I know IABU but...

[FuckMyUterus]

So... I'm in a group (totally unrelated to TTC) and there happens to be a lady in there who does fertility readings. She and I got chatting, I explained I am TTC and she pointed me over to her tarot page. She has pages and pages of reviews from people whose pregnancies she has correctly predicted, both conception months and due date months etc. She ran a competition for a free 10 card reading and I won. I have received my reading and am devastated. She has told me that I have some medical issues relating to fertility, and that the liklihood is that I will need medical intervention to conceive and that even then, I am unlikely to have a baby with my partner.
This has really, really upset me. Things she mentioned in the reading are so accurate in other aspects that it's ridiculous, so I am convinced that she's right about the whole lot.
I don't even know why I'm posting but I guess I just need a few virtual slaps and to be told to get a grip of myself

I thought psychics weren't morally supposed to tell you bad news.

I think that anyone claiming to be a psychic is probably not following any consistent moral code.

I don't believe in tarot...but from conversations with those that use them they seemed to use them as a tool to explore issues rather than 'fortune telling'.

I don't see how someone can predict the future from what is, essentially, a deck of playing cards.

Load of rubbish!

This woman is a charlatan. Any success or accuracy she may have had is coincidental or taken as truth because it's what people want to hear. Personally I think she's taking advantage of vulnerable people and I would steer well clear of her.

Is there any way that she knows you have been TTC for 18 months?

I thought the same, but she knew things, like how many months we have been ttc which only me and my partner know.

18 months is a sensible guess, not proof of mystic powers. I would've guessed that without even meeting you.

6 months ttc before shit gets real... speaking to a Dr (just in case) and starting calculating etc

Another 6 months before starting getting worried (because @12 months is the time for 35+ to get concerned)

At 18months shit gets real. At 18 months it's probably been a whole year since u spoke to a dr or bought test kits or started calculating/charting. At 18 months you would consider speaking to a quack. Like I'm guessing the majority of people who fall into that trap.

Get a grip.

You and your dp are doing a great job. Don't let this foolishness harm your wellbeing

You told her you were TTC. Nobody without any concerns would even mention that - why would they? So she knows you have issues that worry you. Nobody without worries even bothers to talk to someone who says they are a Tarot reader, because the 'oh yes, your life is fine, everyone likes you, yep, all good,' isn't exactly memorable or worth anyone's time.

So she knew you were TTC and that you were worried about it. You won't even remember her if you conceive tomorrow. If you DON'T, then you will remember, and you may use her services when you think your OH is cheating/your mother has lost her engagement ring/your best friend doesn't speak to you...

That's how it works.

Meant to say 18 months shit gets really real

Absolute charlatan she’s conning people who are gullible out of money she’s dispicable

It is of course utter bollocks & personally I think she's a twat for doing you that kind of reading So fucking insensitive.

Okay, I definitely need to get a grip... There is no way she could have known, as I said this post is the first place I have mentioned the amount of time, however it is a sensible guess. Starting to get less upset amd quite angry! How dare she do this to vulnerable people? Can't even leave a negative review as I'm sure that would be met with criticism in itself from people who believe her.

Fertility readings? WTF!

Just bloody ignore!

You can't possibly believe in this sort of utter bollocks?

As above, 18 months is quite a likely informed guess, it's when people start to worry a bit more and she can probably read that from your face.

Equally, once she knew she had got 18 months right, she then guesses based on the amount of time, and guess is exactly what she is doing.

She is nasty, preying on people at their most vulnerable.

See a doctor if you want but don't listen to this woman. Avoid her socially if at all possible.

Did you see her in person? And did she tell you anything else that was accurate?

Tarot card readings are a bag of shite - they just are. It’s nonsense, the whole shebang of psychics and tarot cards and nonsense like that. They read people, they read situations, they research - they can be skilled con artists whether they do it for a monetary profit, a feeling of being superior, needed, as an ego boost, as a social experience- it’s a game.
I had the horrible misfortune of having to support someone who turned to psychics after a sudden death - Jesus (all puns intended), it opened my eyes to the grabbiness of it all, the disregard for people’s feelings, it was just horrible, grabby, squalid.

