To ask which one sentence changed your life?

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I’ll start.

‘My god girl- You’re pregnant.’

Said by a Dr to a 14 year old me.

"They've appointed a palliative care team and a Macmillan nurse." - My wife, to me when I went to visit her in hospital with a bad back.

Im sorry there is no heartbeat. Said to me at 37 weeks after going in as worried about lack of movement

'You can have chemotherapy, halt progression of your illness, but be unlikely to have children, or don't have chemotherapy, your condition significantly deteriorates, but be able to have a child'.

I chose the second option, my condition worsened and I'm a wheelchair user now, but I have a beautiful 10 and a half year old. The bonus is that I had the chemo (for MS, not cancer), after having my DD and my condition has been stable for 9 years!

Oh my. Just finished reading these and could have gone on and on. Cried so many times. Wish I could send best wishes to each of you individually xxx
After 40 odd years of getting it wrong I recently heard a variation of this:
“If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you didn’t eat him.”
It was a revelation to me after growing up following “treat others how you would wish to be treated” etc.

I have read each and every one of these. My heart is hurting for what some of you have gone through.

'You have rights too' said by a lovely psychologist. Made me realise I get a say in my life and I can put myself first sometimes.

'You're doing a great job, look at her' said by a lovely friend when we were watching DD in the park. I come back to her words every now and then and they always make me feel happy

"I can't be your friend because I want other people to like me." Said to me, age 7, by a girl in my class.

The pain and rejection my 7-year-old self felt by this, coming so soon after being rejected by my dad when he told me he never wanted to see me again as he walked out, set me up for a lifetime of heartache.

My heart goes out to so many posters here.
Mine was..by my counsellor
" So when are you going to stop being a victim?" ..hit me hard at the time but totally changed my life as l dealt with that.
And from my gyneacologist at 24 weeks
I'm sorry so so sorry.. when about to tell me my baby had died. Should be 29 this month.
And the call telling me my dear dear dad had gone into cardiac arrest..passed away soon after. Total shock.

I have two...

First one was at 13 (a month before I turned 14), said by a doctor, 'it's positive, you are pregnant '

The second said by my ExH when I told him we were getting takeout for dinner because I was to tired to cook, 'well you chose to work with retards'. That sentence from him ended our marriage.

"it wasn't your fault" spoken by the man who became my DH, when I told him I had been sexually abused as a teenager. I was blamed by my family, and expected DH to blame me to and then dump me

When I told my husband the same
, the words were

Why did you do it?

It devastated me, I never told my family as I knew they would also blame me.

to so many of you.

"double trouble!" (Ivf viability scan)

You've got type 1 diabetes!

"If you leave, I'll take my life and take you and our son with me".

Said by exH. Minutes before I walked out with DS with the excuse of going to the supermarket.
He's only been with DS supervised or in public places since.

@HunterofStars Yes I'm seeing someone else. She's prettier, slimmer and better than you. Said by ex on Christmas Eve 2 years ago.

"better" - that is the word which really drives the dagger into the heart for me (for you). Anyone can be slimmer or prettier, but "better"? That is just horrific. I am so sorry you had that slung at you.

“Trouble is you think that if you just try hard enough one day they will turn round and say sorry and that you were always good enough ....... they never will “

Said by a lovely psychologist about by narc parents.

It was a lightbulb moment and I stopped trying

If you try to get me out this house, I'll make damn sure you don't see your kids, said by the ex after she decided to end things.

Using our own kids as a lever to exert pressure made me question my tendency to trust. Now, I generally can't bring myself to. I'd rather stay single and trust myself.

Mine is a bit different to these,,, it was when the prosecutor phoned me to talk about the judgement in a case in which I was main witness. It was an extremely serious case which had been dragged out through the courts for years, my story constantly retold on the news, yet no real life support.

The prosecutor said the judge's summation was "the best endorsement of a witness I've ever seen" - it was a special moment for me, a wall between before and after, between pain and recovery. I knew I'd only been truthful but having it on official record removed the burden from me.

'Will you marry me'-
The best day of my life, put my life on a positive trajectory and everything I do I have a partner by my side. This is after years of a very abusive and toxic ex

DD has suffered verbal abuse from your ExH and his partner whilst they were drunk. The child protection officer at her school, 4 years ago. DD no longer sees him and he believes I alienated her and he did nothing wrong. He sends monthly emails to this affect that are just not quite at the level which the police consider as harassment.

There is also a moment, no words were said my DP is a widower who would have loved a family, but he and his wife were unable to have children. Since his wife died he has had 5 heart stents fitted and has controlled prostate cancer. In July he complete the Ride London 46, DD and I were there to see him finish as he stood with his arms round us the look on his face and DD's face told me that he is the one.

theres nothing more we can do for your daughter, we want to switch off the monitors so its easier for you....

lost my 29month old daughter to cancer. that was when my life became numb

'We had you so we'd have someone to look after us in our old age.'

My mother's exact words to me. I was 13.

“I don’t know how to tell you this...your baby has a major deformity. It’s fatal.”

Yesterday at the 12 week scan.

I can see a very faint heartbeat

Said by the sonographer 2 weeks after my miscarriage - before my scan no one knew I had been carrying twins and that one baby had survived.

Our beautiful daughter is now 28 years old. She is our miracle baby and the joy of our lives.

I can't remember the full sentence just the start and a few words in the middle..

" we have found something.... tumour.... neurosurgeon... admit her immediately... steroids... cancer..."

Said by the radiologist to my partner and I when our 4 year old daughter went for a head MRI to find out why she had lost her vision. It changed my whole life, my dreams and me as a person. I can't even remember the 'before' me

Oh @Uggywuggy I'm so sorry x x