To ask which one sentence changed your life?

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I’ll start.

‘My god girl- You’re pregnant.’

Said by a Dr to a 14 year old me.

My heart is breaking for so many of you on here.

"This pregnancy isn't viable"

And then, in a text from a friend who had also experienced losses a few weeks later:

"life goes on, but never the same."

to so many people on here.

I can't think of the words that changed my life right now. Because I can't stop thinking of the times I've been the one that had to say them to parents, at the worst moment of their life. I am so sorry. We cannot know a fraction of your loss, but we do not forget the children we cannot save.

"Do you want to go to see a movie tonight?"

My now dh asking me out.

"It's a boy"

Toooldtobearsed - your post made me gasp in shock. How cruel. I hope you are ok.

We've just got back from the hospital. Right then, it's cancer of the pancreas and I've got 3 to 6 months left

My dad ringing me up mid feb, I was at home with dcs waiting for thecall knowing he had the app with the consultant. He died 13 weeks later.

for all you people who have had losses or troubling times or fuckwits to deal with x

The panel were unanimous, we couldn't recommend this match more strongly.

The chair of the panel who approved the placement of our two adopted DC with us. Ending a 24 year wait to become parents.

You have pre eclampsia your baby will be coming early.

Ten years when my daughter was born at 31 weeks.

"I'm so sorry but your baby isn't going to make it"
After my daughter was stillborn (cord prolapse) and the doctor had worked for three hours to revive her.

'I'm pregnant, and if I'd have known he'd do this I'd have aborted it.'

My Mum...screamed at me about something my Dad (her ex) had done. Realised she was a bit odd at that point.

When somebody shows you who they are, believe them. Said to me by a relative stranger. About my ex husband. It made me take off the rose tinted glasses and see the reality of my life. I knew then we would never get back together. Because I saw who he really was. She has no idea that that one sentence set me on a path to a happy life I could never have imagined then.

Your baby girl will be safer out than in - at 26 weeks pregnant, she was born 4 days later.

Your daughter suffered extensive brain damage - when she was exactly 4 weeks old.

My life fell apart at the second one but 9 months later she's doing so well. Long road ahead of us but she's shown me how much she wants to live and fight, so we're fighting with her. She's doing remarkably well, my little hero

Your son has a 50/50 chance of making it through the night, said by paediatrician about DS who was 4 months old.

Have just had a long chat to DS, now 15yrs, as he has had a below average school report.

Feel bad now, so grateful for his life.

for all of you that need them.
Hooray for those who have a positive take to tell!
Mine? It has to be two...
'I love her but I still have feelings for you' XH.
'It's an albino' - announced to a room of strangers while I was there (unsupported) with my baby who was two weeks old. It still breaks my heart to revisit many years on.

I’m sorry darling - your Mummy’s dead (said to me at age 8)

Will you marry me?

It’s a boy - a big boy!

It’s a girl!

1 - "Mum has died" when I was 13

2 - "She's funny and we have a lot in common"

''I've been drinking secretly for the last few months''
(A few months after I'd gone back to my alcoholic abusive fiance on the promise that he was sober...I believed him, as he'd managed to stay sober for 5 years before, and he hadn't been abusive all summer - but as soon as he confessed the drinking, he became abusive again. Two years later he died from alcoholism - it's coming up to the two year anniversary now)

'We can't offer you IVF now' ( a long story but I"d just missed the cut off date for it on the NHS.. Several years on and I remain infertile and childless and it's way too late now.

'People who don't have children are selfish' - my father, knowing about my infertility pain

'I've been losing weight and have this awful cough' when i realised my mother had lung cancer before she did. She died a few months later.
'It was instant if that helps'. When my son died.

"but, we need you here"
DH, after I was offered a job in the Middle East with a massive, mortgage ending, paycheque.

It was the right thing to say.

That’s awful Wasp.

The midwife who “looked after” me when I had DS2 was an absolute bitch. Apparently she’s retired now thank god. Funny - a fairly new friend and I were comparing birth stories and I was telling her about the bitch midwife and she immediately said was her name Theresa?” - she’d had her too and she was just as vile.

Some of these are so sad. Life can be so cruel.

Something I read here the other day-
Comparison is the thief of joy

This may well change my life, so thank you.

"Bugger this, I can't do it...I'm going out."

Said by me to me when I was meant to be staying in and doing some college homework instead of going out with some friends. I went out...and met my now husband!

'There's the heart beat'. Said to me when I was 7 weeks pregnant after having a massive bleed when I was 7 weeks pregnant (IVF). I was sure I had lost the baby so it was absolutely amazing to see the heartbeat on the monitor. My mum was with me because my DH couldn't get there in time and we were both in tears. They told me the bleed had been caused by a sub-chorionic haematoma.

"Relationships are meant to be fun you know, not all hard work and misery and drama" said by my mum. I left my ex and met my wonderful DH a few months later.

to all coping with such terrible loss.