It took me a lot longer to conceive my first child than I ever imagined, it was heartbreaking, bleak and I was so desperate and angry and sad. Please just disregard what this eejit is peddling, they don’t do it out of the goodness of their hearts - there’s always a plan to extract something somewhere.

I use tarot. I don't believe they tell the future. Bits of card cannot predict your fertility.

@dangermouseisace is right.

She's softening you up for the hard sell, that's all. It will start with more readings, then an offer of magic beans, then an introduction to a fellow con artist who will offer you different magic beans.

All these people are either deluded fucking idiots, or scammers. This woman is a scammer, because the deluded idiots are generally well-meaning and consider themselves ethical, so simply wouldn't give you such a nasty message. Even if they thought their woo toys had told them you had fertility issues, it would be very, very vaguely and gently put, such as suggesting you see a doctor or eat more healthy food or something.

OK to be fair some people use tarot cards as a kind of meditation tool (either for themselves or to give 'readings') but that's starting from a point of: you know the answers or could figure them out for yourself, and looking at the interesting pictures can sometimes help you think more imaginatively about a problem, or remind you of something helpful.

But that's not what this scammer is doing. Not at all.

I read Tarot cards. They can be surprisingly accurate sometimes (law of averages/ reader is a good psychologist/ querent unwittingly offers information), but it really is just a bit of fun - though not for you, obviously.

I can promise you that SHE CANNOT SEE ANYTHING LIKE THIS IN THE CARDS!

And even if she could, it would be horribly unprofessional to say so (for instance, if I saw/guessed something that worried me I might say - "You are concerned about your health, I think - it would be best to see your GP so that s/he can set your mind at rest, otherwise you will worry yourself sick about it.")

But as I say, even people who have deep faith in the accuracy of Tarot cards are aware that they help by allowing us to access information we are subconsciously aware of, in the same way that meditation does.

THEY DO NOT PREDICT. THEY ARE NOT WRITTEN IN STONE. NOTHING IS "FOR DEFINITE" ABOUT THE FUTURE.

Whoever she is, she has behaved appallingly. If she is a member of any tarot organisation (e.g. Tarot Association of Great Britain) report her.

And never mind about all of the glowing testimonials she has - they may be fake, and even if not, I can bet you that there are at least as many clients who would say that she is rubbish and totally inaccurate .

See your doctor. Get reassurance. Don't waste another moment of your life on this charlatan. She's on a power-trip.

She is a nasty person who feeds of other people's problems. She knows nothing about your health or fertility.

Good luck with ttc.

So called psychics are very good at reading people, not man-made 2-dimensional objects or in this case, since I gather it was an online reading, virtual cards, aka pixels and bits and bytes, 0s and 1s. You know it's rubbish, and now you're annoyed with yourself. Don't beat yourself up! These folk know how to press your buttons.

Even better to hear this from people who read tarot cards themselves. I have literally just inputted the cards she told me I had into Google and it says NOTHING in common with anything she says except for one of the cards which seems to have a universal meaning. What an idiot

If it helps, someone did a reading for me (I don't believe in tarot at all, but she was persistent) and she told me that I would never have any children. She also told me that I would be divorced within a couple of years.
25 years on, I'm still married and I have four children.
If she gave you lovely news for your free reading, where would the incentive be to keep going back in the hope of better news, or further guidance?

No - you are not an idiot. You are a woman trying to conceive who has been waiting a little while. Remember that on average it takes two years to conceive - that is average, some women fall pregnant straight away, others, for no apparent reason, may take several years.

Obviously, as you are longing of a baby you are more vulnerable than someone who isn't. Worries build up in us and when we are vulnerable they can take us over. And horribly, the more anxious couple is, the harder it may be to conceive - Nature can be a bugger like that!

You aren't stupid at all.

Just curious - what cards turned up in your reading?