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Teacher 'donated' Dds money!

435 replies

WoWoWorrier · 13/10/2017 13:55

My daughter has a knack for 'finding pennies'. She is 8. She collects the 5ps/10ps she finds for sweeties and the 1ps and 2ps go in a piggy bank until it's full. She find a them outside on the floor.

On the way to school yesterday she was saying that she wanted a mini figit spinner from the machine outside our local newsagents.
She had been super good this week and I was already planning on giving her £2 as a reward but she said 'I might find a pound!' So to humour her 'abilities' I dropped a pound a few minutes later and she spotted it.

She was super excited.

When I picked her up from school she was quiet and when we got near the ship I asked her if she wanted to get her toy she told me she had been telling her friend she had found a pound on the way to school and the teacher said it wasn't hers to spend and told her to put it in the classroom charity collection box!!

Aibu to demand it back and be quite pissed off?

OP posts:
annawoolfworries · 13/10/2017 16:51

So many idiots on this thread. I hope you've all been returning dropped pennies to the police station if you've seen any. OP ask the teacher for the quid back.

paxillin · 13/10/2017 16:54

And I think jam should always be organic, which is as relevant to this as "I do think that children should hand in money they find in school", MaisyPops. It wasn't found in school or found at all. OP just chose a weird way of giving it to her DD.

DaisysStew · 13/10/2017 16:56

The money wasn't not found in school. And for all the people saying "what if it was someone's lunch money" well that kid would still be hungry because the teacher made no effort to find the owner and put it in the charity box.

DaisysStew · 13/10/2017 16:57

I don't know why it says wasn't not Grin

MaisyPops · 13/10/2017 16:58

paxillin
I agree it's an odd way to give it to her child.

I've also said I wouldn't have done what the teacher did either.

To be honest, I find the entire scavange for money on the floor day to day to be totally weird. I can see why I'm with other posters who were saying that if this is going to be a 'thing' with OP and her child then it is worth pointing out when it's more appropriate to hand money in (e.g. if you see money at school).

Katedotness1963 · 13/10/2017 16:59

The point in the OP is that the £1 was not lost/found, but belonged to the OP. The money was not found on school property. The teacher took it from the OP daughter without finding out the whole story.

fairyofallthings · 13/10/2017 16:59

If my children find money on the street they have to put it in a charity collection box, one of their choice. They know this and it's not a problem. You are just encouraging your child to think that money she finds on the street is hers to keep when it's not.

CorbynsBumFlannel · 13/10/2017 17:00

The way the op 'gave' the money to her dd is relevant though as she will have told the teacher she found it rather than her mother gave it to her as that's what she thought had happened.

BaconAndBees · 13/10/2017 17:00

I'm with the teacher. Where do you draw the line if you encourage her to pick up other people's money? Surely honesty/ integrity is something you want to instill in your children. Or maybe not?

Katedotness1963 · 13/10/2017 17:01

I read a newspaper article that said a lot of people throw coppers away as they can't be bothered carrying the extra weight of them around...

Ta1kinPeece · 13/10/2017 17:02

Bacon
So if you are walking along a busy street and see 50p on the pavement, do you leave it for the person behind you ?
Or do you pick it up ?

Pengggwn · 13/10/2017 17:02

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NikiBabe · 13/10/2017 17:03

A few things here.

Your DD needs a new hobby. Scavenging for small change is a bit grim.

Planting money teaches that it is easy to come by.

Perhaps a lesson in keeping her mouth shut also? It couldn't have been taken if she'd told told anyone about it.

CotswoldStrife · 13/10/2017 17:03

So what did you do OP?

This is not a game I play with my own DD, I hope she would ignore any money on the floor as it's not hers! It can be left you know!

Does she tell her friends often that she has found money? Is that why the teacher took a stand against it this time?

bastardkitty · 13/10/2017 17:05

What annawoolfworries said

2014newme · 13/10/2017 17:05

My dd found £15. She handed it in. 2 weeks later they posted it to her. She was very happy she'd handed it in.

youarenotkiddingme · 13/10/2017 17:06

When camped in France many years ago it was a standing joke in my family about my ability to find 10F coins on the floor. Busy tourist resort so no way of knowing who dropped it.
I always shared it by buying cherrois or something for me and siblings to share.

It's not made me a dishonest person.

In fact I have handed in varying amounts of cash as an adult found in the street - including £80 once that wasn't claimed.
I also dropped a £20 next voucher that a teen handed in to police and I rewarded them by sending tenner with a thanks for being so honest and saying I felt honesty should be rewarded.

The teacher hasn't encouraged honesty or be reasonable. She's simply heard a snapshot of a conversation and 'told' the child what to do with the money. All she's learnt is adults can be mean.

Ohwell14 · 13/10/2017 17:09

2014nnewme

Come on, she wasn't happy she handed it in. She was glad she got it back.

Can't believe people would be marching their kid to the nearest charity box if they found a quid in the street. Hmm

AndrewJames · 13/10/2017 17:09

The teacher was right

Of course she was not! If it wasn't the childs, then it certainly wasn't the teachers to take.

AndrewJames · 13/10/2017 17:10

I hope she would ignore any money on the floor as it's not hers! It can be left you know!

What for? In the hope it might sprout roots and turn into a money tree?

2014newme · 13/10/2017 17:10

She never thought for a moment she could keep the 15 so it was a bit surprise when she opened the letter and there it was. She very happily spent it

Bunnyhipsdontliegrl · 13/10/2017 17:10

Baconandbeans how is it honest to takes someone's money and give it to a charity they might not like. You either leave it on the floor or pick it up keep it.

As for integrity. It's some bloody pennies. Up on your high horse much? How many times a week will you find a pound or more? It's alright to use common sense my daughter can pick up and keep the money if there is no way to trace who it does belongs to. She has also seen me going back to a shop or the bank when I realised they had make a mistake in my favour. We also give her too smal clothes and not played with anympre toys to charity every 6 months. But yes she finds pennies every day (sometimes looks for it on the way back from school) and I allow her to keep it in a box and buy treats. She might be weird. But so am I so...

Ta1kinPeece · 13/10/2017 17:12

Do you lot REALLY walk past money on the pavement ?

REALLY ?????

You are barking mad

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 13/10/2017 17:15

Why in the name of God didn’t you just tell your dd you’d buy her the fidget spinner, op?! I’m sure having the money to buy it, whatever it’s provenance, was all she wanted?
Please don’t make a fool of yourself by asking the teacher for the pound back because you threw it on the ground for your dd to find...
It’s sounds nuts.

NikiBabe · 13/10/2017 17:15

Do you lot REALLY walk past money on the pavement?

Yes.

I am not hard up enough to pick up small change.