To not wish to be called OCD?

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Every day I:

Clean my floors with floor wipes (twice a day, more if I see any mark etc).

Wash up as I go.

Make my beds first thing

Hoover all rooms (about 3/4 times a day)

Wash on, put a wash away

Clean kitchen surfaces (3/4 times, more if I'm using kitchen more).

Clean cupboard doors/draws

Hoover sofa

Hoover living room rug (twice)

Wipe down living room surfaces (3/4 times)

Clean toilet (3/4 times a day, sometimes more)

Clean bathroom (about twice a day top to bottom, and little wipe downs etc whenever else).

Empty bin

Wipe down bedroom furniture/dust surfaces

Every other day I:

Steam clean bathroom and kitchen. Sometimes this is every day too.

Hoover behind sofas (will do this each day if any actual messes are created).

Twice a week:

Clean out fridge

Clean inside cupboards

My Nan is apparently "worried" at the extent I'm cleaning, but I think it's healthy and normal. It keeps me calm and makes me happy. I don't believe it's extensive. "Cleaning isn't good for the soul" says DNan.

MIL has hinted I should be checked for OCD.

Personally, I find this quite offensive. OCD is a serious health issue and not one to joke about.

AIBU to clean the way I do and think it's healthy? AIBU to think it's offensive to others who really do suffer that it isn't acceptable to go around, throwing the term 'OCD' about?

Cleaning toilets 3-4 times a day sometimes more?? Seriously?? And you think all this is healthy and normal?????
If you're on maternity leave, have you actually given birth yet?? If so, do you actually spend time with your child??

If it's all so hunky dory, why are you irrationally annoyed at the mere hint from your MIL that you might possibly have OCD?

Why not eye roll and get on with your cleaning day?

It's obviously hit a raw nerve with you, for you to even consider starting this thread.

Literally takes 30 seconds to give the toilet a wipe over not difficult or time consuming. I do it when I've gone for a wee myself or something, so I'm already in there at the time

Worra Because I know how OCD and MH in general can impact people, and yes it does hit a raw nerve when people throw the term around like it's nothing

Vacuuming 3-4 times per day!! And presumably you don't have a hairy moulting dog, then how could carpets possibly accumulate dust in the couple of hours between vacuums! It's certainly obsessive... whether it classifies as OCD, I'm not qualified to say.

No one ever says on their death bed that they did too little cleaning!

Please tell me how to clean a bathroom from top to bottom in less than 5 minutes. I hate cleaning the bathroom, well to be honest I hate cleaning.

I thought you would be spending hours cleaning when I read your list.

What happens when your baby is a toddler and leaving their crap all over the place. Would you not prefer to sit down and play with your baby rather than clean all the time? What does your baby do while you clean? If you are happy then it's your life but remember life is short and spending time doing fun things is surely more important than having a freshly hovered carpet. Btw cream carpets and kids you are braver than me.

Are you going to answer any of the questions about how much time you spend with your baby?

She didn't throw the term around though did she?

She 'hinted' (your own words) that you should be 'checked' for it (again, your own words).

So why are you trying to twist what they said and make out they're throwing a term around like it's nothing?

Either you're prone to being a tad dramatic, or you're worried about getting yourself checked out.

Either way, you don't come across as someone who is really not worried about this excessive cleaning.

If you don’t feel anxious if you don’t do it, it doesn’t impact your life and you aren’t affecting others... you may be obsessive but it isn’t adversely affecting anyone so who cares?

Just because you have a mild mental difference doesn’t mean it’s problematic. Plenty of successful, effective people have mild ADHD. Race car drivers are often high in psychoticism.

I do think you might need to look at modelling to your child about what women do in life. But apart from that, could you give my bathroom a go over?

