To not wish to be called OCD?

[BlueButTrue]

Every day I:

Clean my floors with floor wipes (twice a day, more if I see any mark etc).

Wash up as I go.

Make my beds first thing

Hoover all rooms (about 3/4 times a day)

Wash on, put a wash away

Clean kitchen surfaces (3/4 times, more if I'm using kitchen more).

Clean cupboard doors/draws

Hoover sofa

Hoover living room rug (twice)

Wipe down living room surfaces (3/4 times)

Clean toilet (3/4 times a day, sometimes more)

Clean bathroom (about twice a day top to bottom, and little wipe downs etc whenever else).

Empty bin

Wipe down bedroom furniture/dust surfaces

Every other day I:

Steam clean bathroom and kitchen. Sometimes this is every day too.

Hoover behind sofas (will do this each day if any actual messes are created).

Twice a week:

Clean out fridge

Clean inside cupboards

My Nan is apparently "worried" at the extent I'm cleaning, but I think it's healthy and normal. It keeps me calm and makes me happy. I don't believe it's extensive. "Cleaning isn't good for the soul" says DNan.

MIL has hinted I should be checked for OCD.

Personally, I find this quite offensive. OCD is a serious health issue and not one to joke about.

AIBU to clean the way I do and think it's healthy? AIBU to think it's offensive to others who really do suffer that it isn't acceptable to go around, throwing the term 'OCD' about?

Why did you post?

OP-Am I being unreasonable?
Whole world: yes
OP-No, I'm not!

Sorry OP, sounds like OCD 💐

OP.

You've missed a bit.

I’m afraid it sounds like OCD, or the beginnings of it. The reason I think this is because you’ve specified a number of times you do things. If you don’t clean in this way/that many times is there a consequence?

I think posters are being unfair. Clearly you are not capable of diagnosing OCD so what did you expect?
OP: I am being called OCD
All posters: you are
Op: oh goodness. You're all so right. I must make a medical appointment immediately for referral

I mean, really? Give your heads a waggle

What do you think the OP wasn’t expecting posters to say Bubble, really?

They can say everything they've said. What was ridiculous was expecting the OP to accept it all blindly and defer. The op knows posters here can't diagnose OCD, she's not stupid

This is one of those frustrating AIBU threads though. The OP asks if she’s BU and the majority say yes she is but then the OP won’t accept it and has an answers for everything. Why bother asking if you’re happy with what you’re doing?

hmm..well I definitely don't think you are NT OP. You seem very sensitive and attracted to the sensory input you get from surfaces and textures for one thing.

But so what? It isn't harming you, you aren't suffering because of it.

It certainly isn't OCD as you have basically none of the symptoms that I can see.

Finally YADNBU. People do chuck OCD around like confetti and its totally inappropriate and detrimental to people suffering the full force of a horrendous mental health problem.

BlueButTrue you remind me a bit of my lovely friend - she worked as a cleaner for years, and used to tell me she just didn't like to sit still.
She was diagnosed with an overactive thyroid.

The way you describe your cleaning, the fact you haven't always been like this and that you're not sleeping at night is what concerns me.

It's a serious condition. If you look it up you'll see a whole load of possible symptoms, but my friend didn't have any of them for years - she used to laugh about how she liked it as it gave her more energy! It shouldn't be left untreated though as it can cause heart problems and bone problems if untreated.

Because this is a change in your behaviour, and because you're not sleeping, I think it's worth getting checked out just in case. It sounds like your body could be overproducing something and it's putting you into overdrive / not letting you relax.

Please do take it seriously, you need to look after yourself as well as you do your home.

But - if there's nothing medical going on, then I'm going to go agaist the grain and say all power to you!

I am the oppoaite to you. I can't get my shit together to clean enough, and my house is a tip. Your list horrified me initially as it'd take me all day.

Hovering the front room for example is a job that takes at least half an hour (because of moving all the stuff out of the way) wth a crap clucnky hoover I hate.

But if it really is taking you 5 minutes - why not? I get what you mean about keeping on top of it. I know an elderly woman who's like this - she's dedivated her whole life to cleaning, her house is immaculate! I think it's a waste - but who am I to judge? She seems happy!

Let me guess zoflora , method and shark Hoover

When I had DD and was still getting daily visits from the midwife we talked about PND. I didn't have it fortunately, but she told me that one of the things that caused alarm bells for her was visiting new mothers whose houses were immaculate (assuming no extra help was available). The issue being that the mother was neglecting her baby to clean the house.

Something to bear in mind.

Perhaps it's also worth bearing in mind that babies spend a lot of time dribbling and puking and filling nappies. If you breastfeed you also spend a lot of time leaking milk.

How do you cope if you want everything pristine and immaculate? And you need sleep in between the feeds?

Lornicera I assumed that was an urban legend, but if a midwife actually told you that that is highly unprofessional and totally misinformed. How would a midwife know anything about the circumstances as to why the house was immaculate?

"If you breastfeed you also spend a lot of time leaking milk."

Not necessarily. I didn't. I ended up having to throw my breast pads away as I never needed to use them. I didn't bother wearing a bra when breastfeeding either.

"How would a midwife know anything about the circumstances as to why the house was immaculate?"

She said that it was assuming there was no extra help available.

It's pretty intense. BTW it's "drawer" ... not "draw"

Well that's an ignorant assumption. Besides they don't know that the house wasn't immaculate before the baby? It's just bullshit whichever way you look at it and absolutely not a marker for PND or neglected babies or whatever she's suggesting it is

I'm only repeating what I was told 17 years ago. Please don't be angry at me

Like a few posters earlier in the thread, I think it sounds more like OCPD than OCD.

I'm not angry at you I'm angry at the continued repeating of that "advice" to new mothers. They have enough to worry about without making sure their house is suitably dirty and messy enough not to arose suspicion from the community midwife who visits you twice in 5 days then you never see her again

"from the community midwife who visits you twice in 5 days then you never see her again"

When I had DD I had the same community midwife for all of my ante natal care and for 10 continuous days after I came out of hospital with her. She was an excellent midwife.

why are you having 2 showers a day?

My partner was involved in children's care cases for many years, and I think it's fair to say that both extreme squalor and a kind of extreme pristineness - in the absence of paid and/or family help - could be factors that might prompt one or two questions.

A tidy home plus a healthy relaxed mother and flourishing baby wouldn't be a problem.

On the other hand a home that was like a show home, an exhausted, tense mother and a baby that had been healthy at birth but was now distressed and failing to flourish might prompt a few questions about how the new family was coping with looking after a new child.

Surely it should be called CDO?