DS2 was born on Sept 11th. It soon became clear that there was something wrong and he was rushed by ambulance to a NICU 100 miles away for emergency surgery. DH was able to go with him straight away but I had to stay in hospital for 24 hours first as I had a c section. The surgery was thankfully life saving.
Yesterday, we finally got to take him home after over two of the most stressful weeks of my life. I feel emotionally and physically exhausted, and I know that I've been doing more than I should after a c section. We've also been finally reunited with DS1 properly after missing him like crazy.
Now we are home, everyone wants to come round and see the baby but I just don't feel up to it. I want to hug both of my children and try to come to terms with what has happened in peace and try to accept it. DS2's surgery was on his digestive system and I'm worried about feeding and weight gain and don't feel comfortable feeding him in front of others and pretending everything is fine.
My family are fine with giving us some space but DHs family are hassling us even though he has politely explained why we need some time. Both sets of grandparents visited him in NICU but haven't held him yet. I can understand that they want to see their grandchild/nephew, but they have the attitude of 'that's all done and it's fine now' even though we have explained the long term implications. I'm not ready to pretend that everything is normal yet and having visitors with gifts etc feels false after everything that has happened.
AIBU to keep saying no?