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To ask what your DP/DH does that you love the most?

163 replies

ethelfleda · 14/10/2017 18:16

Inspired by another thread Wink
and because there is a lot of negative stuff about people's partners on here

I love that my DH can make me laugh so much and completely turn my mood around when I have had a bad day.

I love that he is so good at DIY - and has spent nearly every weekend for months doing our house up for the arrival of our first child (due in November) while constantly telling me to put my feet up Grin

I love that he is charming, charismatic, straight talking and very talented Smile

Anyone else?

OP posts:
EmmaJR1 · 15/10/2017 07:06

I’m a bit high maintenance and he NEVER gets cross with me, always makes me laugh when I’m trying to argue so we have to talk it out, He works so hard so I can be part time, he helped me make our son and now our next LO will arrive in 7 months!
He deals with my odd family and treats them so respectfully even when they don’t always deserve it. He’s my cheerleader especially when I can’t do it myself.

Autumnleaves105 · 15/10/2017 07:37

He's loving, patient, kind, understanding and generous.
He makes me laugh so much! He tidies up after me and always does the washing up after I've cooked.
He's a great dad to our son.
He's been through a lot in his life and he's such a good person.
He tells me he loves me and tells me I'm beautiful even though I've put on weight since we've been together.
We get on so well and I couldn't imagine my life without him.

Florence16 · 15/10/2017 07:49

My DH does some really basic things that I love because it makes me feel looked after.

He always goes and gets the takeaway
He puts my phone on charge at night when I fall asleep with it next to my face
He tells me my tea is ready to drink
He cleans the bathrooms before I get home one day each week (I have OCD and I HATE the bathrooms)
He takes the dogs out to the loo first thing when they wake because if not and I do it I can't get back to sleep and am up for the day from 5 ish

speakout · 15/10/2017 07:57

It's so refreshing to hear of all these lovely men.

Mumsnet is so full of men bashing and all men are bastards type attitude.

My man is lovely too. Does all the house stuff I hate. Treats me like a goddess. Totally devoted to me and our children. He loves cooking, loves shopping. Very attentive lover. Earns a good salary. Makes me hoot with laughter.

gunsandbanjos · 15/10/2017 08:05

He's amazing and I can't wait for the privilege of being his wife in 6 weeks.
He's caring and selfless and empowers me to be the best version of myself and I hope I do the same for him.

We are truly a partnership.

Original poster
ethelfleda · 15/10/2017 08:31

Another one for mine-
When we found out I was expecting our first earlier this year, he worked his backside off and negotiated a pay rise with his boss so we could afford for me to take a year off. This was while also working his back side off doing DIY at the weekends!

Also, he has just quit smoking. He was a regular 20 a day person but has just quit cold turkey. He has been off them a week so far and has barely complained! Something else he has done for our family Smile

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JoanLenin · 15/10/2017 08:33

I can't put it here because it's X rated.

ILoveMillhousesDad · 15/10/2017 08:38

My dh does ALL the ironing. My worst chore.

His diy skills are beyond compare. He will give anything a go. He's given up so many weekends of his life to make our home gorgeous.

He has an absolute shite job in probation where everything has just been privatised and he just gets on with it even tho it is an absolute horror of a job.

He drives everywhere cos I hate driving.

He always walks the shop for snacks.

I just love him so much.

maddiemookins16mum · 15/10/2017 08:39

Mine also loves our cat (she was mine before we met). Fluffballmookins adores DP, she lies in his arms gazing adoringly into his eyes.
DP also cries at things I do and is not ashamed to show it.
He also made me tea and toast in bed 20 minutes ago and has said we're going out today for lunch (in Canterbury).
He also does the ironing, ALL of it, I've not ironed in over a decade.

Misstomrs · 15/10/2017 08:53

This is a great thread.
He's crap at DIY, more scared of spiders than me, and needed a bit of chat about housework. We've had some tricky times but
Just coming home to him and our DS makes me smile.
I can be a bit of a stress head but he never gets cross with me, just tries to help.
He does the 'little things' takeaways, little presents etc
He gets up with DS every morning so I can have a lie in.
He never complains that my badly managed delivery means we still can't have sex easily over a year after DS was born.
He tells me he loves me every day.
He is the best man I have ever met.

thegreylady · 15/10/2017 08:55

He is a wonderful father and stepfather.
All his grandchildren adore him (Grandad's pesto features in the primary school cookery book).
He is a wonderful cook and always cleans the kitchen afterwards.
He is the kindest most gentle man I know.
He is always thoughtful of me and others.
He never tries to impose his strong religious and political views on others.
He makes me tea in bed every morning.
What's not to love?

