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AIBU?

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AIBU to think that you’re never too old to share a bed with your mum?

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Blu99 · 10/10/2017 17:59

Me and my sister were talking about this last night. Her DC are 10 and 5 and she loves sharing a bed with them. She thinks they’ll never be too old. I share a bed with my 18 month old until we move into our new house and she gets her own bedroom. I love it but I equally can’t wait for her to have her space and me mine. She’ll always be my baby but I can’t imagine her coming to visit me when she’s 30 and us sharing a bed.

Are you ever too old to share a bed with your mum?

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HemanOrSheRa · 10/10/2017 19:21

Aw. DS is 12 and still comes in with me if he's having trouble sleeping. He came in last night

FoodGloriousFud · 10/10/2017 19:22

I'm 31 and when I stay at my mum's I go into her bed in the morning for a natter & a cuppa. Always done it so doesn't seem odd!

ICantFindAFreeNickName2 · 10/10/2017 19:25

My dd 14 sometimes sleeps in my bed as her dad works away a lot. I think its lovely but we do sometimes lay there chatting for hours which is not a good idea on a school night. we often share a bed if we are having a girly weekend break away or if we are staying at my mums .

AdmiralJaneway · 10/10/2017 19:26

Before I had a house with room for a spare bed, Mum would visit and share my bed for that weekend - last time it happened I think I was 41. It’s fine when needs must although we definitely both sleep better now I’ve a house with a proper spare room and bed!!

mummy2oneandtwo · 10/10/2017 19:26

If me and my mum had a spa weekend away, I’d share a bed with her if it was a double. Also, when she would stay over and help me with the babies when husband was away, she’s sleep with me. It’s lovely on the odd occasions it happens.

No more different than sharing a bed with one of my best friends if we stay away or at each other’s homes.

As long as you’re all comfortable!

Cath2907 · 10/10/2017 20:26

My dd loves to share mummies bed. I don’t mind the cuddle! I assume sooner or later she’ll grow out of it.

LucyTheLocalBike · 10/10/2017 20:45

DD (16) often comes in for a cuddle til she falls asleep. DS (17 and 6'3") would happily sneak into my bed if he could, he still loves his cwtches. I'm pretty sure DD (23) would happily snuggle up for a cuddle if we got the chance

HSMMaCM · 10/10/2017 21:09

DD came into my room one night before she went to uni. DH came in, saw the bed and went off to her room, so there's no way she was leaving.

I would share with my mum if I had to. I have shared a twin room with her recently.

GinUser · 10/10/2017 21:23

As far as I know I have never shared a bed with my mother. My father used to get out to me in the night, if I was restless, and bring me in to sleep on his chest - this was in the late 1950s.
I have shared a bed with children I have looked after and my step-son. It was fine.
I am a lark, my mother is an owl, so sharing a bed would not work at all.

Lostmyunicorn · 10/10/2017 21:30

I find it really odd that a grown up child would "shudder" at the thought of sharing a bed with their mother. Why? Obviously if the relationship was very difficult or unhappy that's one thing, but otherwise I don't get the issue. I would happily share a bed with mine (provided I had earplugs) if circumstances made it convenient. I often end up with my small ones in with me, I would hope they would never shudder at the thought of me.

ClothEaredBint · 10/10/2017 21:34

i'd have no issue sharing with my mom, or think my kids were too old to share with me!

I'm 36 and when I've been ill all I've wanted is my mom!

helen650 · 10/10/2017 21:36

I remember sharing a bed with my mum after I had each of my babies, my husband had to go to work so he had our bedroom and I got in with mum (kicked Dad out to the spare room) it was lovely to have company when the baby woke. Just for a couple of nights. Now when we stay at mum and Dads, my kids and me always go in for a cuppa in the morning In bed :)

Camomila · 10/10/2017 21:36

I love sharing a bed with my mum on occasion and I'm 29. I used to like sharing with my grandma too when I was litle and reading her magazines.

When my mum stays round DS likes to toddle over to her room and get in wirh her in the mornings.

I sleep better with someone next to me.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 10/10/2017 21:38

I shared with my nan until I was 18, even though I had my own room, because her bed was comfy and she had a teasmade

I share with my sister (she's nearly 30) when we go away together but I don't know how I'd feel about sharing with my mum.

blackteasplease · 10/10/2017 21:39

I wouldn't want to share a bed with my mum but obviously would in an emergency!

But a 10 yo getting into your bed at night for some reason is perfectly fine if chops.

chestylarue52 · 10/10/2017 21:40

I will happily share a bed with my mum but we don't 'cuddle'. We usually share a bed on holiday and we shared a bed when she was in hospital for 3 nights.

ghostyslovesheets · 10/10/2017 21:41

OMG last time I was in a bed with mu it was my sisters 50'th - mum was 70 and I got about 2 hours kip - the woman snores like a fucking train - it's awful

I love her but no I wont be doing it again in a hurry!

totaldiva · 10/10/2017 21:45

The difference in you and your sister is your children’s ages I think.

I have a 6 yo and a 2 yo. I love to share a bed with the older one, sharing with the 2yo is like sharing with an octopus who has lost its keys!

I wouldn’t share with my Mum now out of choice but wouldn’t object if I had to.

Lovesabadboy · 10/10/2017 21:51

When I have stayed over at my daughter's Uni house I have shared her bed.
Not weird, just practical and feels totally normal.

When she comes home she will still sneak in with me on a Sunday morning (when DH has got up) for a cuddle and then we read together.

She is 21 and I am 50.

Birdsgottafly · 10/10/2017 21:58

me and my youngest DD 9190 book a double when we have to, we go on a lot of trips together.

We've had a few crisis's in the family and one time, I shared a bed with two of my grown up children.

My eldest and middle kick and hit out terrible and I snore, so we would try not to for that reason.

I didn't have a good relationship with my Mother, so would shudder at the thought.

Birdsgottafly · 10/10/2017 21:59

My youngest, who is 19.

NoWittyNamesAvailable · 10/10/2017 22:13

Im 31 and I'll be sharing a bed with my mum the night before my wedding. Mainly because my children won't sleep in a bed with me, they want to talk and play instead of sleep. But if you have a good relationship nothing odd about it at all.

mysteryfairy · 10/10/2017 22:16

My DD age 15 doesn't invariably share with me but sometimes shares my superking when her dad is away just because she can. I think we'd be less keen on sharing a standard double, though wouldnt have an actual problem if a trip away necessitated it.

I last shared with DS1 when he was 17 and we somehow only ended up with a double instead of a family room on a trip to a distant uni open day. Neither of us was exactly thrilled but we made it through unscarred.

WetsTheVet · 10/10/2017 22:18

I used to love climbing into bed with my Mum. I have very special memories of us in bed watching Grey's Anatomy and eating chocolates when she was in her final weeks. You are never too old to love your parents and want their affection and company.

CaurnieBred · 10/10/2017 22:22

Mum is 75 and I as 47. still happily go in for a snuggle in the mornings when I am visiting. Happy to actually share a bed with her when necessary too (but ear plugs are essential). I would love for DD to feel the same towards me.

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