To ask which one sentence changed your life?

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I’ll start.

‘My god girl- You’re pregnant.’

Said by a Dr to a 14 year old me.

"He's still the same baby he was 6 hours ago. You just didn't know about his chromosomes then"
A wonderful doctor who is sadly (for me) now im Bristol but who was amazing to us.

‘I’m really sorry we can’t do the termination today’

Said to me at a BPAS clinic after they cocked up and realised I had a medical
Condition they could look after there. DH and I left and with my mums help decided to keep the baby (she’s sleeping next to me now). We’d rushed into the decision as we had a baby with health issues and we felt we couldn’t cope. it taught me never rush decisions. You have time. Feelings change.

‘Don’t be too sad’ my beloved mum when she was dying when I was heavily pregnant with the above baby. I gave birth the week after we said goodbye. I think it’s the circle of life

Katycb, our stories seen almost identical. My first twin had chronic lung disease, common in such premature babies. My second twin girl contacted NEC too, had half of her bowel removed and then we lost her less than a week later from severe brain damage (or complications resulted to) I lived in patient accommodation for three months (21 days and 78 days old when they died) and every time that phone rang or there was a knock on the door, I felt like I couldn't get my breath.

Positive - it's a boy
And two years later - it's a girl

“Is that a dinkle?” This was said by me at my 20-week scan. It was indeed a dinkle and the owner was 11 last week.

“Would you resent your mother and I getting married?” I was just seven and obligingly shook my head. Wrong answer...

“The UK votes to leave the European Union,” This changed pretty much everything for us.

Oh yes, and with DD: “There’s the three lines; definitely a girl,”
I’d always dreaded having a girl thanks to the epic bellend in my previous post. Finding out DC2 was a girl made me stop and think “This shit stops right here. You don’t let any of your trauma affect her.” I think I’m doing alright.

I'm going to look at this thread every time I need perspective.
So many sad stories and so much hope. I'm in awe.

"You know you're the most important person in this world for me."

Said by my aunt. The thing was, I had a mother, a father and two siblings and I wanted to be a part of that family unit, not the child my aunt has never had.
Her constant meddling, her tantrums when she couldn't get me to spend more time with her, her open preferential treatment of me and her nervous breakdown when I went to the university and wanted to spend my time studying and having fun with my friends and my boyfriend were awful.
That sentence can be amazing but in that context it was simply horrible. I now went full NC with her (and my father who supported her and my Mum's MIL against her), especially as she is trying to do the same to my niece.

You're pregnant (after years of trying and sitting in hospital having a discussion about operating on my weird shaped womb, they tested for pregnancy as a precaution)
It's a girl, she's fine don't worry she's here safe.(said by a wonderful doctor who finally got DD out after her heart beat dipped dangerously low)
You're not doing well I think you need to be on anti depressants. (Said by a wonderful doctor who saved my life)

My heart is sore reading about everyone's sadnesses.

I have two favourites:

"You are not responsible for other people's behaviour."
This was said to me by a grief counselor and this single sentence changed my entire outlook on life - the light bulb went on!

"I hate you"
Said by my adopted DS after 3 years of living with us - adopted kids take a while to feel confident enough in your love and their new family situation to say something like this - this was the turning point for our cobbled-together-family when I knew everything was going to be OK. He's just started secondary school and is fabulous.

"I'll kill myself one day and it'll be your fault"

Said by my Dad, to me, as he was driving me to work. I was sixteen and terrified he would (he didn't).

"Oh, shame. Better have a girl next time"

My mother when I told her DS1 was a boy. We now have two boys and very little to do with my parents.

“Would you two stop pissing about” said by my Grandad to my cousin and I who had been sat, silently by his hospital bedside holding the fort for the family on that particular day. The morphine got the better of him and I think he thought we were little kids again and being naughty but we were silent, we couldn’t even look at each other because of the way he had deteriorated over the last week. It was the last thing he ever managed to say to me as he was shortly sedated so heavily he was more or less asleep for 72 hours until he passed away.

Don't worry mammy he will always be your son.
Said to me by DD7 when DS moved out to live with his father. Exactly what I needed to hear at exactly the right time

'We had you so we'd have someone to look after us in our old age'. -my mother.

I was 13.

'You will never succeed at A levels and don't even think about University' - aged 15, told to me by my 'careers advisor' in Year 11. Well, even though I didn't get the best A level results, I still worked my bloody ass off and now I'm flourishing at University! This was all because I'm wired differently to everyone else 😂😂

'subject to you selecting us as your firm choice, would like to make you an unconditional offer.....' aged 17, back in November 2016. I still can remember this moment so clearly, what I was doing, who I was with, how I felt. It's easy to say that sentence changed my life but for the better!

"You have premature ovarian failure (at 37) You'll need an egg donor to have a baby"

Just turned 39 and have our treatment scheduled for next month.

You are worthless, you are not intelligent and whilst watching pornography (I was a size 10 and attractive) why can’t you look like these women and do what they do.

Hands were turning blue. I couldn't breathe. Full on asthma attack. Ambulance opened and paramedic said "you are in safe hands now" and put hand on my shoulder. Then I blacked out.

Woke up half an hour later to be told I was a few mins away from being a gonner.

“She’s gone sweetheart”

Said to me aged 11 the day my Mum died.

If you want to see your mother you need to leave now and get here as quick as you can.

'We need to understand why you hate yourself so much.' Said by my third therapist when I was about fifty. She was the first person to acknowledge my (pretty damn obvious) self hatred out loud. It came as a total revelation and it turned my life around.

My DD developed anorexia at age 19 when she left for uni. She and we lost three years as her personality and body shrank and wasted. After yet another abortive visit to a mental health unit I lost it, screamed at her and dragged her off to the hospital chapel. I told her that enough was enough, that while she was mad enough to starve herself we were no longer prepared to sit by and watch her starve, that when we got home I wanted her to draw up a recovery plan and I would enforce it come what may.

There was a long, long silence while I waited for her to storm off and then she said 'Mummy, I've been waiting so long for you to say that.' And the next day she ate half a slice of toast and a boiled egg.

It's five years on and she has had some massive ups and downs but on the whole she is well enough and we have hope for the future. I was so ashamed of losing it with her, but it was what we needed at the time.

"Police called, they found a body."
We had just spent the last 7 days looking for missing MIL. I can't even remember who said it, everything was a blur the rest of that day and our family never recovered. MIL was the glue that kept us all together, it's been almost 10 years and I still can't believe she isn't here with us

"What's the worst that can happen?"
I was a confident, social child, but for various reasons became quite anxious and socially awkward as a teen. It was an older friend of the family who finally got through to me when I told her I was declining a big opportunity, she called me on it and talked me around. It was a real turning point, I still have some bouts of social awkwardness now, but I can talked myself out of them with that little phrase.

to all the sad stories on here

Sorry about the essay

"I don't love you anymore." Said to me by my husband, after 2 kids, 7 years of marriage and 11 years together.

"you're crying and I don't feel a single thing."

Said by my ExP who I was madly in love with when he was shouting at me drunk. Lucky escape.

"For you to have a good life".

Said to me by my dear nana a day before she passed away, 2 months after losing our grandad - when I asked her what would make her happy

"She's gone."
Said by my dad to me and my sister when my mum died of brain cancer.

"Here she is" when my daughter was born by c-section.

The worst and best moments of my life.