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Original poster

If someone told you that you 'shoot from the hip'

108 replies

TiesThatBindMe · 27/09/2017 06:43

Would you consider it a compliment or a criticism?

Context (a guy I was dating and I can't remember what I had said).

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Penny4UrThoughts · 27/09/2017 08:02

Oh dear op. See you keep saying that's the context, while saying you can't remember the context. See, the context is why he said it, not when. And you can't remember why. Because you can't remember what you said.

(so this is what mansplaining feels like!)

catiinbo0ts · 27/09/2017 08:05

OP do you understand what the word context means?

Papafran · 27/09/2017 08:05

The context was 'I can't remember what I had said'. To a guy I was dating. Holy Mother of God but you lot aren't the brightest sparks this early in the morning. Coffee anyone?

Pissing myself at the fact that you think that you saying you can't remember the context, is in fact you describing the context. I would say you're the one who is not the brightest spark, whether early or late.

catiinbo0ts · 27/09/2017 08:05

You haven't provided any context. Just given the situation of the comment

WizardOfToss · 27/09/2017 08:06

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MudCity · 27/09/2017 08:07

It means you react without thinking of the consequences and without regard for others.

Take that as you will but I would take that as a negative.

You are clearly rude and it is embarrassing to read your posts.

Papafran · 27/09/2017 08:07

You haven't provided any context. Just given the situation of the comment

Well, hardly even that. All she has done is tell us who said it. Which is precisely zero help.

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TiesThatBindMe · 27/09/2017 08:08

I feel like I'm at English class.

Now. Back to the original question...........

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Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 27/09/2017 08:08

Australians apparently use it to mean talks frankly/directly though

It DOES NOT mean straight talking

Baggsy you tell the Australians Grin

Original poster
TiesThatBindMe · 27/09/2017 08:09

MudCity How in God's good name is it embarrassing for you to read my posts? Do you feel filthy and unworthy for reading them? Is your boss looking over your shoulder while you read them?

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Penny4UrThoughts · 27/09/2017 08:11

Ties, once we have context we would be able to give you a more accurate answer.

In the context of this thread - it was probably not a compliment.

Hth.

(this thread has fairly brightened up a grey Wednesday morning!)

MoralBeryl · 27/09/2017 08:13

'Is there a trampoline on MN*

Grin Snigger [not a compliment]

ColossalKalamari · 27/09/2017 08:14

Shoot from the hip is never a compliment. And since you didn't even know what rebuke means I'd say it's probably you who isn't the brightest spark, in addition to being rude and aggressive

Fantasticmissfoxy · 27/09/2017 08:15

Sounds like he was slightly intimidated by you. A depressing number of men have a problem with women who have opinions.....

LittleLionMansMummy · 27/09/2017 08:17

Before reading your responses op, I'd have said it's a compliment and means you're direct and make your point succinctly and clearly. But that's quite a good trait - I myself do not so this and admire those who do. I would say that shooting from the hip goes hand in hand with inner confidence and assertiveness.

Having seen your replies here though I think he meant something else entirely and most definitely didn't mean it as a compliment.

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TiesThatBindMe · 27/09/2017 08:18

Fantasticmissfoxy I do have an abundance of opinions. My daughter has too which I see as a strength, not a failing. Until I argue with her.

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Horsemad · 27/09/2017 08:18

Oh Dear OP. You are trying too hard to be amusing...

Fantasticmissfoxy · 27/09/2017 08:19

Re read this and yes, what Littlelionsmamma has said is spot on.

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TiesThatBindMe · 27/09/2017 08:21

Ok, so I'm abrupt or something. Abrasive? Rude (100% vote for that).

Fair enough.

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Catsize · 27/09/2017 08:24

I think the dated guy had a lucky escape from the OP's hips.

timeisnotaline · 27/09/2017 08:25

No one is jumping to conclusions. They are progressing by logical steps based on information provided ( ie your updates) to a very natural conclusion.

Also, you made some later comment about him being frightened (frightened in a jokey way I believe) of you or similar, I don't have the exact comment. So you do have context. Perhaps you could have provided it instead of being rude.

pullingmyhairout1 · 27/09/2017 08:26

Ties I think we'd get along. I also shoot from the hip. No point in flowering stuff up. It is what it is and I can't bullshit anyone. Funnily enough I have 'true' friends. A great client base at work who know I'll be straight, and make my opinions known. Most people tell me it's refreshing.

I'm not one to care about other peoples opinions generally unless I have to consider their wants and needs.

thethoughtfox · 27/09/2017 08:26

I would take is as compliment: you are a straight talker and don't take shit.

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TiesThatBindMe · 27/09/2017 08:29

'Rude' is a very mild REBUKE where I come from mainly referring to someone using swear words or rude words (usually a child, otherwise swear words would be used in our criticism of them. It suffices to say that 'rude' wouldn't be one of them). We don't get the English 'rude' definition.

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Ginslinger · 27/09/2017 08:31

I always think it means straight talking and in the context it was used I would see it as one of those ways some men have of telling women they should get back to fawning over them.