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To think this was pretty rude!

56 replies

Henrythehoover · 09/10/2017 17:24

I work in a small office with another woman. She was talking about how her son's tv had broken and he couldn't afford another one for a while. I have a spare one which I offered a spare one I have for the time being until he could afford a new one. It has all the connectors for modern stuff but is very basic. She said that that would be great and I agreed to take it in for her. She then comes back from her lunch break asking if it was hd and when I said I didn't think so she replied " he said he only wants hd as once you've had that you can't go back to regular tv!" Aibu or does that seem a bit rude. I wasn't asking anything for it and she could have just said no. Maybe it's just me but talk about being fussy.

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Henrythehoover · 09/10/2017 17:25

Not sure why that second a spare one came from I hate typing on my phone

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littlechou · 09/10/2017 17:25

Yes very rude! No manners at all

Aeroflotgirl · 09/10/2017 17:26

Yes it is rude, but just don't think much of it, and take it back home. If you need a tv you would be grateful for anything that works.

Summer23 · 09/10/2017 17:26

His loss! Nice of you to offer, but he obviously isn't keen. At least your colleague was honest.

Namechangetempissue · 09/10/2017 17:27

Meh -I wouldn't say rude really. Maybe a little ungrateful, but its obviously not her words, but her son.

NeverForgotten · 09/10/2017 17:27

Yanbu. Too bad for him Wink They'd probably sell it on Facebook instead of returning it and use the money towards a new TV. Lucky escape and lesson learnt.

firawla · 09/10/2017 17:28

It’s not that rude, she didn’t ask you for it otherwise yes it would have been

FortunatelyUnfortunately · 09/10/2017 17:28

"At least your colleague was honest."

Honesty does not excuse rudeness.

TieGrr · 09/10/2017 17:28

She was a little blunt about it but not necessarily rude. There's no point him borrowing a TV he won't enjoy watching.

pictish · 09/10/2017 17:29

Well...I guess it could be seen as rude but personally I think it's better she was honest. It wasn't what he wanted so was no use to them. Why would she take a telly that she didn't want? So as not to appear rude? Bit silly really.

RemainOptimistic · 09/10/2017 17:31

How old is her son? Old enough to buy his own new TV if he's complaining about it not being HD!

EdmundCleverClogs · 09/10/2017 17:34

She was blunt, however some extra devices only connect with a HD cable, so perhaps it was pointless having a non-HDTV? Then again, if it has all the connectors for 'mordern stuff' I'm not sure how it's not a HDTV really...

pictish · 09/10/2017 17:35

It's not rude to refuse an item you don't want!
I sometimes fell out with my mum over this sort of thing. If I mentioned I needed curtains for a room say, she'd pick some up in a charity shop for me. If, on seeing them, I said that they weren't what I had had in mind, she would get very huffy about it. "Beggars can't be choosers" (yes they bloody can, thanks) I "obviously had money to burn" if I rejected them. It was very annoying.

You don't have to accept stuff that isn't suitable just to be polite!

EdmundCleverClogs · 09/10/2017 17:36

Modern even..

Willow2017 · 09/10/2017 17:37

Oh well he will just have to go without a tv till he saved up for a new one. Talk about cutting off your nose...

He changes his mind in a week cos he is desperate tell her you loaned it to a friend.

Cheeky ungrateful git.

SaucyJack · 09/10/2017 17:39

Try not to take it personally. It was nice of you to offer, but it's entirely up to him to decide if he wanted it or not.

Be more zen.

WunWun · 09/10/2017 17:40

I don't think it's cheeky, ungrateful or rude. You offered and he didn't want it. It's not like you'd taken it all the way there. I'm not sure why you're upset about it?

Fudgefase · 09/10/2017 17:43

Nah YANBU but you offered, got turned down, let it go and don;t give it another moment's thought. Young folk nowdays want names/brands/creature comforts and anything less is simply not something they can bring their mates home to see. His loss.

pictish · 09/10/2017 17:48

Fudgefase it's nothing to do with 'young folk nowadays'. It's called 'having a preference' and we all have our own. You might not mind a basic telly...but I bet there's something else you'd not thank anyone for. If you would lug whatever that item is home then store it just to be polite, you're silly.

trappedinsuburbia · 09/10/2017 17:49

Yes rude, any tv is better than no tv surely!

SunnyCoco · 09/10/2017 17:50

Yep, really rude and cheeky and ungrateful
She didn't need to tell you that
She could have just politely declined - "thanks ever so much, but he thinks he's got something else sorted now"
People are so unthinking sometimes

thecatfromjapan · 09/10/2017 17:53

I'm not sure it is completely rude.

Maybe they'd rather save up and buy the sort of TV they want?

It's better her saying no than taking it and dumping it, isn't it?

A while ago we answered an ad offering a free sofa. We turned up and it was awful. We didn't want to be rude and took it. It was a hassle to dump and I still feel guilty. Really, we should have said "no, it's not what we;re looking for." Which is what she did.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 09/10/2017 17:53

You might not mind a basic telly.... But he now has NO telly, why is that better? Holding out for the cutting edge version didn’t make one materialise in front of him, did it?
I think it was rude.

thecatfromjapan · 09/10/2017 17:54

But ...

... it was sweet of you to offer the TV. Flowers

thecatfromjapan · 09/10/2017 17:55

This thread is making me feel better about taking the sofa and dumping it, though. Grin

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