Hairzilla.

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Fingers crossed for a nice update for you all.

I'm sorry it came to this. But I'm glad she's shown her true colours so you don't waste any more of your time and effort on her

Glad your friends have got your back too. Are they all surprised or has this been a long time coming?

You're not like her, so of course you just listened to it. You're too nice for this shit.

Don't be embarrassed- you didn't stoop to her level, that's a good thing.

For what it's worth, I think she's actually jealous of you.

Appalling behaviour from anyone, never mind a so-called friend.

I hope you're okay.

Omg...that's awful ....what an absolute cow. Another one sending unmumsnetty hugs to you

wow so sorry op

what hav f2 and 3 said about it when u told them

That's awful KungFu. Sorry.

Holy. Shit. What a cunt. Yep, I agree with PP. Go back to PTA and say “I now cannot offer a service as previously discussed on this occasion due to the torrent of abuse I was subjected to by F1 in my business premises.”

Bloody hell. I am so sorry that you've had to go through this. It's hard when you lose a friend. Even if she thoroughly deserved to be lost. from me too

"Dear PTA Lady

Due to the fact that I have just received a barrage of verbal abuse and accusations from F1, I no longer wish to have anything to do with her or the Fete. I am sorry but I will not be treated this way and still expected to donate my services."

Of course once PTA lady gets in touch then you can agree to keep your updo offer on the table, but PTA lady needs to know exactly what kind of person F1 is without you running to her in " Please miss!!!! F1 just called me names!" tattle tale kind of way. She wiil thank you for it!

I am so sorry. I mean she sounds horrible, but I'm sorry you were upset, and glad F2 and F3 were there for you. How can she possibly think it was ok to decide that you could afford to make a donation because you've got a business and your OH works, without asking?

Yes, what Kipperbang said ^^

Hope you are okay KungFu. Sending

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I can't say I am surprised! Narcissists are never wrong! My mil was so convinced of this that she lied to the police and ended up in court for perjury! - you can't just post this, you tease! We need the whole story!

She's on fecking glue,she has to be!Gently floating back to cheekyfuckerville..she's made herself look a complete twat trying to brown nose/impress the whole bloody school.You're best off without her.

Here's more wine 🍷 and more

What could you have said? You can't argue with entitled crazy.

Is she for real? what a first class tit!

I certainly hope she's off your Christmas Card list!

Another vote for the MIL/perjury story!

I wouldn't go back to the PTA lady - you've made the offer now, and it could cause additional drama if you were to back out.

I'd keep an eye on any social media you have for your business, though. I wouldn't put it past someone like that to leave malicious reviews.

Stick to f2 and f3, you're certainly better off without F1...

No need to contact PTA any further.
It will only make you look vindictive and you don't need that.
Sounds like they have got the measure of her, and F2 and F3 seem on your side.

Oh OP hope you're okay?

Remember you have done NOTHING wrong... She has been bang out of order on many levels for her actions, her behaviour and the way she has treated and spoken to you.

Please, please contact the PTA and let them know that she visited your salon this evening with a torrent of abuse..and in light of this, you will no longer be offering the updo which was a goodwill gesture.

We will all help you put something together if needed.

((Hugs))

You have done nothing wrong OP. She is relying on shock tactics and emotional blackmail. Remember that she had all day to think about what she was planning to say and rehearse in her head, and you were completely blindsided on it, so don't feel bad that you weren't some sort of slick wisecracker.

I just want to add that you should keep a hold of all of her texts and copy both threads. That woman is unhinged and she may prove vindictive too! If she starts to besmirch your good name then you need proof!

I would contact the pta lady and explain what she has done. Say that you had hoped to pass the voucher to your friend, however she has been abusive tonight and you are wondering if you should drop the voucher to the school or to the pta lady!

If it was me, I would say that you will stand by your offer to donate a voucher for the up do. However, following the abuse you received tonight you won't be able to contribute to any further school events.

I have never heard of a more breathtakingly skewed idea of her own importance. It sounds like she has long been jealous of you - running your own successful business and with a DH who has a good job too.

She offered your services without your permission or knowledge as her own contribution.
She was annoyed with you when you understandably rang her to enquire about this.
She insisted you should fund her contribution to the school which her children attend and yours don't.
She refused even to pay a small amount towards the costs you would incurr because of her.
She then refused to answer your calls to sort it out.
When you then had to sort things out for yourself (because she wrongly thought you would just roll over and give up) she then began to demand answers from you and your DH.
When she was told in no uncertain terms that she was in the wrong and had behaved appallingly, she then came and blamed you.

If I were you, I would be glad I said nothing. You can have said nothing offensive, nothing she can quote against you apart from expressing your incredulity at her bewildering sense of entitlement.

I do hope the other friends understand and are being kind.

Since she was told that if she did anything else wrong she would be out of the PTA, do you think this might not be the first mistake she has made?

I'm gutted for you, you sound lovely! She sounds like she's been taking advantage of your generosity in the past.