FatherDickByrne · 15/10/2017 09:00

Mine does all the shopping, cooking & ironing. Makes me breakfast in bed. Drops me at the station & picks me up again later. Volunteers for a homeless charity. He's sweet & kind & funny. Loving & loyal. He's a messy git but I quite enjoy tidying up so we are well matched. Oh and I find him very handsome. Especially when he grows his stubble at weekends Smile

Teddy7878 · 15/10/2017 09:06

we don't live together but he will often come over and mow my lawn without me asking as he knows I hate doing it. He also brings me my favourite flowers a lot and will send me texts out the blue telling me I'm beautiful and he'll love me forever. Plus I just fancy the pants off him as he's drop dead gorgeous

paia · 15/10/2017 10:06

He makes me a coffee in the morning while I stay in bed with the baby.
He is very level-headed and can stay calm even when I am being over emotional and unreasonable, which means rows tend not to escalate.
He is very silly and playful with me, we bring out the big kid in each other. We have an immense amount of injokes and silly games.
After ten years together we are very in tune. Quite often I have a thought and just as I'm about to say it, he will come out with exactly what I'm thinking.
We have a fantastic time on holiday together as we like doing all the same kind of things.
He is beautiful to look at.
While our sex life isn't much to write home about, he has never ceased to be really affectionate and loving.
He is generous and kind hearted.
I can be myself, totally, around him. He is very non judgemental, more than anyone else I know.
He's a great dad to our DC.
He makes me feel very secure.

Orangebutterfly · 15/10/2017 19:29

We've been married for 21 years and met when we were 16.

He makes me a cup of tea every morning while I am getting dressed for work. Always tells me that I look good. He looks after himself too by healthy eating and regular exercise. An extremely hard worker. He's built up his own business by himself to a very high standard. He's the perfect role model for our 2 boys. Very calm and collected.

Never complains if I have spent too much on shoes/clothes. I am very spoilt!

I love him as much now as I did the day we met.

Brittbugs80 · 15/10/2017 20:05

We find out on Monday if his cancer has spread and I am shitting myself that I won't get to grow old with him

I hope you both get the best news possible. Thinking of you x

ijustwantfiveminutespeace · 15/10/2017 20:09

Where did you all meet these wonderful men?
I love that there is so much love out there. Usually most things are hating on your partners.
I knew God sent wonderful men, now where to find one......................! 🤔🤔🤔🤥

Littlegreyauditor · 15/10/2017 20:42

He is the kindest, most decent person I ever met.
He makes me tea every morning.
He does great foot rubs.
He does all the cooking (bomb site kitchen afterwards but I can deal with that). He even built little enclosed steps so our children can cook and bake with him in safety.
He captures all the spiders and gently puts them out, because even though they terrify me I don’t want them dead.
He tolerates my senile, incontinent cat who has filled our house with a variety of hair-balls, regurgitations and unsavoury smells for the last two years and who very recently boaked in DH’s favourite shoes.
Even though he is terrified of horses he mucked out my elderly horse every day when I was pregnant, and a few years later brought me tea, blankets and hot water bottles when I sat, in the middle of winter at 6am, holding that horse as he died.
He has since bought me a Shetland pony, who also terrifies him, and when I get home from my late night at work he will have fed and sorted her out so she doesn’t have to wait on me. He fears her, but doesn’t want her to be stressed and I think that’s incredibly sweet.

There’s loads more, but I think that’s a good starter list.

threadarick · 15/10/2017 21:11

Just everything - he’s unfailingly kind, funny, intelligent, and my best friend who tells (and shows) how much he loves me constantly. He does the majority of housework and cooking. He’s never once been rude or insulting, he’s just a genuinely lovely person, and handsome too.

After an abusive childhood where I wasn’t really cared for, I’m only too aware of how lucky I was to meet him, and dread the thought of him dying. I wouldn’t be here today without him. Flowers to everyone who’s suffered loss, I can’t begin to imagine.

Cleanermaidcook · 15/10/2017 21:14

He holds my hand - everywhere, just sat on the couch, in bed, when we're out anywhere

He notices when I'm knackered and just does extra chores that are usually my responsibility without being asked

He tells me he loves me all the time and means it

He works away a lot and always brings the nice toiletries and buscits home for me from posh hotels instead of just using them himself

He spends all his money on me and the kids, never himself

He's very loving, always gives me a cuddle and isn't afraid to show affection in front of other people

xqwertyx · 15/10/2017 21:14

Fab thread OP, love the responses too. Smile

Dowser · 15/10/2017 21:25

My male friend who has split up with his long term female partner would like to meet the female version of my husband.

He really doesn't mind coming shopping with me and does 90-95 per cent of what I want to do. Restaurants, holiday places, cinema, theatre etc

If he really doesn't want to do something we don't.
End of.
He really doesn't want to do a cruise but he would as I've never been on one

Dowser · 15/10/2017 21:27

He does all shopping, cooking and a lot of cleaning and sees to the laundry

He hates ironing so I try to make sure I do his shirts

Dowser · 15/10/2017 21:30

Oh daisy drip and Maggie. Sorry for your loss and hope surgery goes well.

My dh isn't very good at diy. That's ok

JustHope · 15/10/2017 21:34

He’s a great cook and is always thinking and planning of nice food and things to enjoy as a family at the weekend.
He can tell by looking at me if I’ve had a shit day and he knows how to make me feel better
He make me laugh and gives the best hugs
He’s my best friend