To not wish to be called OCD?

[BlueButTrue]

Every day I:

Clean my floors with floor wipes (twice a day, more if I see any mark etc).

Wash up as I go.

Make my beds first thing

Hoover all rooms (about 3/4 times a day)

Wash on, put a wash away

Clean kitchen surfaces (3/4 times, more if I'm using kitchen more).

Clean cupboard doors/draws

Hoover sofa

Hoover living room rug (twice)

Wipe down living room surfaces (3/4 times)

Clean toilet (3/4 times a day, sometimes more)

Clean bathroom (about twice a day top to bottom, and little wipe downs etc whenever else).

Empty bin

Wipe down bedroom furniture/dust surfaces

Every other day I:

Steam clean bathroom and kitchen. Sometimes this is every day too.

Hoover behind sofas (will do this each day if any actual messes are created).

Twice a week:

Clean out fridge

Clean inside cupboards

My Nan is apparently "worried" at the extent I'm cleaning, but I think it's healthy and normal. It keeps me calm and makes me happy. I don't believe it's extensive. "Cleaning isn't good for the soul" says DNan.

MIL has hinted I should be checked for OCD.

Personally, I find this quite offensive. OCD is a serious health issue and not one to joke about.

AIBU to clean the way I do and think it's healthy? AIBU to think it's offensive to others who really do suffer that it isn't acceptable to go around, throwing the term 'OCD' about?

Op trust me theres aspects of my ocd that people think arent normal. Little rituals i like doing. I really like doing them. Just because these make me happy doesnt mean its not ocd. Make take care and listen to what your family are noticing about you? X

What is your baby doing while you're doing all this cleaning?

Cross post. If you have back pain and HG then maybe you should be relaxing a bit more and you might find you feel a bit better. This level of cleaning is seriously not normal.

blue - I originally thought you were spending hours cleaning, but it sounds now that you are doing things so quickly it probably only takes half an hour to flick over everything - which I do not think is excessive.

I know I asked before but how long do you actually spend cleaning?

As I suspected (and posted at 19.22) your baby isn't here yet.

Let's see how much you are cleaning in a few weeks / months OP.

It depends. If an emergency comes up, or you are late for something, are you able to leave it? If so, it is more likely a relaxing thing for you. But who knows? It only become a problem if you can’t function

It depends. If an emergency comes up, or you are late for something, are you able to leave it?

Yes, no issues there. It's more of a hobby than anything else!

So you have no baby yet. Maybe start cleaning less so you are ready for how your house will look with kids haha

Aren't you just nesting then? Or have you always cleaned like this before your pregnancy?

OP I think you are a bit disingenous - you say it doesn't make you anxious but that is only because you stay completely in control of it. You never ever stop your cleaning routine or allow a speck of dust to settle. You can only tell if it makes you anxious if you actually stop the intense cleaning routine. It sounds like it occupies your every waking minute.

You do feel stressed or uncomfortable with a tiny amount of dirt on carpets or toiilets - the kind of dirt most people don't even see.

When your child is a toddler or weaning as a baby they are going to be very very messy and untidy - and unless you seriously relax you are going to find that exhausting! It will be an end to your ability to completely control your environment.

Five I spend maybe two hours a day max cleaning? Not much, and what's more, I'm usually already doing something in that space whilst doing the cleaning.

For example, if there's something in the microwave, I do my surfaces for 30 seconds etc. Food done? I'm done.

Doesn't take me long.

I tend to utilise my time well. So if on the off occasion I'm watching something, i will iron whilst doing so. I enjoy the programme more if I'm ironing actually

If you are happy with it fine. But my concern is that your child hasn't arrived yet and when it does I doubt you will find time for all that cleaning no matter how much you love it. It sounds like cleaning is a hobby for you and to be honest most of my hobbies went for a burton when my children were small. A small baby takes up a ridiculous amount of time!
At the moment cleaning isn't a problem because nothing is stopping you doing it. I wonder how you will feel when you are desperate to clean up mess and you literally can't find the time.

Tru I've been like this for about 18 months or so.

I found a true passion and inner calm in cleaning and cleaning methods/sharing
Tips with others on forums and FB pages

RMC I'm well aware some of my cleaning will have to take a big back seat, and that's fine

Just like my friend no longer has the time to do pottery classes now she has a newborn DD

Seriously?!

Well I don't think that is a 'normal' amount of cleaning but if it isn't interfering with you life at all (going out, seeing friends etc) then I can't see the harm?

BTW I would have NO ackwardness if you fancied coming over for a chat and a clean of my home...

Two hours seems a long time to me blue but I should imagine time may be weighing heavily at the moment. I do the same as you, litte and often, not because I enjoy it, because I do not!

I wish you all the best with the baby and hope you do not worry about the cleaning too much when he/she is here.

Some might be an understatement. And you have said that 'cleaning keeps you calm' I think finding another way to keep you calm would probably be a good idea.

It also become a problem if you start getting frustrated with kids to the point they can’t play in your house.

Btw, I grew up in a very dirty house (no running water) , and I don’t really keep my house clean (I have pets.) and my kids and I still have allergies and asthma. It is more genetic in my opinion based on my experience

RMC by calm I mean relaxed and at true peace, like I'm in my own little wonderful bubble of pottering around, I love it!

I don't get angst when I see mess, I really don't.

I just enjoy cleaning the house and get a real kick out of 'before and afters'

I don't like sitting still for too long, I get bored and want to do something

blueberry toys don't bother me, they can be easily packed away again. It's fine, storage is key

You haven't answered why you need to clean something that is already clean?

I just like looking at an immaculate house and mess annoys me

Your words, not mine.
But if you think you it's fine then I am sure it is. I hate clean and nothing about it makes me feel calm! Takes all sorts.

The obsessive cleaning =OCD attitude pisses me off. Dd1 has OCD. She js 26 and lives at home. She is on massive doses of medication and has regular counselling. She is permanently exhausted as is afraid to sleep. Her rituals keep her awake most of the night anyway. In between battling the compulsive voices in her head, she is studying for a psychology degree through the OU. OCD is relentless, insidious, destructive and breaks my heart. Her bedroom is a tip by the way...

Op your posts are coming across a bit in denial. You are now trying to convince complete strangers online how cleaning makes you happy and you have no anxiety. Its a concern that you say cleaning started what 18 months ago? (Maybe i misread that if so sorry.) You can have mild ocd but please be careful. Child birth can apparently trigger severe ocd. Just be wary and listen when people notice stuff you havent.