbeing · 22/10/2017 13:42

Because I think there should be.

I don't hate men though it will probably be suggested. I really don't. And I think the forum should be open to anyone who wants to use it for advice.

But....It's becoming increasingly strange around here. We've always had the 'what about the menz?' posters derailing threads talking about the harrassment or abuse of women by pointing out that women do it too..... Though it seems worse recently.

But now it seems that so many threads descend into accusations that men are treated differently on MN and often they are. But surely that's because it has a predominantly female membership? Who will see things from the female perspective?

It seems to me that it's causing division and bun-fighting among posters when I genuinely don't understand why there isn't a similar forum available for men?

Why not?

Why does a man join a predominantly female forum to then point out that they're not being treated like a woman? Or....just sit and watch as the women do it for them?

If there is no where else for them on-line then why not?

I'm sure it's possible.

OP posts:
HateHomework · 22/10/2017 22:12

And Mumsnet is predominantly female.
Yes and that's a good thing Hmm

BoneyBackJefferson · 22/10/2017 22:12

Pumperthepumper

and yet we would still be posting on MN.

Pannnn · 22/10/2017 22:17

Well there's def been more than the claimed number of posts in Dadsnet this year.

Also we like to carefully consider issues. Unlike other sections of MN where volume of posts is seen as a badge. Not quality....

Pumperthepumper · 22/10/2017 22:17

Yes and that's a good thing well, yes, if you want to talk about female experiences with other women, such as breastfeeding problems, which some men on this thread would argue is just as much of a male experience.

Sorry boney not sure what that means.

Pannnn · 22/10/2017 22:18

And often we post in a sort of manly code which puts others off. As planned. It's a conspiracy.

larrygrylls · 22/10/2017 22:18

It is also predominantly parents.

I think it is more parent dominated than female dominated. Strangely threads about children where posts start ‘I am not a parent but....’ seem to be tolerated.

This really isn’t a female only space, there are lots of male posters. I think that if you want more men to be equally involved parents, they should be encouraged on a parenting site. Isn’t the tag line ‘by parents, for parents’ or something like that?

whatsthecomingoverthehill · 22/10/2017 22:18

I realise this sounds a bit NAMALT when that's what a lot of this thread is complaining (rightly) about....but could part of it be that the men that are particularly noticed are the ones inserting themselves into discussions where really they should be shutting up and listening? I hope that I know when to stay out of things, and if I am being a twat it's not because I'm trying to assert my 'maleness'.

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 22/10/2017 22:19

Its put me right off to be fair pannn

Mission accomplished Grin

WhatWouldGenghisDo · 22/10/2017 22:19

Why isn't it a good thing that Mumsnet is predominantly female HateHomework?

JonSnowsWife · 22/10/2017 22:20

At the end of the day, we're all parents on here

No we're not.

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 22/10/2017 22:20

i think thats what most people are unhappy about whats

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Multidimensionalbeing · 22/10/2017 22:21

Hilarious that on a thread with people complaining about people (mostly men) jumping into threads with 'but women cheat/abuse/lie tooooooo' we've got 'but women are posting on Dadsnet'.

Well the actions of that very small number of women completely invalidates any opinions on this thread then. We'd better stop talking now.

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CherryChasingDotMuncher · 22/10/2017 22:21

I think that if you want more men to be equally involved parents, they should be encouraged on a parenting site.

I forgot we have to persuade men to not be shit dads

Strangely threads about children where posts start ‘I am not a parent but....’ seem to be tolerated

You can’t be reading the same threads I am if you think these are tolerated

WhatWouldGenghisDo · 22/10/2017 22:22

Agree whats I did my first ever NAMALT on this thread

Pannnn · 22/10/2017 22:22

My work is done then Rufus! Smile

BoneyBackJefferson · 22/10/2017 22:23

Pumperthepumper

It means just that.

dadsnet is a subforum of MN.

The breastfeeding was one man on a different thread.

Personally, I don't post in a vast number of topics on MN, and I don't post in threads that I know are going to contain female only issues.

sunandmoonshine · 22/10/2017 22:24

I think there being so few posts on dadsnet is a demonstration that men are extremely reliant on women for communication about normal life stuff but can't shake the need to dominate and domineer.

THIS ^^

Pannnn · 22/10/2017 22:26

Quite BBJ and hi to you!
If it's specifically female issue and one has nothing to contribute then one stays schtum. Read it but say nothing.

Pumperthepumper · 22/10/2017 22:27

I think it is more parent dominated than female dominated

Larry, do you really? The vast number of posts I see, especially on Aibu (the most popular? Happy to be corrected) are weddings, threads like this one, relationship advice - It's hardly bogged down in 40-page discussions of potty training. I can't paste because the thread was deleted but I literally wrote a comment earlier about only being here for the women's issues and the parking threads.

I also think for most posters, bar a few obviously, the issue is not men talking about parenting issues, it's not having the sense to realise that some threads do not need the 'man here' input.

brasty · 22/10/2017 22:27

Lots of men were posting on that thread were women were talking about having been raped, sexually harassed, etc

BoneyBackJefferson · 22/10/2017 22:28

Hi pannn

This thread has made me think about posting in dadsnet :) bring the old thread back up to warp speed.

KrytensNanobots · 22/10/2017 22:28

At the end of the day we're all parents here

Not true.And Mumsnet is predominantly female.

OK, fair enough, I didn't put my point across very clear! Of course there are people on here who aren't parents yet, or have no intention of becoming parents. They're all welcome too.
I meant Mums or Dads, we're all parents so I have no problem with whether it's a mum posting or a Dad.
I don't want them all to get lost just because they're male.

Pannnn · 22/10/2017 22:31

Yes there is a couple of ancient and loved threads that may benefit from being disturbed. Sexual technics is as old as MN nearly...

Pumperthepumper · 22/10/2017 22:31

boney I'm really sorry, I promise I'm not trying to be difficult, but I still don't understand your point or what you're asking me, sorry.

BoneyBackJefferson · 22/10/2017 22:34

I think there being so few posts on dadsnet is a demonstration that men are extremely reliant on women for communication about normal life stuff but can't shake the need to dominate and domineer.

I came here because of my job, and have taken so much away from the site because of knowledgeable and informed women.

I would like to think that reading others experiences has made me better at what I do, and much of what I say is reposts of the lessons that I have learnt.