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What would you tell yourself in your thirties?

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splendidisolation · 02/10/2017 20:26

Shamelessly stealing the other OP's thread about your twenties.

You hear that quite often, "what I would tell.my youger self", generally aimed at the you you were in your twenties.

But what would you tell you in your thirties, in retrospect?

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Jakeyboy1 · 02/10/2017 21:37

Don't eat all the cake when pregnant.

ocelot41 · 02/10/2017 21:41

If you love it, hang the fuck onto some semblance of your career. It's very, very hard to get back in if you let go now. But my god, is it tough with young kids!

MumsOnCrack · 02/10/2017 21:44

Placemarking at 36 and a half yrs old

Orchidflower1 · 02/10/2017 21:47

You don't have to do everything- you can say no I'm too busy. It does not matter if the bathroom floor is not washed.

When people say " treasure the new born moments - they change so quickly" they are not being annoying when you're tired, it really is true!

histinyhandsarefrozen · 02/10/2017 21:49

You look fantastic!

gloriawasright · 02/10/2017 21:49

You are not fat ,you'll know what fat is when you reach 53, but the couple of stone extra you are carrying is small change compared to what you are going to carry 20 years on 😓

shooeghMcFee · 02/10/2017 21:51

You're gorgeous!

SquidgeyMidgey · 02/10/2017 21:51

I'm near the end of 30s but I would tell my newly 30 self to chill the fuck out, ignore the bitches only in my life because we have children of the same age, and get on Facebook sooner for all the cute German shepherd puppy pictures.

NextIndia · 02/10/2017 21:54

Hold onto your hat. It’s going to be a bumpy ride....

HainaultViaNewburyPark · 02/10/2017 21:55

You really need to start doing something about your pension now - even if you only save a little bit each month.

It's really worth doing some regular exercise. I'm afraid you're going to find it more difficult to maintain a healthy weight once you hit 40.

You're probably not even halfway through your working life. Don't be afraid to re-train and try something new.

Juststopit · 02/10/2017 21:56

Leave him! You think he’s a boring fart now wait until he’s in his forties! Boring and he doesn’t love you! Go on go now.

VioletCharlotte · 02/10/2017 21:58

30's...
Make the most of your kids while they're small, they'll grow up too soon.
Don't take out that loan or get that credit card.
Stop making excuses for that fuck wit of an ex. Cut contact and stop taking his crap.
Stay single, you need to build up your confidence and self esteem.
That man is bad news, stay away from him.
Those new friends you've made are true friends and will stick with you through thick and thin.
Spend as much time as you can with your grandparents, they won't be here much longer.

AnnabelleLecter · 02/10/2017 22:01

These relate to each other but so glad I did them:
Keep going to work at least part time
Overpay your mortgage if possible
If you haven't already, start your pension

acarnamedwanda · 02/10/2017 22:04

VioletCharlotte it is like you have written that post for me. I'm an emotional wreck today and that has just set me off again. I turn 33 next Tuesday and I needed to read that post Smile

catsoup · 02/10/2017 22:05

Aww great thread. I'll watch with interest at 34 years old.

Nettletheelf · 02/10/2017 22:07

Make the most of your foxiest decade.

Don't listen to people who tell you that being over 30 and unmarried puts you at a disadvantage and all the good men have been 'snapped up'. It doesn't, they haven't, and the people telling you those things are envious of your life of freedom.

dailydance · 02/10/2017 22:07

I would tell my 30s self to avoid online dating

VioletCharlotte · 02/10/2017 22:07

Ah Wanda sorry to have upset you. My life was pretty shit in my 30's too... it does get better I promise, hang on in there Flowers

BossyBitch · 02/10/2017 22:09

Why exactly are you putting up with all this crap, again? You have other options!

I'm currently in my 30s, BTW. Turns out self-awareness isn't quite enough ...

And, Violet, yes!!! My last grandparent died earlier this year. I couldn't make it the last time I meant to go visit because ... ultimately trivial reasons. I'm so sorry I didn't!

cailisto · 02/10/2017 22:10

To leave and start again...
Even though you love each other, it’s not going to really improve.
That you’re still young enough to start again, if you wish to.
That you can be a parent on your own and that’s better than parenting with a hardly-there spouse.

melonribenia · 02/10/2017 22:11

I'm 36 and struggling to work part time and juggle two young kids. I needed this as a reminder to keep going. Thank you

acarnamedwanda · 02/10/2017 22:12

No please don't apologise Violet! They were not all bad tears. Just one of those days today and that post very much summer up all I have had hanging around in my head for so long Smile

youhavetobekidding · 02/10/2017 22:13

Don't put up with sh*t because you're worried about being single

Shockers · 02/10/2017 22:16

Make sure you've started a pension!

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splendidisolation · 02/10/2017 22:21

Loving reading these! Everyones different but my mum (now in her 60s) said her 30s were her best decade. Said she had more confidence and money than in her 20s despite having kids

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