To not wish to be called OCD?

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Every day I:

Clean my floors with floor wipes (twice a day, more if I see any mark etc).

Wash up as I go.

Make my beds first thing

Hoover all rooms (about 3/4 times a day)

Wash on, put a wash away

Clean kitchen surfaces (3/4 times, more if I'm using kitchen more).

Clean cupboard doors/draws

Hoover sofa

Hoover living room rug (twice)

Wipe down living room surfaces (3/4 times)

Clean toilet (3/4 times a day, sometimes more)

Clean bathroom (about twice a day top to bottom, and little wipe downs etc whenever else).

Empty bin

Wipe down bedroom furniture/dust surfaces

Every other day I:

Steam clean bathroom and kitchen. Sometimes this is every day too.

Hoover behind sofas (will do this each day if any actual messes are created).

Twice a week:

Clean out fridge

Clean inside cupboards

My Nan is apparently "worried" at the extent I'm cleaning, but I think it's healthy and normal. It keeps me calm and makes me happy. I don't believe it's extensive. "Cleaning isn't good for the soul" says DNan.

MIL has hinted I should be checked for OCD.

Personally, I find this quite offensive. OCD is a serious health issue and not one to joke about.

AIBU to clean the way I do and think it's healthy? AIBU to think it's offensive to others who really do suffer that it isn't acceptable to go around, throwing the term 'OCD' about?

How long have you not been sleeping well for op?

Golden I moved in with DH (back then Dp), who unlike me at the time, was tidy, made the bed and didn't sleep with hangers like I did

I felt really relaxed and the tidy house tidy mind thing really worked for me

Blunt about 7 weeks. I'm putting it down to 3rd trimester shenanigans such as heartburn, needing a wee etc etc

although of course I know I won't ever have the time to clean like I do now. But that's fine by me 

Of course the thing is you do not KNOW how having a baby will affect you until it happens.

You’ve been obsessively cleaning all this time. You really don’t know how the arrival of a newborn will affect you. It may be worth discussing with your GP.

Ok the sleep thing could be thr pregnancy. The cleanliness seems to spring from moving in with your husband. Is it his house? Was there any arguments about your messiness initially? How did you feel with his being tidy and you being messy?

I'm not sure why people confuse cleaning with OCD. I have OCD and am not the tidiest person; the OCD manifested in very distressing thoughts. For you, I would recommend going to see your GP just to get their professional opinion. I think it's a bit much work all that cleaning that you are doing. But years ago many women were so house proud they did loads of cleaning

My goodness that sounds like a lot of work. Do you find it stops you from going about your other day to day errands/activities?

I have to ask though- do you even use the toilet 4 times a day to warrant cleaning it that many times?

I'm not sure why people confuse cleaning with OCD

Because ocd manifests itself in many ways, one of which is compulsive repetitive behaviour and repetitive cleaning is one of those common manifestations.

The obsession with dust seems a bit much. Dust is something I rarely think about, it may be around but i dont notice it. I think i live in an averagely tidy house but perhaps you would be horrified by it!

I love cleaning and have a similar routine to OP - I commented a page or two ago golden that said I definitely recognise I'm in the minority

No worries!
I do think it's odd OP that you've gone from not making beds to cleaning to the extent you have though.
I kind of did the same, but I went from a 16yr old who would make supernoodles in a jug (all other dishes dirty ) to someone really clean because I got to the end of my tether IYKWIM. I think as an older adult to have such a big change may have a deeper reason but if you are happy and love doing it, go wild. I do hope that what golden has said re your husband being a bit controlling is wrong but only you can judge that really OP.

I'd be opening my own cleaning business - how many people get to say they love their jobs and get paid to feel calm and happy?

(Obvs when baby is older and you're ready to go back to work!!)

AND you'd get to set your own hours around dc/school/nursery - who's the winner OP 😊😊

It does sound excessive, perhaps try to see it from the perspective of others and accept they are worried about your health due to your behaviours.

OP I can relate to a lot of stuff your saying, I find cleaning genuinely therapeutic. I like cleaning and I am on fb groups etc and love before and afters. I find cleaning calms me, I switch off a bit. However, it doesn't impact my day, and I wouldn't get stressed if I couldn't do it. It sounds like you genuinely enjoy it. I also find that Bcos I touch up throughout the day/week there is no weekend 'big clean' which therefore gives me more time with my family!

And I wasn't always as into cleaning, it kind of developed over time, I have recently had a baby and so cleaning does take a back seat now however I still take about 45 mins across day to keep on top of things. I think it's definitely possible to enjoy cleaning and it not be caused by any other influences

I enjoy cleaning too but I don't clean things that have already been cleaned for the sake of it

It sounds like a bit of a phase tbh. Do you have things you get really really into? My friend is like this. For a few years it was cooking, then board games, then baking, then reptiles.....

Fwiw I cleaned a lot more when my baby was first born. I was at home all the time to notice it and the baby didn't do much so just slung them in a sling and off we went.

Why not spend some time doing perhaps something more creative and yet still satisfying. Cooking? Craft? Or do more exercise? So you can build on your progress and not do the same thing over and over again?

may be way off the mark here, so feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.
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In the last 18 months you have moved in with your partner, got married, and are now on mat leave so pretty much full term. That's quite a lot in a short space of time. *

I suspect that if your husband is a tidy person himself, he probably praises you for the cleaning that you have done. He may well notice that the carpet looks immaculate and there is no dust anywhere. Because those things are important to him. So they have also become important to you. Because you want to please him and make him happy. So you started cleaning because you wanted to impress him and keep him happy. But now, I think it is all a bit out of control. I wonder what the rest of your relationship with your husband is like. Because in my mind he is a little bit controlling. You haven't mentioned doing anything except for cleaning. You haven't mentioned friends, or other hobbies, or other stuff you like doing. Just cleaning. And I wonder whether the reason it makes you calm is because you know that if you keep the house clean, your husband won't flip out. So you have convinced yourself that all this cleaning is good, and you enjoy it, and you love nothing better than to do a good bit of dusting. Because it's easier to rationalise that in your mind than thinking you are doing it in order to prevent your husband from criticising you, or being angry with you.

Nope, DH never praises me for it and is often a bit at the extent of my cleaning fetish. He's never asked me to clean anything really. He often tries to help but I always decline as his way isn't how I would do it and I'll only end up doing it again!

Don't mind him taking the bins out though you will often catch him hoovering because he wants me to sit down and relax, sometime he says it makes him feel guilty!

I would quite honestly tell any man exactly where to go if I discovered they were controlling or 'got angry with me' without reason.

DH is naturally tidy but is not anywhere near my standards. For example, he'd be the type to clean the bathroom once a week, or stream clean just once a week etc.

What hoover do you have?

Because once a week is at the normal end of the spectrum, and I'm not surprised that your husband is at your cleaning fetish. I don't get why you would clean something that is already clean.

There is no point responding further - OP does not think she has a problem in any shape or form.

The fact that everyone else does is deemed completely irrelevant.