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AIBU?

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To think the reason I can't get divorced is ridiculous?

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user1487175389 · 26/09/2017 14:32

Me ex wants me to hand over a rare vinyl I'm not even sure I have anymore. Or he won't agree to the financial arrangements. It cost about £10 when we bought it about 7 years ago.

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DontCallMeCharlotte · 26/09/2017 18:54

@ParadiseCity That's genius!

My ex and I squabbles for ages over T'Pau's second album "you have it" "no YOU have it.. "
I have a collection of 80's vinyl in truly appalling condition. You're welcome to any of that. Especially T'Pau (I lost).

Elendon · 26/09/2017 18:58

Oh and I used to be asked endlessly if I was Wendy Smith in Prefab Sprout, which is one of the reasons he bought it. Way back in the day, certainly not now. Strangely the OW did look like her!

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user1487175389 · 26/09/2017 21:39

Loving the 'Winner Takes it All' idea!

It's in crap condition anyway if I recall correctly - and I know he has a copy of it on CD anyway.

I've been trying to get through to my solicitor/ his solicitor with the 'i can't give you what I don't have' thing for what feels like months. And he's the one screaming at me in the street to 'just divorce him' when he drops the kids off. (I've told my solicitor this and she doesn't even comment). So why is he being such a petulant arse over a flipping record?

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donajimena · 26/09/2017 21:44

Yep fridge definitely for DJ purposes. You can't put on a Northern Soul night unless you play the 'original' label. The 1972 reissue simply won't do. This drives the prices up to bonkers levels!

Hassled · 26/09/2017 21:48

Are you sure you can't give us a whisper of a hint of what it is? I have a load of old vinyl in the garage - if it would help you divorce the tosser it's yours. And yes, your solicitor sounds crap.

PorpoisefullyObtuse · 26/09/2017 22:19

Am I the only one wondering what it is and hoping it's something utterly naff. For my own amusement I assume it's bewitched, c'est la vie?

emmyrose2000 · 27/09/2017 02:31

Your lawyer is an absolute useless idiot. I'd get rid of them.

I can see why you're divorcing the dickhead.

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user1487175389 · 27/09/2017 09:34

Sorry guys. I can however reveal that he once said his favourite song was 'Love Is All Around' by WetWetWet however. Gives you an idea of his taste.

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BorisTrumpsHair · 27/09/2017 09:40

deffo not Northern Soul then.

I'm guessing its a coloured 12" EP of "Rio" by Duran Duran now :)

Tell him/them you don't have it/can't find it, but if it ever turns up he's welcome to it. Surely it's his responsibility to look after his own stuff, not yours?

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user1487175389 · 27/09/2017 09:42

porpoisefully I wish that was it. He does love Britney Spears 'Baby One More Time' though.

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JemimaLovesHamble · 27/09/2017 09:56

Please do put out a facebook request among your friends and family. "Hi guys, ex will not consent to divorce me until I reunite him with his precious copy of Martine McCutcheon's "This is my Moment" on vinyl. If anyone can help, please get in touch xxx"

Dooooo eeeeeettttt!

TheABC · 27/09/2017 09:58

Congratulations on getting this idiot out of your life.

Justaboy · 27/09/2017 10:12

It - if it is rare and in mint condition could be worth several thousand or more even, but it does seem he is being an arse in this case. But who's to say who has it he could have kept it and is accusing you of having it or some such malarkey and will want compensation or some such.

Probably best to ask him what title it was etc and let your solicitor know but it seem to me its got "try on" all over it!

BitOutOfPractice · 27/09/2017 10:30

So why is he being such a petulant arse over a flipping record?

Just a guess but I'd say it's because he's a petulant arse?

guilty100 · 27/09/2017 10:33

People seem to get attached to one thing and it becomes a kind of symbol of victory for them. He probably thinks you're deliberately withholding his beloved copy of Duran Duran's first album to spite him, and needs this pyrrhic victory to be able to let go. I'd just get a copy and let him have his little moment; he'll quickly realise it's all empty and meaningless after all. Stuff is just stuff, it can be replaced. Every day you stay married to him can't be re-run.

mummmy2017 · 27/09/2017 11:56

Write a letter to his solicitor.
Say this...

Dear Mr X

With regard to the request for LP by xxx
My solicitor says this is not an item she will be detailing with , so ask you not to contact her in this matter.
I have searched everywhere for this item and genuinely can't find the item and think it must have be donated to the charity shop during the time we were currently cohabiting, should this item turn up at a future date I fully intend to return said item.
I enclose the message request for said item and in return request you present this letter to the judge as an acknowledgement of my efforts to comply with my ex husbands request for it's return.
Yours sincerely.
Mrs X

NeedsAsockamnesty · 27/09/2017 11:57

It's going to be new kids on the block hanging tough

guilty100 · 27/09/2017 11:59

My money's on Bros.

tribpot · 27/09/2017 16:44

Sam Fox?

liquidrevolution · 27/09/2017 16:51

A-Ha?

I really need to know.

I cleared out a load of vinyl a few years back and found an LP by the band Patsy Kensit was in. My sister swears it wasn't hers and it definitely wasn't mine (I had a lot of Depeche Mode albumns). Perplexing.

Anyhow if it was that album. sorry I chucked it.

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user1487175389 · 27/09/2017 16:58

I was thinking he might settle for 'Somewhere in My Heart' by Aztec Camera. But actually, that song would give entirely the wrong message

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