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Original poster

To think that a regular 3 yo...

80 replies

Dancingfairy · 03/10/2017 15:17

With no sn should be able to put on a pair of trainers? not expected to do laces, simply just put on. Was 3 in March.

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Goldmandra · 03/10/2017 16:53

x2boys I understood what you meant. I also think that at times posters can be quite cutting in their responses when there's no need. X2 didn't say anything ridiculous, and aggressive responses can make posters worry about posting anything.

Me too.

Some people just get a kick out of being unpleasant. They are best ignored.

blackteasplease · 03/10/2017 16:54

Well, my 3 yo likes to put on one of his shoes (similar to a trainer) himseld and not the other one, so go figure.

notgivingin789 · 03/10/2017 16:56

Wow Migra take a fucking chill pill.

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Dancingfairy · 03/10/2017 17:03

Sorry battery went, I posted before going on the school run as he had spent 10 minutes trying to get his trainers on with no luck. I don't think it's the style of shoe as he has 3 pairs of trainers and struggles with all 3 despite the fact they are different designs. I say no sn as he is very capable in every other way and I have a dd with autism and that was very apparent from early on. It could be his feet are wide that would make the most sense as mine also are very wide. Just thought it should be something he can do by now.

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Matoo · 03/10/2017 17:03

I think my daughter would have been able to put her shoes on at 3, she just didn't want to / wasn't interested in this.

blackteasplease · 03/10/2017 17:04

No, my dd (now 9) wouldn't have wanted to be bothered either. Ds is more independent than her that way.

Fuckit2017 · 03/10/2017 17:06

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sharksDen · 03/10/2017 17:15

What's the problem OP?

Wrong feet? Toes outside of the 'entrance' of the shoe?

Whatamesshaslunch · 03/10/2017 17:29

Why do these seemingly simple posts so quickly degenerate into some sort of bitchfest? Lighten up and help a mumma out.

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Dancingfairy · 03/10/2017 17:35

It's mainly cos I have my dd who I still need to dress (she struggles with it) and a baby to dress so would be helpful if they could do some stuff themselves. Getting out the house and going anywhere takes forever.

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Spartasprout · 03/10/2017 17:45

One of my grandsons got it really quickly, around 2 years old and the second struggled until he almost started school. I think it's just something they manage in their own time. Commiserations though - it's really tough trying to get lots of little ones all ready at the same time - I remember it well, and my kids are now nearly 40 Flowers

Areyoufree · 03/10/2017 17:51

My son has only just mastered it, and he is nearly 4.

notgivingin789 · 03/10/2017 17:55

Doesn't it depend on the shoe ?

Is it just me... or are the kids Vans and the long top converses shoes hard to put on ?!!

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 03/10/2017 17:56

x2boys It's clear what you meant. Not sure why Migraleve is being such a twat to you but it isn't your fault.

Bbbbbbbb2017 · 03/10/2017 17:58

My ASD 2.10 year old can put her shoes on. All kids are different

blankface · 03/10/2017 18:06

I agree with SandSnake re hypermobility. Keep it in mind OP.

When dd was that age, wellies also were alien objects. She'd hold on to something to balance and sort of hover her foot over the welly so her toes were pointed downwards, but not complete the action by pushing her foot into it like you or I would do.

Have you talked him through all the actions he needs to do to put them on?

Watch him carefully next time he's struggling and if you think there's concern, ask for an Occupational Therapy or Physio appointment so they can see if it's hypermobility or not.

bumblebee77 · 03/10/2017 18:14

Depends on:
The shoes.
The child's willingness to comply.
Motor control development (a child may appear well developed in other ways and still have a motor delay)
Mood of the child on any given day.

Probably most can, but no cause for alarm or judgement if they don't.

Is this your child op?

EvilDoctorBallerinaDuckKeidis · 03/10/2017 18:15

YANBU.

hazeyjane · 03/10/2017 18:19

Lots of the 3 year olds I work with (some with additional needs, some without) wouldn't be able to.

Chocolatechops84 · 03/10/2017 18:23

Hmm... yes, but possibly not always on the right feet.

Cakescakescakes · 03/10/2017 18:29

My 3 yr old needs help. I also have an older child with SN so have no idea what the norm is. My youngest is definitely NT but just not overly co-ordinated!

Migraleve · 03/10/2017 18:32

Not sure why Migraleve is being such a twat to you but it isn't your fault.

Oh dear. Another one mistaking an opinion for a personal attack.

I wasn’t being anything to the poster. I simply took their comment at face value, as I do with anything I read on here.

Spartasprout · 03/10/2017 18:41

Your personal opinion is that x2 was being ridiculous. My personal opinion is that you came across as nasty and opinionated. Don't think I'm the only one who thought that. Just my personal opinion though.

Migraleve · 03/10/2017 18:44

Ok. But I’m quite sure I’m not the only one who thinks it’s ridiculous to suggest that because one child can do something ALL children of the same age should be able to. In fact plenty of people have given examples of variations in ability on this thread.

Slippersandacuppa · 03/10/2017 18:48

Nope, my son had issues with his tendons and has narrow heels so it's a real struggle to get them on. He can get his crocs and wellies on though Smile