To buy my DD lots of pink things?

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After recent comments from family members, I’m hoping you can help me to figure out if I’m getting this massively wrong.

DD1 is 4. She is very obsessed with the colour pink. She loves dolls and she loves make up (glued herself to my side while I do mine every morning). If given a choice of products, she always wants pink.

When she was younger, I gave her very much a mixture of toys & games and certainly didn’t always choose the more stereotypically girly option although I possibly did buy more pink than blue. Her preferences were clear very early on in terms of toys & books etc.

It has just been her birthday, I don’t buy her much throughout the year so buy her quite few bits & bobs that she has asked for at her birthdays. As expected, these were all very much “pink & fluffy”.

The way I see it is if had a son and he liked these things (the things which my DD does), i wouldn’t force trucks, diggers & superheroes on him. I’d follow his lead, as I’ve done with DD.

Basically, I’ve had family members saying she should be given more gender neutral toys etc and having a bit of a dig at me. Have I got this whole thing wrong? Should I get her the gender neutral option rather than the pink one, if she likes the pink one best?

It's only a colour likes the colour so get her it.

You can get pink trains, pink cars, pink fecking kiddy hammer drills etc etc.......lets face it, if her favourite colour was red or blue no one would care.

Not that it makes any difference, in ten years time she'll still be walking ten steps ahead.of you,as she channels her inner EMO or whatever the current trend is.

lass yes...that's the idea...to cancel out the stereotyping coming form society.

So society telling my girl that she needs to be pretty, her value is in her looks and her friendships/caring roles. I tell her her value is her strength her intellect and she shouldn't be judge or judge on looks.

Society is telling my boy that his value is in being strong, fierce, smart and a financial provider. I tell him his value is in understanding his emotions, being caring....oh and not to judge women on their looks...

So between me and societal stereotypes we hopefully generate two whole people...instead of two half people.

My daughter loves pink much to my attempts to put her off and explain that she can choose any colour. However I would be wasting my money if I bought stuff that she didn't like because she is so strong willed she would refuse to wear clothes she's doesn't like. A friend bought her jeggings for her birthday and she won't entertain them. She is very into dresses. Honestly I'm not sure she's mine but I love her independence and wouldn't want her any other way.