Asking DH not to go on a work trip

[sizeofalentil]

I'm really not sure if I would BU to do this…

DH's boss has to go on a work trip abroad for one week, but doesn't want to go, so has asked DH to go instead of him. And DH has asked me if I'd mind or not.

Trouble is, I'll be around 32-34wks pregnant at the time of the trip. So not sure I want DH to be a 2hr train ride, 10hr flight, then however long away from the airport at the other end he'd be, journey away from me in case something happens.

I'm 28 wks pregnant and he's on a work trip now, returning when I'm 29 wks, but feel like this is my cut off point.

WIBU to ask him not to go? He won't be penalised work-wise if he doesn't go, but obviously going would put him in the good books.

Hate that DH + boss have said it's up to me to decide!

Plot twist: have spent most of today in A&E and the Maternity Triage after having an accident this morning (don't want to say what happened, as it's quite niche and identifying… But am happy to prove it to Mumsnet HQ should anyone need verification).

All fine, but turns out I have an unrelated underlying health condition that I wasn't aware of.

So, literally the worst I was fearing actually happened - and today. And it wasn't that bad: just got an Uber to the hospital and was treated and home within 5 hrs. The sky didn't fall down, and I coped. Probably better than if I'd had DH with me. I took a book to keep me calm instead.

Am not going to tell DH about this until he is home from his trip, or he'll fret. But has made me realise I'll be fine on my own for a week.

I'd be fine with it at that gestation personally

Lentil!!! Oh my goodness! You're a superstar. You really are. Well done you!!!

Get into bed early tonight with everything you need to spoil yourself rotten and enjoy!!!!!!

i think its quite reasonable for him not to go, since he doesnt want to go, and you dont want him to and he wont be penalised for not going,

sounds like a no brainer to me

Glad all was ok today. You would cope fine if he had to go but it doesn’t sound like this is very important.

If he did miss the birth then it would be a case of “yes dh missed the birth of his first child for a work trip that he didn’t need to do and nobody seemed to fussed about”.

Oh for today. You are much easier going than I am. I was an early baby (only 5 weeks) and dd1 was a 32 weeker so I wouldn't have been keen on DH going anywhere. Mind you when you have to cope you just get on with it (like you did today) so I hope all goes well til he's back