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To pick up a parcel at 8.30pm?

84 replies

CottonEyedJoe · 05/10/2017 16:31

Just got an email saying my parcels been delivered to a neighbour. I don't know them, quite a few doors down.

I'm not home from work till 8.30pm. Is this too late to knock to collect? I realllly want it, but it's not massively urgent.

AIBU to knock? Happy to be led by opinions so don't flame Grin

OP posts:
ReanimatedSGB · 05/10/2017 17:09

Check for lights on and/or signs of people being up and about/downstairs.
FWIW I used to do door-to-door market research and we were always told that 8.30 was the cut-off point for knocking on doors even if there were lights on.

eddiemairswife · 05/10/2017 17:09

Bit of elderly stereotyping going on. We don't all go to bed when it gets dark or not open the door to unexpected callers.

Evelynismyspyname · 05/10/2017 17:12

You're fine at 8:30pm op.

I'd say 7:30 am is fine too,but that's more contentious on MN.

Our neighbor opposite banged on our door at 5:30am once insisting we move our car as he was having a crane we'd had no advanced warning about arrive imminently, but he's a farmer who thinks he owns the public road knob and his nice wife apologised profusely :o

8:30pm is fine.

Wellandtrulyoutnumbered · 05/10/2017 17:12

Just a light tap. Apology for time but only now home from work. Really appreciate you taking it in. Sorry to have bothered you. Big smiles.

Evelynismyspyname · 05/10/2017 17:13

Collecting a parcel from a neighbor is totally different to door to door market research though.

pasturesgreen · 05/10/2017 17:13

Perfectly fine!

CheesyWeez · 05/10/2017 17:14

They will be expecting you... so knock! Leave a note if they don't reply, thanking them and explaining that you work late, and if it happens again to leave it in your garden

RhiannonOHara · 05/10/2017 17:15

Marking place for the dramatic conclusion.

I think 8.30 is fine.

BearsDontDigOnDancing · 05/10/2017 17:16

My dh works from home, so our house has become a bit of a delivery office. It has got to the point the delivery driver does not even ask any more, he opens the porch, bangs on the door, dumps the item in the porch before we answer and off he goes. It is rather annoying.

A couple of weeks ago he did this, and it was a box with huge signs on saying open straight away, live plants etc on it. Over a week we had that package, and everyday we knocked on the neighbours. Only they were away on holiday.

I did not know if i should bloody open it and do something or leave it. I wish they had knocked at 8.30 pm tbh!

EmmaGrundyForPM · 05/10/2017 17:16

And the OP won't be an unexpected caller. The neighbour has taken the parcel in and will be expecting her to collect it.

OP, go and knock at 8.30. 99% of people would be fine with this. You can explain why you couldn't collect it earlier and I'm sure they will be perfectly ok.

I sometimes think MN is a portal to an alternative universe. Everyone I know in RL answers the door at that time, including my 85year old neighbours.

BearsDontDigOnDancing · 05/10/2017 17:17

Although, we did once have a neighbour knock at half past midnight for a package. All the lights were off as we were in bed.

He got told to fuck off and come back in the morning.

swimster01 · 05/10/2017 17:18

I wouldn't after dark. Someone called on me after dark but I was in my pyjamas and DH was away. So I didn't answer the door.

bridgetreilly · 05/10/2017 17:19

8.30pm is perfectly reasonable.

StealthPolarBear · 05/10/2017 17:22

Op we need a diagram. Where is your door? Where is your neighbours door? Where is the parcel? I'm struggling to see it in my minds eye :o

SandyDenny · 05/10/2017 17:23

Do elderly people go to bed at 8.30? I thought you need less sleep as you get older.

SlothMama · 05/10/2017 17:31

Wouldn't bother me but I don't have children that could be disturbed!

lalalalyra · 05/10/2017 17:44

If the lights are on I'd knock the door. I'd knock, but wouldn't ring a doorbell if they have kids.

HundredYearOldMan · 05/10/2017 17:50

My neighbour (that I’ve never met) knocked at 11pm the other night for a parcel that I’d taken in for them. I thought that was pretty late! A bit Hmm

BlueButTrue · 05/10/2017 17:52

Hundred Was that my DH by any chance? Blush

MiaowMix · 05/10/2017 17:54

Does anyone (not children) actually go to bed at 8.30 at night though? It's barely the start of the evening.

Also does a doorbell/knock actually wake children up?

I live in a parallel universe tbh

WitchesHatRim · 05/10/2017 17:56

If lights are on, no problem at all.

HundredYearOldMan · 05/10/2017 18:19

Blue - no, it was a woman!

C8H10N4O2 · 05/10/2017 18:43

How old are these elderly neighbours that people expect to be in bed at 8.30pm?

It wouldn't occur to me not to knock at 8.30 unless I knew there was a specific issue which made it difficult/a problem for them.

BertrandRussell · 05/10/2017 18:53

"How old are these elderly neighbours that people expect to be in bed at 8.30pm? "

Probably about 50.........

StealthPolarBear · 05/10/2017 18:57

Oh that old?! Fair enough then if they're so ancient

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