To ask which one sentence changed your life?

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I’ll start.

‘My god girl- You’re pregnant.’

Said by a Dr to a 14 year old me.

‘I’ll see you as often as I do now’

Before my dad left and didn’t see me for 9months

I am sorry your baby has died about our 6 day old DS.

Several few months later...you’re having twins

Two sentences, two extremes.

This is my body, given for you.

“I’m so sorry, there’s no heartbeat” or words to that effect, at 41 wks after being in spontaneous labour for 18 hours or so).

Strangebrew

for everyone. So much loss.

'I was so confused because it's only been 5 months. My mum said that if I can live without you I should, but if I can't I should buy a ring. I can't. So I did. Will you marry me?'
I was 17. He was a 23 year old, on his knees in a restaurant. 18 years on I still think my MIL is a wise woman.

Dixiechickonhols had you had Ludwig's Angina?

The idiot who tried to ruin my life 'if you leave, I'll kill myself and leave notes for everyone to know it's your fault and ruin your life forever' which still gives me nightmares to this day almost 4 years later.

Then four months after that 'hey pal, How's things?' as said by my wonderful current partner who I didn't really know at all but went to school with whilst he was blind drunk at 4am on Facebook (and led to him being mortified the next day when he seen it having no clue why he sent it). 3 years on we're living together and 8 months pregnant with our first daughter.

'You're not clever enough' from my mother when I was about 12 or 13. Proved her wrong!

'It's ok to be angry' from my psychiatrist with the pain clinic. I'm a whole lot less angry now I'm not getting angry at myself for being angry!

"That's your baby's heartbeat' 18 months after surgery for endometriosis

8 year old me coming home from school, "Come in and sit down, I want to talk to you". Another child who came home to news that their parent had unexpectedly died.

I hope no-one minds a positive one.
Milk round interviews at University. I shook hands with the interviewer as I left and said 'Thank-you, I hope to see you again' and he said
'I am sure I WILL be seeing you again young lady, I have spent the last four months interviewing people and you have given the best interview in that time'
I was far from the best student on our course, had parents with very high standards and wondered if I would ever be all they expected me to be but from that moment I believed in me and I never looked back.

Yes of course I have had the odd wobble along the way but I have never forgotten that moment - it changed my life.

Trivial in comparison to some of these, but a life saver at a point where I was routinely tearing myself to shreads in my mind and on the brink of resigning due to sheer panic:

'It's true that you're younger. It's also true that you can quite literally have 30 years of experience of being shit at this job.'

"What will I do, while you sit around and talk to your mum all day?" Boyfriend at the time, talking about the day of my dad's funeral. He wanted to out (as in 'out out') after the funeral. I told him not to bother, and hung up on him. He was an abusive arse.

And "he's gone"- two hours after DH and DM raced to the hospital to see my darling brother who had had a heart attack. He was 40. Life is never going to be the same.

I'm afraid there's no longer a heartbeat.

Said a few months ago, I'd had a mmc. I just stared at the nurses and tried to pretend it was ok. And then I tried to pull myself together so that the next woman waiting for a scan didn't see my pain.
I had a bright yellow dress on and made myself look nice that day and then it all went wrong. I got sent to hospital after seeing my gp having passed out the day before to check it wasn't happening. But it was. And I sat in the waiting room in the hospital thinking please don't show through this yellow dress and wishing I'd thought that this could happen and should probably have worn a pad. But I couldn't think like that until I was told.
My mental health has been in decline since because of it, my eating disorder has kicked off big time and now I'm waiting until I'm sick enough that someone might see I need help.
I didn't tell anyone except my friend about it. She said I deserve no sympathy because the pregnancy was the result of an affair hence why I must now suffer in silence. I don't deserve any sympathy. I just wish I didn't still feel this pain. Most days I believe I deserve the pain as punishment for my actions. The OM ran as fast as he could on the news. I'm sure he's so relieved now and that just hurts even more that my pain brought someone else relief.

We need you to sign a Do Not Resucitate order for your mother

We need you to identify your husbands body

for all of you

to everyone

My mother to me aged 13 after catching me squabbling with my sister, "You better be nicer to your sister - she's prettier than you are and you'll need to take her leftovers".

Do not get anymore children! Said by terminal ill grandmother days before she died. I have ONE child. Not noted as a bad, poor mum either by those that matter. Apparently she disapproved of my choice in who my oh was, a very talented professional but in the line of work she thought unacceptable. I adore him and very happy with him so she will not have the last word there.

A good one from a ex: Assumption is the mother of all f*ck ups. I found this to be too true and assume a lot less.

moanyoldcow

OMG how awful... I'm so sorry

'Your son is in a coma, on life support, he has suffered severe damage to his brain, the next 72 hours are critical'

After my 18yr old was hit by a car 4 years ago. It's been a long, hard road, and he has problems, but he's doing ok and he's still with me.

"I'm not going if she is going, she cramps my style"

Said in front of 13yo me as I put my coat on by my father

"Is that all you love about me?" Said by DH when i said I loved his muscly chest and so I told him that actually I loved all of him.
"Will you marry me?" Said by DH several months later.
"We've got a little (sons name)" said by DH when I was coming round from GA following EMCSection.
"Your Mum doesn't have Alzheimer's but she does have dementia" said by Memory Clinic specialist
"I'm sorry but your Father isn't responding to any treatment, his organs are shutting down now ...... we think it would be best to shut off the life support" said by Dr following an operation.
"Your Mums being put on the Liverpool Pathway to care, she's refusing food and liquids as she's forgotten how to swallow and we can't put a drip in as she will pull it out, she will be given pain relief to help keep pain to a minimum."
"I don't have to wait for the selection process they've offered my a place outright" said by DS following his Uni interview.
"You're the best Mum ever" said numerous times by DS

This is a sad thread. I'm so sorry for everyone reading your stories xx

"Someone has run over a cat outside, do you know whose it is?"
My childhood cat that I loved over anything else, still alive but desperately injured in the road and having fits. The rest of the scene is blurry now. I have nightmares most nights that I neglect animals and find them dead.

"Libby passed away in her sleep last night" friend died by suicide.

"I've taken 24 paracetamol, goodbye xxxx" sent to me by a friend when I was 13. She lied, so she lived, but I was traumatised.

"Congratulations, you have a conditional offer"

"We suspect your son has a social communication disorder" - I had no clue what that meant. Went home and googled and up popped page after page of "autism".

Three years later.

"Your daughter has very high levels of anxiety; given your family history and how it presents in girls, we agree with you that she should be assessed for autism".