The thing is though you do not need to do it all. Most people would clean their toilet and hoover maybe once a week. You feel anxious/upset/disappointed when you're not cleaning, which is not normal.
I agree OCD can be bandied about without a care these days. If you thought that terrible things would happen to you if you didn't do it, rather than just feeling a bit upset, then that'd be more OCD. The fact that you think it IS normal and healthy makes me incline to agree with the PP who suggested OCPD. OCD sufferers know that their behaviours are excessive, but feel compelled to do them. OCPD sufferers feel that their behaviours are normal.

I don’t want to offend but your frequency of cleaning is unusual. In a day I:

Put on any wash and hang as soon as done
Wash pots as I go
Wipe surfaces once
Clean toilet if a mess, if not every 2 2 days
Vacuum every 2 days unless a mess caused and same with mopping
Dishwasher on and emptied
Bath & hob cleaned once a fortnight
Freezer every 6 months
Fridge once every 3ish months

I’m not saying this is the right way but it doesn’t interrupt my life and is easy enough. I am a housewife for now and will reduce this when employed again.

I would seek help or min a diagnosis. This does seem disordered behaviour.

No matter how you try to justify this as just something you love that doesn’t impact your life the simple fact is this is absOlutely obsessive behaviour and very likely compulsive as you feel sad if you can’t clean.

I think you’re mother in law and Nan have a point and living in a sterile environment must be hell for anyone living there with you.

I would speak to your gp.

Oh and my surfaces/cupboards/carpets are all white so I know sometimes they take extra upkeep ... but vacuuming 4x a day is just excessive

Is your baby here yet?

Although from the sounds of it you just fucking love cleaning ( wish I did) much like I like reading, cooking , or writing. If it’s a hobby then you have a right to enjoy it x

Your recent post about timings changes things. You're exceptionally quick! When I read your op, that sounded like it would take all day 100% to complete. But it sounds like you're only spending an hour or two, which is normal.
I also agree that a tidy house equals a calm mind.

I’m with your MIL and Nan. There’s being tidy and clean, which is fine and there’s hoovering 3/4 times a day along with everything else stacks up to be obsessive.

I'm not sure how it would take 5 minutes to clean a bathroom from top to bottom?

Everybody is different and after RTFT I think that one woman’s domestic drudgery is another woman’s thrilling hobby. You do you OP... if it doesn’t effect you, irritate your family, or get in your way then it’s fine.

Don't suppose you want to come and pay me a visit, do you????

I'm probably too far the other way, but no-one has died yet:

Clean my floors with floor wipes - weekly
Wash up as I go – daily, or every other day if I'm on my own
Make my beds first thing - rarely
Hoover all rooms – once a week if I'm lucky
Wash on, put a wash away – 3 loads on a Sunday, put away the following Sunday
Clean kitchen surfaces - daily
Clean cupboard doors/draws – once a month or so
Hoover sofa – once in a blue moon
Hoover living room rug – whenever the rest gets hoovered
Wipe down living room surfaces – once every few months, maybe
Clean toilet – once a week
Clean bathroom – once a week
Empty bin – when it's full, probably once a week
Wipe down bedroom furniture/dust surfaces – once in a blue moon
Steam clean bathroom and kitchen. Sometimes this is every day too. – once every few years
Hoover behind sofas – twice a year

Twice a week:
Clean out fridge – once every six months
Clean inside cupboards – once every few years

It sounds like you have OCD. That level if cleaning is not at all normal.

I'm calling reverse. You can't seriously think that this is normal or healthy. If this isn't a reverse, for the love of god buy some non-toxic method type cleaning products. I'm cringing at the thought of you breathing in cleaning spray vapours all day.

It's not normal and it does sound excessive. But if you enjoy it and it doesn't impact on family time, or ruin your childs fun, then it's all good. When your baby is older and making a mess, will you be cringing and trying to clean it up quickly while they're still playing?

To be honest your attitude has annoyed me. I have very moderate OCD that at one stage veered into severe. It was horrible and everyone I come into contact with knows about it. You seem to suggest its really offensive for someone to point out you are displaying symptoms of the disorder and acting as if shes accused you of having chlamydia