Sister in law. Was the only girl around (three sons) until me. Didn't really make an effort with me and looked down her nose a bit (very subtly)
Then a few things that started to upset me, but I can be a sensitive twat. They had a baby and she got everyone little gifts from the baby at Christmas time. Nothing for me (even though I was engaged at this point and there for the Christmas Day celebrations, I was the only one in the room not included in that) then my then fiances bday. She put up a collage on the wall at his parents for a bday celebration. Sort of documenting his life so far. The last section of pictures were of him with her and his brothers at her wedding. There was one picture out of about 40 of him and me. Even though we were engaged to be married and been together over three years. When she kept gushing about how much work she had put into it and how she had dashed down to boots to get photos printed out that morning I said nothing. She said "oh it was hard to find any of you two together!" Even though she is friends with me on Facebook and there are absolutely loads of pics of us on there. My best friend said "there is no way that was an accident, you would make the effort. She's a twat."I could go on, lots of little passive aggressive things, like pointing out i had made mistakes on our wedding invite with the time. Then on the morning of the wedding, instead of texting me good luck or anything...she text saying she was looking forward to the day. Was it a cash or card bar as we hadn't mentioned?! Yes that's the kind of text I have time to respond to when getting ready for a big wedding! Problem is she is really outgoing and vivacious and comes off looking like a ray of sunshine and I feel like a bitter miserable cow. I know I should take it with a pinch of salt but every gathering has me on the defensive to her little comments when to be honest I actually just would like to get on with her (which we do on the surface of things!) what would you do?