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To ask what your DP/DH does that you love the most?

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ethelfleda · 14/10/2017 18:16

Inspired by another thread Wink
and because there is a lot of negative stuff about people's partners on here

I love that my DH can make me laugh so much and completely turn my mood around when I have had a bad day.

I love that he is so good at DIY - and has spent nearly every weekend for months doing our house up for the arrival of our first child (due in November) while constantly telling me to put my feet up Grin

I love that he is charming, charismatic, straight talking and very talented Smile

Anyone else?

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QuackingHell · 14/10/2017 19:55

Gets up with our toddler and baby every day who think that the day starts at 5am so I can lie in after the night feeds.
There's lots but in my still sleep deprived state that's the only one I can think of/am most grateful for Grin

onemorecakeplease · 14/10/2017 19:55

He's a good fixer - can fix almost anything

He makes me laugh - more than anyone else I've ever met

He is thoughtful - even if it's just coming home eith a Diet Coke for me as he knows I have had a long day!

AccidentalyRunToWindsor · 14/10/2017 19:57

@FloControl he can be a right arse as well don't worry!

Moanyoldcow · 14/10/2017 20:01

That he's an utterly patient kind and generous person with his time and affection. He is a wonderful dad and he cooks pretty much every single night. He makes sure I never doubt how much he loves our family life.

Pigface1 · 14/10/2017 20:05

He's not great with words but he's so, so affectionate. He insists on giving me a cuddle every evening on the sofa, every night in bed, and every morning before we get up.

HanarCantWearSweaters · 14/10/2017 20:21

I've loved reading all these stories. I thought I'd get upset or bitter or feel hopeless that I haven't had and don't believe I will experience something like this but it's quite the opposite. I feel very hopeful just now. I know, rationally, that good men exist but I don't think I've ever quite believed it fully, I guess. Just lovely reading. Flowers

Bobbiepin · 14/10/2017 20:22

Every night when he gets into bed (I go to bed much earlier than him) he strokes my back or leg for a while, so I know he's there.

There's a million things but it all comes down to knowing my life is better because he is in it. I'm 27, married, about to have our first baby, we own our own home and I'm in a great job. He's not made everything possible but my life would certainly be different without him. He's the driving force behind my motivation.

wineusuallyhelps · 14/10/2017 20:24

Is unwavering in his belief that no one compares to how attractive I am and still seems to find me really exciting after all these years Blush

Does all the shit jobs so I don’t have to. Literally...don’t think I’ve ever cleaned dog poo off our children’s shoes!

Wants very little for himself and prefers to buy things for the rest of us.

We have had some very low points and undoubtedly will in future, but when the chips are down, his aim is to make me happy and does his best to achieve that.

Madbum · 14/10/2017 20:28

Kindness and forgiveness, even when I’m a snappy hormonal witch he will scoop me up in his arms and kiss me on the forehead. He’s never once in 11 years snapped at me or got annoyed at me even when I’ve deserved it, he’s a bloody saint.

RavenLG · 14/10/2017 20:50

He puts the kettle on for me in the morning if he leaves before me. If he doesn't he makes me a coffee.

He picks me up from work even though it's in the opposite direction just because he knows I hate getting the bus.

He gets rid of spiders for me even though he's just as terrified of them as I am.

He always kisses me and tells me he loves me before he leaves the house.

He knows when I'm having a panic attack just to hold me and helps me through it.

He supported us both when I struggled with depression for a year and had to quit my job.

He always knows how to make me smile.

goose1964 · 14/10/2017 20:54

Cooks most days and does the bins.

FeedMeAndTellMeImPretty · 14/10/2017 20:55

My DP gives me a lovely foot rub every evening he's here.

He tells me I'm beautiful and that he loves me in different ways each time. (e.g. have I told you lately that you're my best friend? Have I told you lately that you make me laugh? etc. mixing it up between being physical attraction and appreciating my other qualities!)

He takes me out for lunch at least once a week.

He is awesome in the bedroom, spending up to an hour making sure I'm completely happy before its his turn.

He tries hard to learn from any disagreements we have and is always good at apologising every time whenever he's in the wrong.

I could probably write a few for the other thread, but I need to concentrate more on the positive in life, so I decided to contribute to this one instead!

bianglala · 14/10/2017 20:55

He booked me a massage today for a surprise and takes a very good care of me even at my lowest point.

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ethelfleda · 14/10/2017 20:56

These posts have made me so happy Smile

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Divingheadfirst · 14/10/2017 20:57

Gets my humour.
Can make me laugh usually in any circumstances.
Gives me a long lie each weekend.
Works so hard to support our family.
Genuinely appreciates my input as a SAHM.
Thinks im the best mum in the world.

WhooooAmI24601 · 14/10/2017 20:58

He makes me laugh.

He makes us all his priority.

He is the completely best Dad to the DC.

He feeds the cats at 5am so I can stay in bed.

He tells me when I'm being a dick.

He is the most kind-hearted person I know.

FeedMeAndTellMeImPretty · 14/10/2017 21:01

Oh and he makes spreadsheets of holiday plans to work out the best hotels based on the things that are important to me (to work out "the FeedMe factor"). He pays for me to travel to some amazing places and stay in lovely hotels.

llangennith · 14/10/2017 21:07

Divorced years ago now for different reasons but I loved that even if we were at loggerheads, if someone else had upset me he was totally there for me.

maddiemookins16mum · 14/10/2017 21:07

Plays with my hair (I've always loved that, since a child).
Kisses my head.
Does funny things that always make me laugh.
Is endlessly kind and supportive.
I could go on, but I feel blessed every day.

intheairthatnightfernando · 14/10/2017 21:29

I’m finding it so interesting reading this. I am divorced, exH left two years ago. Prior to him leaving, I’d have felt sad reading these lovely accounts of good men. As I felt I had a good man, but he didn’t make me feel good if that makes sense. I’m now with a new DP and I feel I can contribute, though it feels weird using DP on Mumsnet after using DH for so long.

I love how when he’s busy doing something, if he catches my eye he just beams. I love how loving he is to my kids and how happily we’re all merging together. I love that he reads and talks about books. I love how he makes me laugh through being utterly ridiculous.

Mammylamb · 14/10/2017 21:32

Every morning he makes up my packed lunch and a thermal cup full of tea for me to take on the commute

Lionroar · 14/10/2017 21:37

He's kind and thoughtful and generous and funny

He's a good dad and very patient.

Does the washing up and gets rid of spiders for me.

He's a solver. If I'm stuck he'll think of practical way to help.

He doesn't think of looking after d's in the evening of I'm going out as babysitting

He loves shit reality telly with me

FeedMeAndTellMeImPretty · 14/10/2017 21:38

Also he's about to pop over for a kiss and a cuddle and is bringing me McDonalds Smile Couldn't ask for more.

thenightsky · 14/10/2017 21:54

He's brought me a cup of tea in bed every morning for the last 37 years if not away with work.

He steam cleans the floors when I'm out at park run every Saturday morning.

When DC would wake at 4.30am he would get up, dress them warmly, put in buggy and take them and dog out for long rural walk whilst I slept. Even when it was frosty and dark.

suckitupbuttercups · 14/10/2017 21:57

Makes me a cup of coffee every morning and evening.
And accepts there may be extra children staying for however long without question.
Accepts and helps me cook extra food we can’t really afford to and drives it to people he doesn’t know, because I say they need it.
He has many faults but the unfailing belief he has in me and trust that I’m doing the right thing is so much more important Grin