Christmas presents

[Collienova]

I know it's only October, but....
I would like to do a 'want one, need one, wear one, read one' Christmas for DD5, but DH seems to be implying it's unreasonable. She's got plenty, I don't want her to think Christmas is all about presents. I want to spend time with her, baking, making things, walks etc
She's still get presents from family and a gifts from Father Christmas. I'm being made to feel like I'd be depriving her somehow???

The first year I had my foster children I bought about the same as my mum and dad used to buy for me. So a big present, quite a few smaller ones and a stocking. But I hadn't factored in the fact that they would get stuff from their mum and dad plus all my family and my husband's family. It was obscene the amount they got. The last 2 years I've really cut down and they get the think they ask for (within reason) plus smallish stocking from 'Santa' and some new clothes from me. We still can't see the living room floor once all other presents have been opened.

This year I've had a baby as well who will be 6 months. I'm not buying her anything as I know she'll get loads from family.

Not buying many gifts is a good option, not buying many gifts because you have a weird rule is not, what if you find two truly meaningful and ideal christmas jumpers that would make ideal loved gifts for your partner, and no books at all would you really not get them one of the awesome jumpers and instead some book he'd only be meh about?
Something to wear is my idea of a wasted present. But what I loved about Christmas as a child was getting a pile of books. And they'd keep me going for ages because I'd read and re-read all my books. Books, a big Lego set, and some sweets and I'd be well-chuffed. Or even without the sweets. Lots to read, something to play - that's my present motto

My DD loves onesies even at 5, but it's something we don't really get throughout the year so I'm going to get her a fluffy one or a scoobie doo one and she will definitely think that that's a great present. They definitely don't have the be boring! I like is the idea of a subscription mentioned below for the 'read' part - she would love that!

Going against the grain here. Sorry. If you and you DP are on opposing sides how about do a bit of both. Maybe include a family theatre ticket or day out thing as a gift to be used later. That way you also get a family outing and a special gift to open.

As a child I remember a pile of presents, family gatherings and all the other stuff. Long runs in the car looking at the decorations in the houses, baking, snowy walks (this was the 80's when we actually had snow in december) cutting and dragging a tree home and decorating all day into the night. Its possible to give more gifts and not spoil a child. Perhaps if there is a special gift that is really really wanted then you could consider adding that too.

@Leaveinautumn I was referring to the OP where she said she was being made to feel she's depriving her DD by her dp. My DC get wayyy too much, even last year when dh's whole family-friendly from mil and fil "forgot" our DC (so 5 aunts/uncles, adult neice, ggp great etc) even though they're the only children in the family and they see the family a minimum of once a month. Even if the same happens this year we're sticking to the 3gifts we buy, each to their own.