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To think my sister posts too many pictures on Facebook?

110 replies

CatsAreAwesome · 18/10/2017 23:14

Background is, I don’t have children but my little sister is married with toddler aged children.

She lives away from family due to her husbands job and doesn’t know all that many people where she lives.

My problem is, she’s always posting pictures of her kids on Facebook, maybe 3 times a week. She doesn’t tend to update her status or write much, but its these constant pictures she keeps uploading. I get it that she is on her own but I feel like she’s seeking validation or something and it’s grating on me. WIBU to say something to her about this?

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ScarletSienna · 19/10/2017 06:30

I wouldn’t see it as needy so I wouldn’t assume others are thinking the same as you. Lots of people use Facebook as where they save photos and if her privacy settings are tight, sharing family photos is s nice thing (much better than some of the stuff that gets shared!).

Nonameyet1 · 19/10/2017 06:36

I'm going to go against the grain too. I think 3 times a week is too much. However, I strongly dislike children's pictures being plastered all over Facebook from a safety point of view (and a little bit of a personal view.) If there is a family group that only certain members can see this keeps the children in the pictures much safer.

BanyanTree · 19/10/2017 06:41

She lives away from family due to her husbands job and doesn’t know all that many people where she lives.

When I lived away from family with small children I posted lots of photos of them on Facebook so my family and friends could see what my DC were doing. Now I live closer, I don't.

but I feel like she’s seeking validation or something and it’s grating on me
I just think she’s coming across needy. Should I tell her? To save her looking this way to others?

These comments say more about you than her. Obviously there are some underlying issues in your relationship because this just sounds catty and jealous.

MagicFajita · 19/10/2017 06:48

Agree with pps. You don't have to look at her photos do you?

Unfollow or deactivate if it's that annoying.

LaurieFairyCake · 19/10/2017 06:53

3 times a week is NOTHING!

My dog posts a picture of herself most days. She has an interesting life.

I imagine if she was hooman there would be much more.

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 19/10/2017 06:54

nonameyet I kind of get the safety thing but still I would assume that the parent was aware of the safety issues and chosen to post the pictures and I still wouldn't say anything!

WhatwouldAryado · 19/10/2017 06:57

She lives away from family.
She is on her own a lot.
She posts less than every day with pictures of children who are growing quickly (they all do that) so family and friends can see that.
You think That's needy? Does she complain if people ignore (don't "like" them). I very much doubt it.
Also you say you don't have children. What does your day look like? Children are frequently smiling, amusing and do unexpected things so good pictures can be taken readily of them. Other stuff (laundry, the same old desk at work) aren't necessarily changing enough to photograph. Parents do tend to take a lot of pictures of children.
If you're not interested then unfollow.

mygorgeousmilo · 19/10/2017 07:00

You're a miserable cow! I'm sure your sister is better off having moved away!

Issummeroveryet · 19/10/2017 07:01

If she lives away from all her family, maybe she thinks as you don't see her dc very often in person you'd like to see regular updates on them as any normal family member would Hmm 3 a week is not excessive

vlooby · 19/10/2017 07:02

In the grand scheme of Facebook it's not that bad but I see what you mean. I don't have any photos of my daughter on Facebook despite living miles away from all Close family. We use Lifecake to share or I whatsapp to friends.

I have a couple of friends who have struggled with and never overcome fertility issues. In the past they've mentioned how upsetting it place Facebook can be for them and I'm conscious of that.
Also don't like the idea of people I haven't seen for years etc seeing constant pictures of my baby!

Mulberry72 · 19/10/2017 07:04

She lives away from Family? I’m not surprised if they’re all as judgemental and petty as you OP!

Just click the unfollow button if you do t like seeing photos of your nieces/nephews.

3 times a week is NOT a lot.

peachgreen · 19/10/2017 07:05

This must surely be a reverse?!

Uokbing · 19/10/2017 07:08

Reverse.

Or DM journalist with a brief to post about something really mundane.

Rachie1973 · 19/10/2017 07:13

Has to be a reverse.

If not. Butt out. Not your business. Not your problem.

riseandfall · 19/10/2017 07:20

3 times a week is nothing, come back OP fgs and tell us why you are being so mardy?

MrsPicklesonSmythe · 19/10/2017 07:27

I'm disappointed on days my sister doesn't post pictures on Instagram, I love seeing my niece. Such a weird thread.

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CatsAreAwesome · 19/10/2017 07:29

This isn’t a reverse. I just felt like it was a bit excessive but clearly I’m in the wrong here. She paints out that she has this perfect life on Facebook and I suppose that irritates me as it can’t be half as perfect as she makes out. I’ve taken your advice on board and I’ll keep my thoughts to myself.

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FakePlasticTeaLeaves · 19/10/2017 07:30

From your last post, you sound quite jealous. You should be happy for her.

Rachie1973 · 19/10/2017 07:32

You are jealous!

It might be as perfect as it gets to her.

I have a hubby with a dicky ticker, some of my grandchildren live miles away, I have work problems. But I'm happy! My life to me is 'perfect'.

It shouldn't irritate you. You should be happy for her.

CazY777 · 19/10/2017 07:33

Cut her some slack. It's hard being away from all your friends and family. I post pictures if we've been out somewhere as it's nice to connect with other people and get a few comments, and my family like to see what we've been up to.

GinIsIn · 19/10/2017 07:34

Take steps to manage your jealousy rather than pass your nasty attitude on to your sister.

KarmaNoMore · 19/10/2017 07:40

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Ecureuil · 19/10/2017 07:42

Wow, don’t you sound lovely Hmm. I post maybe once every 3-4 weeks, I have a friend who posts pictures of her children 3-4 times a week. I like seeing pictures of her children. They’re lovely children! I don’t get how it’s needy? Unless she’s specifically posting for likes (and how would you know if that’s the case?) then what is needy about wanting to share pictures?

Mulberry72 · 19/10/2017 07:46

Her life can’t be as perfect as she makes out? Well aren’t you a delight?

Her life may be perfect to her! You sound jealous and bitter.

Urglewurgle · 19/10/2017 07:46

I put loads on too. DD is only 5 weeks and my family live in another city. Lots of people are still 'liking' them so I don't see the problem...