To think friend was being a bit tight over internet password

[CadgingCarol]

Name changed as I'm an over sharer.
Anyway I had some issues with paying my internet account recently basically direct debit hadn't come out and I'd been cut off long story!

I was stuck at home on my own with the kids, my older dc was going on and on and on about internet being cut off stress. I thought I'll ring up and pay to get it back on etc but realised I couldn't transfer the money as no internet! My phone internet wouldn't work either.
I thought shit, I messaged my friend who lives close and I'm a round about way asked her if I could borrow her internet password to get things sorted,
Her reply was "sorry I don't want to give it out" now we've been friends for over 4 years have each other kids do stuff etc etc so I was quite shocked at her response. It's basically saying she doesn't trust me isn't it?
Yes the internet being back on wasn't urgent but I still needed it back on ASAP. I wouldn't have given a second thought to giving a "friend" the password so aibu to think she isn't really a friend as she didn't help me out when I was in the shit?

how do you know she's kept the generic password? Most people start with the one on the side of a box and then change it - often to one that they've used for other things. Or in my case, a long 64-digit code, as well as MAC address restrictions and an invisible-network name, etc ,and I'd have had to go through all of that with guests before they could use it. So I just said no, it was too complicated.

She wasn't being very friendly imo. It's not like there will be any less internet left for her

Cadging carol.....you don't mind giving your password out, but she does.....her perogative....leave her alone. You are cheeky for asking and have put her on the spot. My password is not on the side of the skybox?!

Our friends, babysitter, relatives etc are all offered our wifi password. I suspect I would probably notice if they used it at a time when we haven't invited them in to the house as they would have to be sitting outside the living room window

Ok so I understand it may have been s personal password and that's fair enough.. but saying that my dp knows his mates pin code and gets cash out for him etc because he trust him! I just thought friends trusted each other and that's why I'm pissed off and upset about it.

I think that's a bit shit. I'd deffo reconsider how close my friendship is with someone.
I've babysat for loads of my mates and we always offer WiFi passwords. Weird

How do you it's her wifi? Does it say her name instead of providername0123?

Yes the default password is on the side of the box if you're daft enough to never change it. Most of us change it and if her wifi name is personalised, she's also changed her password.

Maybe she thinks your kids might download dodgy stuff - it would come up as her on her account if they did.

Ah so you can use her WiFi from your house, therefore she WNBU, I’ll shush now over invested

Still don't get why you couldn't leave the house and go somewhere else for free WiFi. So you have kids? So what? Bundle them up and put them in the car. Or go the next day to local library. You keep saying you needed to use her WiFi. No you didn't. It was not her problem. You needed WiFi and expected her to give you her password. She didn't want to. End of. It was a big ask. There have been other people on here on threads saying new neighbors wanted to borrow their WiFi, and everyone told them to say no.

I still don't understand - were you going to use her wifi from your house? Are you in range?

OP, do you mean you asked for her wifi password or her internet account password (i.e. the one with all the billing info attached to it)? If the latter, I wouldn't give that out either.

I don't get this whole 'they could use it forever' thing - the friend could just change the password when she doesn't want OP using it anymore.

Anyone who gives out their bank PIN to a friend is utterly stupid.

Why are some people so precious over their WiFi?! I let anyone who asks use my WiFi. It’s the default code that’s on the router. It’s so strange that some people wouldn’t allow a friend to use it!

She wouldn't give you her Wifi code?

That's really mean. My neighbours used mine for about a month when they first moved in.

Some paranoid people seem to think you can do all kinds of things if you use their internet. Frankly, anyone clever (?!) enough to do anything other than use your internet supply, really doesn't need you to give them your code. Bonkers.

Perhaps she just has a rude password and was embarrassed.

You asked her a question. She gave you an answer.
Now stop moaning about it, put on your big girl pants and sort your own stuff out.

No it's the provider that comes up so knew. Also for the people that change the generic password on sky box why? I don't think that someone is going to come into my house and steal it! They had have to live close to be able to benefit.
I've never changed mine it's not some top secret it's the internet.

I offer guests to our house our WiFi password. I think it's weird that a friend wouldn't let you use hers, especially if you're having issues with your own.

If you were having ongoing money issues I'd not be bothered by you using my Internet for a few days/weeks/months either, within reason.

YABU

I give mine to visitors but I wouldn't give it to neighbours who could then just keep using it rather than pay for their own

Also for the people that change the generic password on sky box why?

Mainly so that only the kids who have been good can use it. The naughty ones don't get wifi.

If I were your friend, I would give you the password but change it after 72 hours.

I don't really understand why people don't give out their wifi password to people, I don't think YABU.

Aridane- sonyou wouldn't trust a friend? That's my point. Plus I wouldn't class myself as just a neighbour our dds are best friends which is why we are friends.

Brilliant, she's happy to trust you looking after her precious children but doesn't trust you with her password. Peculiar. Never knew so many people keep theirs you secret. I cannot imagine asking to go a friend's wifi and them saying their password was a secret.

Perhaps she's worried you'll see her internet history

Exactly our!