Where does the double barrelling stop

[DooWhaaDiddy]

If an unmarried couple give the child both of their surnames, and that child then goes on to have a child with a partner who also has a doublebarrelled surname what do they do? Where does it stop! Application forms or the register at schools must be a nightmare

ShellyBoobs maybe they're double-barrelling because they feel it's the egalitarian thing to do, they want their children to have both parents' names. Just a thought.

If anyone is Hyacinth Bucket it would be you and your preoccupation with what's 'chavvy'.

Poor love.

I get the point that you're trying to make OP.

If a couple double barrels their child's name because they want them to have both their names, then what happens for the next generation? If the children have the same values as their own parents, then when they have their own children it could be assumed they would want them to have the surname of both their parents. So at what point does a name get dropped? And whose?

With the exception of the aristocracy, double barrelling is for pretentious fuckwits IMHO.

You tug away on your little forelock. Curtsy to the aristos.

Good girl.

My mother was not married. Father's name on birth certificate. Father's name until I married, same as younger brother who was not illegitimate.

There's always a smug gotcha overtone to this question.

As far as I can tell, my son will have the choices that literally every other married couple has. Both take his, both take partners, both keep their own, amalgamate somehow (a name from each? Some kind of name merging?) or make up a new one

Actually, we'll be the third (married) couple we know to double barrel our children, all the ones who aren't married have gone with the dad's name so far.

I've lived in countries where nobody changed their name, and where everyone was double barrelled.

I expect our children will decide to pass on whichever name works best with their partners. I'm not that worried about future generations.

I am worried about the generations of women in my past who genealogists ignore/can't trace because they didn't carry their name down- I don't see why there's a concern about future info being lost when so many women were written out of history.

I have a double barrelled surname, my OH has 2 surnames as he's from a country where children get their father's and mother's surnames and women generally keep their maiden name on marriage.We just gave our children a surname each so they have a differrent combination of surnames to either of us.They do not have a dash between them so when they're bigger they can choose to use one or both. It hasn't caused us any issues so far as a family.

I like the idea of sons taking the dads name and the daughters having mums.....knowing my luck I'd have all boys

Honestly some people really are threatened by women asserting themselves aren't they? Our marriage was a merger not a takeover so our children have both our names. Hopefully we're raising them with good enough judgement to decide what to call themselves and their children.

Yes they are Popkids.

ShelleyBoobs What's chavvy about it? You do realise that people don't double barrel their kids surnames to try and "trick" people into thinking their upper class?

Now if you'll excuse me I need to get going - Wayne Giro-Nodad needs his bottle of coke before I take him for his ear pierced tomorrow.

My grandfather had a triple-barrelled name, but couldn't be bothered with it so chopped a couple off. When I get married next year, I will add my husband's surname to mine (also because I have built up a small reputation in my industry under my current name. And I love my surname as it's pretty unusual). No plans for children - should that change, not sure what we would do!

All the children I know with two surnames have married parents whereas I don't know any whose parents are unmarried or were at the time. All those children without exception have the father's surname.

I'm not married to my OH.

Our daughter took his surname. His surname has 8 letters and mine has 10. Life is too short for her to need to sign an 18 letter surname.

We are Spanish.
DS is Ben Dover Barrel.
If he marries Nuria Coño Polla, they can decide themselves:
Dover Coño
Dover Polla
Coño Dover
Coño Barrel
Barrel Coño
Barrel Polla
Polla Dover
Polla Barrel

Sorry *they're not their (I hate making a mistake when I'm trying to be a smart arse - really takes away from it )

Sunbathing that's generally my experience too. I'm a bit baffled by this modern trend for giving kids' of unmarried couples' the father's name. I'm pragmatic, if a relationship goes tits up the 99/100 the mother will be the primary carer. Why wouldn't you want your child to have your surname?

I didnt want to lose my maiden name cue huge arguement where DH to be sniffed “i mightnt have much but i do have a name!” So I agreed to double barrell. Now he maintains he wouldve been happy for me to keep my name . Needless to say I stare when he says this . He has clealry forgotten his flounce into the kitchen with dramatic tears. Our daughter has his name as i refuse to complicate things further . Poor child would have been rightly lumped with an awful double barrell which I have....

I kept my name when I married, kids are double barrelled with my name first as it flows better. I hope my daughter keeps her own name if she marries (she says she will). If she has children of her own I'm sure they'll figure it out. Have a look at Spanish naming conventions - kids usually get their dad's first surname and their mum's first surname. Almost everyone is double-barrelled and it's fine. What's not fine is the assumption that IF there's going to only be one name it might as well be the dad's. If my kids didn't have both our names, they'd be having mine. I gave birth to them and did most of the hard work of parenting when they were babies since he obviously couldn't feed them and I was at home more often. He agrees with me, because I didn't (and wouldn't) have children with a sexist cretin.

Now if you'll excuse me I need to get going - Wayne Giro-Nodad needs his bottle of coke before I take him for his ear pierced tomorrow.

That's certainly a lovely name, granted, but when young Wayne gets together with the aforementioned Chardonnay Jeggings-Brighthouse, what do they call the kids?

Jordan Giro-Nodad-Jeggings-Brighthouse doesn't exactly flow, does it.

My friend works in a school and some children who have double barrelled names, the last name changes with whatever boyfriend has moved in. The mothers asks the "to be known as" name is changed.

Didn’t realise us unmarrieds needed an ‘easy way’ to be identified. Maybe a big red ‘X’ branded on our foreheads would solve this?

I draw no inferences at all from a double-barrelled surname and had no idea till reading this thread that anyone assumed anything from it.

Aristocrats have them for the same reason as many of us - the desire to reflect more than one family name in a child's name. They just did it earlier than the rest of us.

@hippyhippyshake read my second post

I know lots of people with double barrelled surnames and their parents are married, assuming parents aren't married due to the surname seems old fashioned