To ask which one sentence changed your life?

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I’ll start.

‘My god girl- You’re pregnant.’

Said by a Dr to a 14 year old me.

I just want to see him one more time and I will then walk out of both your lives forever.
Said by my ds1 dad, he stayed true to his word we haven't seen or heard of him since!

"No, you're definitely pregnant. There's no mistake."

After 14 years of trying, we had given up hope of having a family. I had been feeling "off" for weeks. Went to the doctor, gave my symptoms and he asked if I could be pregnant. I thought 'what an idiot, like I'm pregnant?!?' He talked me into taking a blood test and an hour later I was back in his office asking him to check again as it must be someone else's results (that had happened before). The next day the scan proved I was 17+ weeks along.

@petitecolier - please seek help, whether from friends, family or your doctor; you’re in a bad way and need help and support.

@1namechangedforthis please please get out of that marriage. 50 is NOT too old to start again. You have a lot of your life left, and you only get one life, please choose a happy life for yourself.

My sentence, from the children's musical Matilda: "Nobody else is going to put it right for me, nobody but me is going to change my story." Inspired me to change my own life for the better.

to all of you with the very sad stories out there.

petitecolier tell someone else in RL. Just because one of your friends is a twat doesn't mean that there are a million other people who will help you mourn your baby.

“Opportunity is not a lengthy visitor”

@1namechangedforthis- You ARE still young. And you can still leave. There’s lots of living to be done by you. Could you start a thread in “Relationships?” You would receive tons of advice, support and links. and strength for you and everyone

"You'll never be satisfied"

"My home is mine and not yours"

"Typical passingcloud..."

He treats you like shit!

Exactly the same sentence I heard from someone else 20 years earlier. I listened the second time I heard it and I’m now divorced. I’m also 50 and it is definitely not too late 😀

"there are two sacs but we can't see any heart beats yet"... Said by sonographer at 7 weeks (and after I'd had a blighted ovum and d & c then a partial molar pregnancy requiring a "therapeutic termination" on my b day) when I'd gone to epu bleeding heavily. I bled and bled for another 7 weeks but have strapping ten year old twin boys now.

"I think I can hear a heart beat?", heard as I slid under a general anaesthetic following a prolapsed cord. I realised something had gone horribly wrong as I heard that. Thankfully my dd was resuscitated at birth and after time in hospital came home. I am beyond lucky she is a happy and healthy little girl but I will never forget the raw panic.

He has classical autism.

Totally different life after that. He is now in a care home with 24 hour care.

You have aggressive breast cancer.

Sentences that changed my life....
"I have to tell you something, I'm so so sorry, there's a woman who's pregnant. I was only with her for two weeks. I really wish she wasn't.... said to me by the boyfriend I was just getting back with, I knew he really really wanted to be a dad, and I pushed him away when I had a miscarriage, he ended up just leaving. I later found out he left because he got this woman pregnant whilst we were together. He will never know how much that broke me.

My mother, people just don't like you, that's why no one sticks around, and why none of the family have anything to do with you, you are a nasty venomous bitch and you deserve to spend your whole life alone. The last words she will ever say to me. For what it's worth, she did me a favour, but I spent weeks in tears after that.

'My mate bla bla', said by my stbxh about his cyberspace 'friends'.

Enough said.

Yes Spuddington. Me too.

There are many but the one that helped me through a really traumatic time earlier this year was from my dsis

You always have choices Colleys. You might not like those choices but they are choices.

Apparently she read it on a very influential forum called Mn but it helped hugely at the time and it still helps now

"Uh, I think the army are here"
News of my brother's death and cause of my subsequent running away from, leaving
home aged 16.

"It's nothing to worry about Mrs X, you're pregnant" and then "you're 10 weeks pregnant and there appears to be two heartbeats"
News of my twin pregnancy, while holding my 3 month old daughter. Provoking my first honest phone call to my mother in 2 1/2 years. I hadn't told her I was married or a mother, and she breezed through it.

"I'm going to South America"
ExH breaking up our marriage.

"Ugh, we've run out of wine"
Said by me before I nipped out to the corner shop and ran into now DH. Who I hadn't seen since I was a teenager, while living in an entirely different country.

A phone call from my Dad at 4am telling me my Mum had passed, I miss her so much every day, it was only 5 months ago

Thinking changes nothing, only doing does

"Shut up!".

The absolute arsehole at theatre group; proper teacher's pet, telling me to shut up after a couple of my friends had been talking to me. I wrote him off as an arsehole, went home and declared to my mom that I liked everyone at theatre group except him, he was a twat and I wasn't going to get on with him (in fairness, I was 13).

You can see where this is going...

"It's a girl! We've got a daughter!".

Said by that same arsehole to me six years later followed two years later by...

"I do".

All three of them changed my life :) other sentences include -

"I'm not supposed to tell you this until the letters come out tomorrow, but you got a First!" - finding out I'd got a First in my degree despite being pregnant for second year and a new mum for third year.

"I love you" - the first time my daughter told me, unprompted, that she loves me.

There are sad ones too, but I love my happy ones.

I've just finished reading the whole thread. I'm bawling my eyes out. So much love and hope and to you strong strong people. Christ. Perspective.

(I should state that I don't think he's an arsehole any more our first wedding anniversary is coming up)

I never realised how losing a parent would affect me, to all you who have parents you love please make the most of the time that you have with them

It is cancer, it has spread to 2 other organs and we can only slow spread - it is incurable - said the surgeon 8 years ago.

I've been clear for 6 😃

"By Christmas you will be sorted" from a friend when I was in a women's refuge after leaving an abusive relationship.
Also "I love you and we the children and DH NEED you here with us" from my now DH when I was very very low suicidal