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What would you tell yourself in your thirties?

84 replies

splendidisolation · 02/10/2017 20:26

Shamelessly stealing the other OP's thread about your twenties.

You hear that quite often, "what I would tell.my youger self", generally aimed at the you you were in your twenties.

But what would you tell you in your thirties, in retrospect?

OP posts:
JillyWillyPops · 02/10/2017 22:23

I’m only 38 but I’d tell my early - mid 30 self that the grass is not always greener.

Yes leave him but don’t jump from the frying pan into the fire, it’ll only make more of a mess.

Find out who you really are, be more confident and get out there, opportunities may pass you by if you don’t snap them up while you can.

Smile
Bumpsadaisie · 02/10/2017 22:30

Before you have a baby, spend a year getting fit!

Original poster
splendidisolation · 02/10/2017 22:31

@Bumpsadaisie

How come?!

OP posts:
EmpressOfTheSpartacusOceans · 02/10/2017 22:36

Stay single. Get out and exercise more. And don't assume you can stay in the same job forever.

Jasminedes · 02/10/2017 22:37

Keep working hard (on raising the children and keeping your career going) and you will reap the rewards in the future.

Mrswinkler · 02/10/2017 22:47

No, you don’t need to have a child, you’ll only regret it.

tsarista · 02/10/2017 22:50

-put more money in that pension!
-pin the relatives down to give you family history before they die. Preferably record their voices and faces. You will never regret this.
-don't let fear hold you back

HatieCockpins · 02/10/2017 22:53

It's not normal to feel like this. Go to the doctors, you will not be wasting their time and they will be able to help.
Also, despite the health issues, don't worry. You will enjoy your 30s so much more than the car crash that was your 20s!

thenightsky · 02/10/2017 22:56

Pay more into your pension if you can.

Get fit. Get slim. It will twice as hard to do this when you pass 40. And damn near impossible past 50.

Stretch a lot. Keep your flexibility.

ChickenVindaloo2 · 02/10/2017 23:52

Address the alcohol issue now!

Graphista · 03/10/2017 00:09

You're NOT fat you look great enjoy it while it lasts.

Say yes to the gorgeous younger guy that just asked you out. You deserve happiness he's a good man and not every man is like your ex and will cheat.

Cut yourself some slack or you WILL make yourself ill.

Shag who you want! Safely of course. But you're single and at uni bloody enjoy it!

MyBrilliantDisguise · 03/10/2017 00:12

Join a running club, get out of teaching and leave that stupid bastard you married.

VanellopeVonSchweetz99 · 03/10/2017 00:21

Your skin is AMAZING, look after it. Trust me on the sun screen, don't forget neck, chest and hands.
You are not too old to conceive so don't rush into having kids.
You can and will re-train and go after your dream career.
Nobody on their death bed wishes they would have spent more time cleaning.
There are thousands of lovely potential life partners out there, don't waste another minute on shits people who are not that into you and don't treat you like the queen you are.
When you feel your self confidence is low, pretend you're a middle aged middle class white male.
Shy bairns get nowt.

80sMum · 03/10/2017 00:22

I would tell my 30s self:
"You are NOT old, you are YOUNG! Make the most of it!

VanellopeVonSchweetz99 · 03/10/2017 00:25

P.S: Look after your finances. Really Fucking Look After Your Finances.

MumBod · 03/10/2017 05:08

Woah, missus - brace yourself.

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 03/10/2017 05:38

Fuck fear! Don't be contained by others opinions who you don't care for. Be aware of who, really, really matters.

Spend more time with lovely older relatives - they won't be here soon. Ask those questions- your family history is in their heads. Jist spend time with them!

Have more fun! Don't over invest in career to the detriment of everything else.

Do as much education as you want and can afford.

Don't waste your precious time on others who dont/won't reciprocate.

Make your unique mistakes - you'll sort them out.

This, soon will pass!

hungrytillater · 03/10/2017 05:49

You will live forever with the decisions you make now.
Be strong.
Look after your teeth.

ChocolatePHD · 03/10/2017 07:02

If your gut tells you you don't want to do something/ see someone then don't do it. You're not happy with it for a reason!

Mummyoflittledragon · 03/10/2017 07:12

You look beautiful. Your body is not going to get better. Stop spending all your money, save and invest as ill health could be round the corner (mid 40’s been chronically ill for 6+ years). Invest in your future, pension, pay off your mortgage. Have great holidays but don’t spend money like water. Your children don’t need to be in matching John Lewis/Boden etc. Exercise and eat well. Seek counselling if you are unhappy.

Lostin3dspace · 03/10/2017 07:15

Leave the Bastard. He isn't the love of your life, he is a selfish twat who will take the best decade of your adult life for himself and give nothing in return

Crispsheets · 03/10/2017 07:15

You don't have to get married simply because you feel you should.
You don't have to have children either

Natsku · 03/10/2017 07:15

Just turned 31 so reading this with interest and slight fear!

yestheyhavethesamedad · 03/10/2017 07:16

Im almost 40 but i would tell myself dont take him back, if he cheats once he will again and again and despite what he said , no it wasn't your fault

theworldaccordingtome · 03/10/2017 07:25

I'm 30 this week, so this thread couldn't have arrived at a better time for me. Thank you!