To have never sent or received a "sexy pic"

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Do people really do this a lot? What does it involve? I can't imagine willingly taking a naked picture of myself (pouting??) and sending it to my husband/partner/random off Tinder. I've also never opened a text to find a flaccid penis sitting there. Or erect I suppose. It really worries me that in the future my small children will think photographing your bits (I can't actually believe sane grown ups do this) and texting them to someone is normal social interaction. I feel like a dinosaur sometimes. I'm pretty sure nobody I know does this. But then again, I've never actually asked...maybe they're all at it? It just seems so dangerous - and nasty. AIBU?

Me either. Until I read this just now, it’s actuallg never even occurred to me that I haven’t ever sent/received this sort of nonsense. I mean, I know people do, but it’s just so far away from something I’d ever think to do that it hadn’t even occurred to me. Horrid business.

I do it. I enjoy it. Between consenting adults I don't see the problem

I'd not experienced this either until recently, after being in a relationship for 16 years where we didn't do this at all.

I was absolutely horrified to be sent a photo of an acquaintance's erecting - I'm sure my face was a picture! Just eww, why? No idea what I was supposed to reply to that and I've avoided him ever since. Grim.

You could have given it a score Roomba. Marks out of ten?

By "arty" i mean suggestive rather than full frontal genitals. Male or female. Clothing, careful framing etc.

On the subject if pics ending up on the internet though, a pic of my genitals, with nothing identifying, would get lost in the mass! Not nice obviously but I doubt I'd lose sleep.

Having said that I've never, and would never, sent such a photo. Sexy means titillating to me. Not "oi mate here's my labia".

Here's an old favourite

Well they would have a picture of your genitals and your phone number if the phone was lost or stolen.
Plus young children like to mess about with their parents' phones given half a chance.

Two words for anybody thinking about sending a rude pic to anybody they don't know well enough to trust 100%:

Revenge Porn

It happens. Frequently.

I'm perfectly capable of creating compartments on my phone! Also, my dc are old enough to know they deserve anything they get if they nick my stuff (adults).

It would so them no goid having my phone number! If it got nicked I'd change the number as a matter if course. They could have ace fun texting themselves though

I regularly take sexy pics of myself and send them to DH. Have done since the early stages of our relationship over a decade ago.

I love taking them, he loves receiving them. Win-win

I meant the phone number from the person that texted the photo Bk.

I love the idea of compartments though.

Pictures of my friends
Pictures of my children
Willy Pictures

All neat and tidy.

Ah, no, you save the pic (if you like it ) and delete the message

You can make compartments on your phone, password protected and everything

I'll bear all that in mind Bk. But on balance i think I'll give it a miss.

Plus young children like to mess about with their parents' phones given half a chance

Indeed. Which is why I have always used the word "no" and kept my phone password protected.

My partner and I do it sometimes. We like it. Both of us have password protected phones and delete immediately. I also don't lose my phone

OP - YANBU to not want to. Of course not.

Yes very wise to keep your phone password protected if you have DC.

That's fair enough sparkling, like everything else, we all make our own choices based on our own boundaries.

Personally I think full on genital shots are not at all attractive but am happy with (what I think of as) sexy.

I'd not like my dc sending identifiable shots because I don't think identifiable is wise.

No way on EARTH would I let anyone take pics of my tits and bits. Nor would I take them myself and let any partner have them. Not even my husband. No. No. No.

No.

Fucking.

WAY.

It's just asking for trouble if you split, and your partner has copies of the pics (which they WILL have.)

If others want to do it, then fine, but I really cannot see the point.

At all.

Anything that has been created digitally can be retrieved. I can't believe how naive some posters are.

I've sent my husband 'tasteful' images, usually black and white and showing a little bit of cheek in a thong for instance. Usually sent as a hint as to what I'd like to do that evening. Thankfully he doesn't reciprocate.

I also send him pictures of me looking ugly, the dog in fancy dress and the child doing amusing things. Basically anything I'd show him in real life.

He's also a gentleman and I trust him implicitly.

I mean WHY take pics? WHY?

Especially (as a poster above said,) of your genitals?

So weird.

Just look at the real thing FFS.

Aaaah, memories!

When dh & I met, we spent an intense 10 months together on the other side of the world, then two months apart. We sent each other a couple of nude photos, nothing too daring! I got my boobs out.

Anyway, when I followed him home, i stayed with his parents for a couple of weeks before we moved to close to my parents. I decided to print off some photos for my photo albums in one of those DIY machines in Asda, when the screen froze. On the picture of me with my boobs out. MIL noticed us covering the screen, looking around for help and giggling in embarrassment, and proceeded to try and peel our hands off the screen to see what we were covering....

A cautionary tale: used to send the odd pic to DP. It went to dp. And my mother. And a younger, male, colleague. theres a thread about it somewhere and I'm VERY cautious.
I have been sent random dick pics. I took a 6second video of myself laughing and just send it as a reply.

Your pics @RosyPony - cheeky bum showing - sound OK.

But the 'he is my husband and I trust him implicitly' comment is very naive.

Me and DP used to do it in our early 20s (10 years ago) and it was fun within a loving relationship, but think we're past all that now.. I wouldn't like to do it while dating, where's the mystery?
I've received a few unsolicited dick pics in my life. Most were from plentyoffish but one was from a guy at the gym. He had stopped to chat to me, seemed like a regular guy just being friendly. He ran a shop local to me and wanted a website making so I said I could do it... so I gave him my number. That night I got a dick pic! I ignored it and then avoided him at the gym, it was awkward as hell. Why do they do this..

I did as an impressionable teen, but never anything explicit, and never including my face. It was very much expected and I felt pressured into doing it. I only sent them to my boyfriend of 4 years who was living a long way away, but the consequences others faced because of sending them to boys who weren't so committed soon stopped me doing it at all. One of my friends had a full body nude picture of herself sent around our school and the boys school we were linked with and through other local schools too. A girl in the year above had a video strip tease she had done on webcam sent around. And a girl in the year below had a series of very explicit pictures shared. This was before the dangers of sexing were widely discussed as camera phone technology hadn't been around that long. I dread to think what it will be like when my DD is a teen.

Now that there are laws regarding the sharing of intimate photos/revenge porn there are more protections in place, but I still wouldn't take pictures like that again and send them to anyone, even DP. He can see what he wants with his eyes rather than a phone screen.