To wonder if it's adhd or just plain naughtiness

[Phuquocdreams]

My son has just started school and seems to have run into trouble immediately. Not listening, jumping up from his seat, pushing his chair around. Today he spat at a classroom assistant ☹️ The teacher has started a book with stickers that comes home with every day, writing his behaviours each day so I can see how is he doing. He has had problems with childminders before - in fact two have cited difficulties with him as a reason for quitting. We also had constant problems at his nursery when he started at 2.5 years - hitting other kids, being overly boisterous in play - although his preschool teacher said he made great progress in the year with her ( he was part-time in the afternoons as I was on maternity leave so I think I had some of his energy worn off by the time he went in). But then other times he is good as gold, can play be himself, his new nanny thinks he is a lovely warm living boy ( though school may have him tired out for her?) Its an awful thought but is he just a naughty kid? Are we failing as parents? My husband is not a natural disciplinarian and would get more annoyed with the people raising the behaviour than the behaviour itself. I find myself getting shouty and struggle not to lose my temper with him sometimes, always biting my tongue. I just feeling a bit hopeless today.

[catbas]

Converse you are talking shit

[catbas]

I say that as a stay at home parent by the way