To think a 40 minute drive is too far for a commute?

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DD is 20 and is planning on going to uni next year. Her favourite uni is a 40 minute drive away. She would like to stay at home.

AIBU to think it's too far?

Jesus Christ ! Stoppit op or you'll turn her into one of those people who expects jobs to rock up on her doorstep!

I stayed in uni accomodation, some of my lectures were in a campus that was an hour away by uni bus in rush hour! 40 mins is local! Some campuses of the SAME uni are that far apart!

Ds's school many children have over an hour there and back every day on school buses. Our DS lives a ten minute drive away. On school bus it takes 45 mins

I've never had a commute that was under an hour's drive in any job I've ever had. 40 minutes is nothing.

"I'm reading this and suspecting that poor OP thought that when DD started uni she would be moving out and OP would be getting her house back wink"

Me too!

Why are people comparing it to a job commute?? Uni for most people isn't like a job where you do your hours then leave and your social life isn't connected to it. Approaching uni like it's just a job and her fellow students are colleagues rather than potential friends, can work if all you want to get from the experience is a qualification, but that does seem like a waste of a great life opportunity.

40 minute drive is probably going to mean that taxis are going to be prohibitably expensive, and public transport could easily take 90minutes or more. This means she's not going to socialise at uni. societies, clubs, they are going to be hard to be involved in.

Are halls a possibility? At least for the first year.

Not too far. I know people who travel longer than that from their halls

That's great considering no rent to pay !

No, not too far.

My SC commute 40 mins to school. I know several people who commute at least 40 mins to the uni 3rd nearest to us.

Since she's a bit older than the others (and presumably already has a group of friends at home?), so wont feel she's missing out on the social aspect, I think it is fine. Many students during my undergrad had this length (London uni), myself included.

I have a 45 minuite drive to take my son to school every day! (Rural area, 25 mins to bus stop for school transport so easier to carry on) by the time I go there and back, there and back that is 3 hours out of my day! 40 mins just there and back would be bliss! I work from home now, thanks to the joys of modern tech and only have to go to head office two or three times a month but when I did have to go in every day it was over an hour each way.

The 40 mins isn't an issue in itself. Missing out socially by not being on campus might be. But if your DD wants to stay home, unless you hate the idea of her still living with you, it's up to her, really.

I have lots of friends who I have made as adults but I don't have the same bong with as I do with my uni friends- they are more like family than friends. The way I have looked after them and them after me - when people had a sickness bug or mental health problems or were grieving- we became close far faster than I have done with my friends I haven't lived with. I have the odd post uni friend where I feel the same way but it took a longer while!

Not too long at all for a commute but she might find it difficult to fit in socially if the majority of students are in halls close by to the uni.

No it's not too far if we're only thinking about the practicalities of getting to lectures, but it will make it hard for her to join in with the social activities. And when she gets more academic work, she'll need access to the library as well, she will need to stay later when she starts having essays to do.

I think she'll be missing out socially by commuting, for me it was a great experience being in halls.