To expect her to pay me before she gets the item?

[Saltandpepperpig]

I'm really annoyed and don't know if IBU or not.

Went somewhere early last week which sells an item that you can't get where we live. Told my friend I was going and she asked me to get an item for her, which I did and sent her a picture of the receipt straight away.

It was expensive (£250) and I'm not well off at the moment. I got the item last Monday, I'm seeing her next Tuesday. So two weeks after buying the item.

I text her saying 'Hi X, got your item here you're free to pick it up but I'm not going to have a chance to drop it till I see you next. Would you be able to send the money over as times are hard at the moment and I'm struggling. Thanks xx'

She replied 'I'll transfer you the money when I see you when you give me the item x'

She is not hard up, AT ALL and I know this 100%. She 100% knows that I am.

So AIBU to expect her to pay me before she gets the item considering I got it as a favour to her and am struggling myself? What do I say?

Small claims court??

Bit of a dramatic overreaction eh?

Id just fucking call her and talk to her like an adult instead of texting. If you need the cash in less than the week til you see her anyway, then arrange to see her earlier or she does a bank transfer or whatever

It depends whether this "friend" refuses to pay or not.

If they pay up - fine. If they refuse, or change their mind about the item, what else do you suggest.

Cheeky mare.

Can you drop the item over to her tonight, and get the money? Then never do her a favour again.

Could she not have ordered this item online, or given you the money for it before you bought it?

Please just drop her a line asking her to come and get it. Ask her when the soonest she can come is, as you could do with the cash. Make sure it's cash!

What a bitch! Don’t do her a favour again

A good piece of advice for future requests (with any friend) is to call them and say, "Right, I'm here and will buy the item when you give me the go ahead. Here's my bank details. Just transfer the cash now so I can buy it". I've done that before. Money transfer is instant and you're not being used for essentially, credit.

I'd be careful the return to store period doesn't expire and then you won't be able to return it!

There is no way in HELL I would get a £250 item for someone without getting the money for it first.

Never.

EVER.

Not paying you til she gets the item?

The cheeky mare should have given you the money FIRST! Especially as she asked you to get it.

What a fucking nerve.

What was it by the way?

The salient piece of information the naysayers are neglecting to acknowledge, is that the 'friend' of the OP asked her to get the item so yeah too fucking right the OP is entitled to the money pronto!

Blimey, I wouldn't have bought something that cost £250 without payment up front, no matter how good a friend they were. I just couldn't afford it, and it sounds like you couldn't either OP.

I also wouldn't expect a friend to pay out that much for something I'd asked them to get. I'd give them the money first.

I can only echo what others have said, don't let her have the item until the cash is in your hand/bank.

Good grief! I'd tell her you'll have to stick it on eBay for the money if she doesn't transfer it within 24hrs

I'd be livid about this. Cheeky fucker!

If she hasn't replied, phone her OP. Say you were clear about needing the money now and if she wants the item first, then it's on her to collect it earlier seeing as you have already done her a massive favour. Pisstaking fuckface!

What does she expect you to do with the item if it doesn't meet her approval? Not as if it's a quick trip back to the shop. She is being a right dickhead.